First of all I'm not really sure what want. This is a long story...
I've been working with a girsl named Steph for about 3 years. I've always liked her, when she first started working with me she had a bf but we flirted a little bit. Then she broke up with him and the same day she had another bf. He was an insecure idiot and shouldn't have stayed with him, but they had a baby. She quit work for a while and started again a little before she had her baby. 6 months or so go by and she tells me about him cheating on her and the **** he's done. So I tell her she should be with me. We were flirting while she was still with him, I now realise what an idiot I was for doing that. We got together for about 2 weeks and then she left me and got back together with her ex. A month goes by and were flirting again, he was stalking her or something so she broke up with him and we got back together again. Then O broke up with her a few weeks later, not sure exactly why but I told her it was because I didn't see a future with her. The next day she was back together with him.
6 months later brings us to today. She broke up with him for good this time, been broken up for a month. We've messed around and she slept over and stuff. Because of her busy schedule we could only see eachother a few hours a few nights a week. So I'd ask her to come over and stuff. Her ex bf's we very controlling and always wanted her with them which is why she didn't want to be more than friends with me, even though we slept together and spent time together. She told me she thinks I'd become like her ex's and always want to be with her, but I told her that I wouldn't.
It would be a huge mistake for me to want her again wouldn't it?
Also her and a couple other girls at work were talking about wanting a male and female strip to go to one of their houses so they can watch them have sex. And Steph told me she wanted to go to a female strip club to experinxe it. Am I being a prude or whatever for not wanting to see that sort of thing? I think that sex should be between us and, I mean why would you want to watch people have sex in front of you??
I'm 19 and she's 21, I don't really have experience with girls so I don't know what I want or what to do. My friend told me that i'm her rebound and that she's playing games with me. So I should tell her to figure out what she wants and to stay away. Sorry that was long, but I don't know what the hell I'm doing.
edit: just read this and I bet I came off too strong. Well, I feel like a big dumbass right now. I read posts from the bible, but how do I stop wanting to be with her?
Oh and I think about things too much, overanalyze, which is probably why i'm making this post. Should I be laid back, is it possible for me to change?
I've been working with a girsl named Steph for about 3 years. I've always liked her, when she first started working with me she had a bf but we flirted a little bit. Then she broke up with him and the same day she had another bf. He was an insecure idiot and shouldn't have stayed with him, but they had a baby. She quit work for a while and started again a little before she had her baby. 6 months or so go by and she tells me about him cheating on her and the **** he's done. So I tell her she should be with me. We were flirting while she was still with him, I now realise what an idiot I was for doing that. We got together for about 2 weeks and then she left me and got back together with her ex. A month goes by and were flirting again, he was stalking her or something so she broke up with him and we got back together again. Then O broke up with her a few weeks later, not sure exactly why but I told her it was because I didn't see a future with her. The next day she was back together with him.
6 months later brings us to today. She broke up with him for good this time, been broken up for a month. We've messed around and she slept over and stuff. Because of her busy schedule we could only see eachother a few hours a few nights a week. So I'd ask her to come over and stuff. Her ex bf's we very controlling and always wanted her with them which is why she didn't want to be more than friends with me, even though we slept together and spent time together. She told me she thinks I'd become like her ex's and always want to be with her, but I told her that I wouldn't.
It would be a huge mistake for me to want her again wouldn't it?
Also her and a couple other girls at work were talking about wanting a male and female strip to go to one of their houses so they can watch them have sex. And Steph told me she wanted to go to a female strip club to experinxe it. Am I being a prude or whatever for not wanting to see that sort of thing? I think that sex should be between us and, I mean why would you want to watch people have sex in front of you??
I'm 19 and she's 21, I don't really have experience with girls so I don't know what I want or what to do. My friend told me that i'm her rebound and that she's playing games with me. So I should tell her to figure out what she wants and to stay away. Sorry that was long, but I don't know what the hell I'm doing.
edit: just read this and I bet I came off too strong. Well, I feel like a big dumbass right now. I read posts from the bible, but how do I stop wanting to be with her?
Oh and I think about things too much, overanalyze, which is probably why i'm making this post. Should I be laid back, is it possible for me to change?