Mjolnir21
Don Juan
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A FELLOW MAN IN DESPERATE NEED OF HELP.
Before you continue reading my post, please know I'm not an AFC. In all honesty, I was just outsmarted.
I have read TRM, participated in this forum and have had my fair share of trysts.
I'll try to keep it short; background: I'm a 22 y/o straight male currently enrolled in uni and working part-time as a bartender. I have a friend M20 who i met, him and i then met a girl who is 19 y/o. I never had an interest in her, she is attractive, but I didn't feel like it, plus I had a few plates.
So my homeboy jumped in. He secured and they dated strongly for a year, however, he would get caught doing stupid stuff (Sliding into DMs, kissing 1 girl ) he is sort of a sub that likes being reprimanded and babied (only child + spoilt). He is also kind of a *****.
She and i grew close as friends but never did anything out of respect for my friend. Towards the end of 2023 this guy started going behind my back to bad mouth me to her and others. He was always insecure of my friendship with her, but i went out of my way to make him feel secure by keeping my distance, making him look good in front of her and encouraging her to stay with him.
As time went on, my mental health began to deteriorate. I couldn't exactly distance myself; we all go to the same school, I work with the F19, and we live in a small city; we are all minorities(basketball people), and we have the same circles. Looking back on it, I could've just gone MIA, but I enjoy being social.
So after my mental health began to go down, i felt betrayed because he began talking **** about me to her and our mutuals. This is where it gets interesting and you might begin to get frustrated.
Im a bit of a sadist and machiavellian. Im not an *******, but i have the ability to inflict mental and physical harm if need be. So i learnt what turns her on by accidentally grazing by and bumping into her at work. When they separated as they always do and get back together. I slid in and smashed. HARD. And because we were homies i knew what he did in bed.( sort of vanilla/sub stuff). He was her first. I introduced her to **** and tunred her into a nympho.
He left the country for 2 months. This F19 and i continued and she left him for good. I slipped up and opened my heart and fell in love with her, im even laughing as i type this. I opened up to 2 of our close friends who were pleased i did that because they felt like i was taking his bad friendship too much, but as fellow kings they were against me falling in love. We stayed together for a month then broke up.The relationship was great, financially, emotionally, she was a really good girlfriend.I basically loved her too much and was not toxic enough. I had my fair share of fun, so im not into toxic relationships anymore. I learned from my mistakes and showed my toxicity a bit, and the sex continued. Mind you, because my city is small, I was running low on plates. I had zero hoes, that could fufil my sexual desires.
We continued, she got back together with him and i told myself i was not going to continue smashing. We continued, I really wish the sex wasn't this good. I was hopeful that she would change, mind you for the duration of this whole thing, she lived in his house for 1 month (jan) while he was away and 1 month (feb) when he returned, and they continued to be in love (the affair has been going on for 4 months). I've never been able to last long without sex, in a relationship I have sex 5 or 6 days of a week at least 5 times a day. But i was now down to 2 days a week, 3 rounds a day to avoid getting caught with her. NO ONE CAN EVER FIND OUT. Recently i haven't slept with her in 8 days, i did get head but it doesn't count coz i didn't ***.
Im going back to my self improvement journey as i had lost all my good habits, just either consumed by sex or heartbreak. NGL she got me good. For the last 1 month, I've not used my heart as I entertain her when I need to smash. But deep down I have love for her because through all this she has and continues to be an amazing friend. But I'm doing a limited no-contact rn as we both work together etc. She wanted to get back together but i refused, until i saw serious change. She moved out into her own apartment. Im just fighting the urge to go **** her.
I am also distancing myself from that guy as i will be resuming classes after the sem break. I wont be drinking at his place or with him unless mutual frieds invite us out. Among some other things. Im getting back on my self-improvement pill. I'm also slowly learning to unlove her. Going back to the gym when i get some money. Maintaining minimal contact with her by avoiding calls and texts here and there. NGL I fell deep. No contact isn't an option btw, apart from the sex she does add value to my life and i to hers - as friends.
What's your take? What should I do moving forward?
Any advice and questions are welcome. DO NOT HOLD BACK!
Before you continue reading my post, please know I'm not an AFC. In all honesty, I was just outsmarted.
I have read TRM, participated in this forum and have had my fair share of trysts.
I'll try to keep it short; background: I'm a 22 y/o straight male currently enrolled in uni and working part-time as a bartender. I have a friend M20 who i met, him and i then met a girl who is 19 y/o. I never had an interest in her, she is attractive, but I didn't feel like it, plus I had a few plates.
So my homeboy jumped in. He secured and they dated strongly for a year, however, he would get caught doing stupid stuff (Sliding into DMs, kissing 1 girl ) he is sort of a sub that likes being reprimanded and babied (only child + spoilt). He is also kind of a *****.
She and i grew close as friends but never did anything out of respect for my friend. Towards the end of 2023 this guy started going behind my back to bad mouth me to her and others. He was always insecure of my friendship with her, but i went out of my way to make him feel secure by keeping my distance, making him look good in front of her and encouraging her to stay with him.
As time went on, my mental health began to deteriorate. I couldn't exactly distance myself; we all go to the same school, I work with the F19, and we live in a small city; we are all minorities(basketball people), and we have the same circles. Looking back on it, I could've just gone MIA, but I enjoy being social.
So after my mental health began to go down, i felt betrayed because he began talking **** about me to her and our mutuals. This is where it gets interesting and you might begin to get frustrated.
Im a bit of a sadist and machiavellian. Im not an *******, but i have the ability to inflict mental and physical harm if need be. So i learnt what turns her on by accidentally grazing by and bumping into her at work. When they separated as they always do and get back together. I slid in and smashed. HARD. And because we were homies i knew what he did in bed.( sort of vanilla/sub stuff). He was her first. I introduced her to **** and tunred her into a nympho.
He left the country for 2 months. This F19 and i continued and she left him for good. I slipped up and opened my heart and fell in love with her, im even laughing as i type this. I opened up to 2 of our close friends who were pleased i did that because they felt like i was taking his bad friendship too much, but as fellow kings they were against me falling in love. We stayed together for a month then broke up.The relationship was great, financially, emotionally, she was a really good girlfriend.I basically loved her too much and was not toxic enough. I had my fair share of fun, so im not into toxic relationships anymore. I learned from my mistakes and showed my toxicity a bit, and the sex continued. Mind you, because my city is small, I was running low on plates. I had zero hoes, that could fufil my sexual desires.
We continued, she got back together with him and i told myself i was not going to continue smashing. We continued, I really wish the sex wasn't this good. I was hopeful that she would change, mind you for the duration of this whole thing, she lived in his house for 1 month (jan) while he was away and 1 month (feb) when he returned, and they continued to be in love (the affair has been going on for 4 months). I've never been able to last long without sex, in a relationship I have sex 5 or 6 days of a week at least 5 times a day. But i was now down to 2 days a week, 3 rounds a day to avoid getting caught with her. NO ONE CAN EVER FIND OUT. Recently i haven't slept with her in 8 days, i did get head but it doesn't count coz i didn't ***.
Im going back to my self improvement journey as i had lost all my good habits, just either consumed by sex or heartbreak. NGL she got me good. For the last 1 month, I've not used my heart as I entertain her when I need to smash. But deep down I have love for her because through all this she has and continues to be an amazing friend. But I'm doing a limited no-contact rn as we both work together etc. She wanted to get back together but i refused, until i saw serious change. She moved out into her own apartment. Im just fighting the urge to go **** her.
I am also distancing myself from that guy as i will be resuming classes after the sem break. I wont be drinking at his place or with him unless mutual frieds invite us out. Among some other things. Im getting back on my self-improvement pill. I'm also slowly learning to unlove her. Going back to the gym when i get some money. Maintaining minimal contact with her by avoiding calls and texts here and there. NGL I fell deep. No contact isn't an option btw, apart from the sex she does add value to my life and i to hers - as friends.
What's your take? What should I do moving forward?
Any advice and questions are welcome. DO NOT HOLD BACK!
