It's illogical, but it's hard-wired in my mind. On a college campus, I can pick out the people that generally flip this switch in my mind.
Football player/cheerleader types (know everyone, get invited to everything)
People who seem to already have one foot out into the real world and have no time for anything related to college besides going to class and doing homework.
Instinct tells me I need to impress these people. I need to justify myself to these people. I might be smarter and funnier, but they have the edge socially.
I do generally have approach anxiety, but once I'm actually talking to people (other than the types mentioned above), I'm perfectly fine. Laid back, not not giving a damn what anyone thinks about me, making people laugh...
Yet I'm so hung up on the idea that certain people are above me socially, that I don't even consider these women options. I know it's not true, but I can't help but feel like these people are just out of my league.
I've dated a 9, but she wasn't part of the social elitist cliques and never gave off that vibe.
What can I do to get over this?
Football player/cheerleader types (know everyone, get invited to everything)
People who seem to already have one foot out into the real world and have no time for anything related to college besides going to class and doing homework.
Instinct tells me I need to impress these people. I need to justify myself to these people. I might be smarter and funnier, but they have the edge socially.
I do generally have approach anxiety, but once I'm actually talking to people (other than the types mentioned above), I'm perfectly fine. Laid back, not not giving a damn what anyone thinks about me, making people laugh...
Yet I'm so hung up on the idea that certain people are above me socially, that I don't even consider these women options. I know it's not true, but I can't help but feel like these people are just out of my league.
I've dated a 9, but she wasn't part of the social elitist cliques and never gave off that vibe.
What can I do to get over this?