It's been that way since 7th grade. I relate to women a lot more, I enjoy the company, they are more fun to talk to, and they give me a way into their mindset when i need help with a girl. Also certain ones make the most excellent wingmen. I don't see this as an issue at all, and most girls I date don't see it as an issue. What are your thoughts?
I only have one male friend...that's a problem?
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Well its good you relate to women well. But there is that old saying "you become who you hang with."
I don't how you don't go insane just hanging out with women. Males make way better friends, unless a woman is attracted to you but you dont really feel the same way.
I don't how you don't go insane just hanging out with women. Males make way better friends, unless a woman is attracted to you but you dont really feel the same way.
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I concur with this. Don't become to buried into women's issues that people start to see you as one. With your women friends do more listening than talking.noobolgy said:
Also, keep this in mind too. Few or no friends won't negatively impact your life as much as bad friends will. Pick them wisely with guard.
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Don't be an introvert, and socially ostracized. Go make some male friends. I can go out in one night, or at the gym, and make a handful of male friends, impromptu. What is so difficult?
And yes, having only one male friend is not psychologically healthy.
And yes, having only one male friend is not psychologically healthy.
I'm by no means an introvert, beta, whatever it is you want to call it. I get along great with guys, and a lot of guys want to be my friends... But i have to put so much effort into actually pretending i give a crap that it doesn't seem worth it. My girl friends are plenty loyal, and a few are actually fantastic wingmen...I feel like I should have more guy friends and part of me wants to, but I just get so bored hanging out with guys.
Also, any time there is a situation of more men than women, I feel I have the upperhand because while the rest of the guys are busy having their **** measuring contests, I can sweep in and make the girl(s) comfortable. Is this wrong thinking?
No idea but I too don't have many male friends. Never have. I like hanging around sexual polarity. Always have.
I haven't a clue whether this is "good" or "bad".... for me it just is. I don't worry about it.
I haven't a clue whether this is "good" or "bad".... for me it just is. I don't worry about it.
One thing I've learned is that good friends are hard to come by.
If your friends make life more fun and tolerable that is reason to keep them around. Worry more about the value they bring to your life and less about their gender.
Some people may tell you different. If you listen to them you are living according to other people and not yourself. And that's never a healthy place to be.
Don't dump your friends because of standard Don Juan doctrine. An old friend is impossible to make.
If your friends make life more fun and tolerable that is reason to keep them around. Worry more about the value they bring to your life and less about their gender.
Some people may tell you different. If you listen to them you are living according to other people and not yourself. And that's never a healthy place to be.
Don't dump your friends because of standard Don Juan doctrine. An old friend is impossible to make.
backbreaker
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that's one more than i have lol.
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No, they don't.Bassic said:
The replies in this alarm me, but also help make sense of guys like back breaker and snarky, ha.
^^^ Girls rarely know why they behave the way they do, and are generally terrible at giving "relationship advice". Despite their best interests.
Also, making girls "comfortable" probably isn't really working for you, is it.?
I mean you're here for a reason I assume...
Nothing wrong with female friends at all. Some of my closest friends today are long time female friends who I get along with better than a lot of my male friends. But you should have more than one male friend to be honest.
Also, making girls "comfortable" probably isn't really working for you, is it.?
I mean you're here for a reason I assume...
Nothing wrong with female friends at all. Some of my closest friends today are long time female friends who I get along with better than a lot of my male friends. But you should have more than one male friend to be honest.
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I have male friends, but with males I always feel like there is a sense of rivalry going on, of trying to one up each other or whatever - in a friendly manner, of course. Males tend to be kind of territorial, I know I do.noobolgy said:
The nice thing about females is that they are built to compliment you, not compete with you. You have your role, and they have their role. It's very comfortable.
Like you say though, the woman has to be attracted to you. I'm not interested in being just friends with women, I could see that driving you crazy.
It doesn't drive me crazy at all. What drives me crazy is the constant duck measuring contests, the constant need to argue about sports, and of course there's the constant bull**** spewing out about how much of a ladies man thru are. I just don't get the point, its a never ending cycle of validation seeking.
Guys are my go to for doing things. If I want to play basketball, ride the trails on my bike, go shooting, jam, whatever they are who I call. But it pretty much ends there.
The half dozen females I talk to regularly are my go to for talking. Be it advice or just talking sh!t. Guys don't like to open up and let loose like girls do. I end up talking to the girls a lot more than the guys but spending time with the guys more than the girls.
Personally I've found girls can take ball-busting (figuratively speaking) better than guys UNLESS it's about their looks. Goofing on each other without it establishing pecking order that's a fun time.
The half dozen females I talk to regularly are my go to for talking. Be it advice or just talking sh!t. Guys don't like to open up and let loose like girls do. I end up talking to the girls a lot more than the guys but spending time with the guys more than the girls.
Personally I've found girls can take ball-busting (figuratively speaking) better than guys UNLESS it's about their looks. Goofing on each other without it establishing pecking order that's a fun time.
there's truth to this but women are the same way, even if you don't see it.Bassic said:
My final say is : I'd rather have more male friends than women, my argument for this is overall, women tend to ease out of your life when they get married/serious LTR. Where men that get married usually still can hang out/talk to ya whenever.
Just my look.
This is true. No new guy wants another guy hanging around, friend or not. I've fvcked all my female friends at least once and no matter how much we say we won't again how can we tell?Rival said:
My friendship has broken up their relationships accidentally. All of these girls I'm talking about have been around for a LONG time.
New female friends are next to impossible to make.