Clone,
bascially, "Interest' is directly related to the Degree of Emotional Investment a person is willing to have for you.
Attraction may not be a choice, but 'INTEREST" certainly IS.
Be careful of showing Interest too early, but never be ashamed to show you are attracted to a woman.
You want to show her you are attracted to her, and not in the least bit concerned, or anxious or worried about it.
Never be nervous about showing your attraction for a woman.
However, YOUR 'interest' MUST be EARNED by her.
Do not throw your heart away to just any woman.
Do not expect that a woman who may think you're cute and give you her number is "INTERESTED" in you exactly.
She may need more information. Or needs to shake off some other guy first. Who knows really?
But a phone number does NOT equal 'high interest'.
And never get so worked up over a woman whom you just met.
This communicates neediness, and lack of mature perspective.
You will eventually sub communicate this to her.
Then the sh*t tests will come as she begins to doubt you.
The idea of shwoing your gradual interest is simply a mature manner of dealing with romantic affairs of Adults.
You do not wear your heart on your sleeve, and just 'fall in love' and throw your heart to just any woman. Its not mature, healthy, and certainly not masculine.
You need strong self discipline though.
And you need to be strong in all your affairs of the heart.
It is YOUR heart after all.
And without properly respecting it and honoring it, you will set yourself up for more heartbreak than you need to.
Remeber the rule to SOI when she gives you something of Value to you, personally.
If you like Star Wars movies, and during your light, casual but flirtatious conversation she says that she likes Star Wars movies too..then you IOI.
You strike the chord of commonality.
And tell her that YOU 'like it'.
"Thats so cool that you like Star Wars. I didnt figure you for being a SW fan, but I reaized that I like you more and more the more I find out things about you. I like that about you. Tell me more about yourself..."
And simply go deep into the 'getting to know you', because all of a sudden this random cute chick, has just revealed something special about herself that resonates with YOU.
Let her know that.
THEN, when you tell her how glad you are to have met her, and find her so interesting and attractive..THEN you can escalate Naturally.Because she will KNOW that you 'like' her, and she will know WHY you like her. And feel more trusting and relaxed with it, because it MAKES SENSE to.
Her: "So the other day I was reading Tolle's The Power of Now...and I thought to myself.."
(interrupts)
"Whoah..you read Eckhart Tolle??!"
Her: (amused) "Yeah, why??"
"Because I think that is totally hot, that's why!! Damn, girl ...sexy, smart and spiritual. You've got me thinking naughty thoughts all of a sudden....tell me more..."
Her: (smiling and giggling) "Well, it's just that yada yada yada..."
That is showing your attraction and burgeoning interst.
All of a sudden this normal conversation, gets hot.
And you start to really relax and enjoy this exchange with this sexy woman..who is sexy and attractive to YOU..that's the only thing that matters.
You then continue, until you just realize :"Man, I have GOT to get together with this woman! She is amazing!!"
"Listen, I have really enjoyed meeting you and chatting and getting to know you. I really want to do this again with you. Where can I reach you? Whats your cellphone number?"
It feels easy and natural.
Because IT IS easy and natural.
Now, during that whole time it is usually best to assume her attraction to YOU, but NOT her 'interest' right now...
that needs to be seen. And felt.
This is that moment where the ball is in her court, and she as the independent woman that she is, decides what she is going to do with you...for now...
Remember, if it is simply not fun to interact with her, and she gives you nothing of value, asking for her number to meet up later is unnatural and awkward.
So dont display your 'Interest' to women who haven't EARNED it from you.
Other than that, she really IS just this random chick that you think is cute, but you don't know much about her...
...so it's crazy to go overboard with flowers and all these things, when she could be a serial killer or something.
Honor and respect your inner emotional resources.
Your Love and affection, time and patience, tenderness and compassion...
....ARE NOT FREE.
They do come at a price.
Show her you think she's cute.
But don't go overboard and start talking about when you guys 'get married' or things like that.
And compliment her genuinely, and don't go overboard.
It's no problem to tell you think she's gorgeous, but once is enough.
It's normal to tell her you like her smile.The way she laughs.
How sexy and soft her skin is.
But never with such an emotional attachment in the early stages that you lose perspective....
Dont do this out of fear.
Do it because this is what mature men DO.
We dont throw away our resources to just ANYONE.
This is the basic premise of 'not showing Interest' too early, especially if it is not DESERVED and she did NOTHING to EARN it from you.
