The Nice Guy is Gone
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Well, a little while ago, I was unsure about whether my hbneighbor had an interest in me or not. I got a couple of replies that say she is. The thing is, I was (but maybe not anymore) in the friend zone.
I went out tonight to talk with an old friend, but they didn't show up, so all's well, and I stay at the bar--of course, it's the one I frequent.
Well, I'm upstairs, talking with a girl that I had met there and the bartender, and a guy that I met new years eve. Well, as it turned out, hbneighbor showed up at the bar, and where I was at. We hug, little FRIENDLY small talk. Friendly, because before tonight, there was nothing.
She goes over, sits at a table, and talks with her friend who is also at the bar. I sit and continue to talk with the bartender, and three other people, just having a good time. Here's the thing: I noticed hbneighbor glancing my way, and we make smooth eye contact several times.
Then she comes back up to the bar and orders another drink, a little small talk here and there; when she goes back to the table, she says she will be back.
Oh yeah, while she is sitting at the table, one of those three people I was talking to was a hb herself, just not my type, or I would have at least attempted a #close with her.
Back to hbneighbor. Her and her friend get through 'catching up'm and she comes back. Now, I don't remember hardly any of the convo, but she told me playfully to shut up quite a bit. I gave plenty of kino, and she gave some back. I did attempt a date, in front of the people--here's what happened:
(she was sitting by a guy I had met recently, then him, then me)
I make direct eye contact with her--and wave her to come here.
she does;
me: Me and you should go out Saturday night
hbn: Where
me: (name's a place)
hbn: No, I don't like that place because (something about guys)
me: Okay, let's do this--(gave the thought)
hbn: (she is thinking, & it appears as though she is spacing out.
(I try to get her attention, and)
hbn: I'm thinking, hold on just a sec
hbn: You know, Saturday is not really that great, b/c of something about an ex-bf.
me: Alright, no big deal
She goes back and sits down in the chair she was sitting in, and I turn my attention to hbui (uninterested)
We talk a little about music, eye contact is good, a tiny bit of kino here and there, but remember, I'm not interested in her, so this was just practice)
Okay, after a little of that, hbneighbor tells me something, but I can't hear it:
me: I can't hear you (I get up and go over to her)
hb: blah blah
This conversation was pretty boring, but it was playful too. I don't even remember what the convo was about, but our kino was playful, and fun.
We had a little chat--because she had gotten me a Christmas present, and she didn't get back until just a couple days ago.
She mentions it, and my curiosity is peaked, but it's cool. Later, I ask her what time she is leaving:
me: What time are you leaving?
hbn: Why, are we walking home together?
me: I figured you drove, but if you didn't, then let's.
some little chit chat, and enough of that.
The other guy that was sitting next to me has attempted to c**kblock me, but I don't think he will be successful. He's supplicating to her, but he did get her number, and she is a little wary of that herself, but after me and her went to her place, she told me she would see, but she's using a no-tolerance kind of thing with him, and she told me why.
Remember, the guy she told me she had had a crush on that she thought was so cute--he's the competition mentioned in the title. However, he called her, and I was in her apartment still, and I heard the convo--the only thing he has going for him, as far as I can tell, in this situation is the fact that he is cute.
While in her apt:
We talk a little, play a little. I'm not holding anything back, except for the dam attempt at a kiss, and I'm so wishing I would have. The thing is, as her crush showed up, that was when I was about to go for it. So anyway, we sat next to each other, I was able to put my arm around her for a bit, our legs and a$$e$ were against each other while she was on her laptop.
After (crush) got there, I got up, walked away from her w/o touching her, got my coat, shook (crush's) hand--I know him too, had a little more playful talk with hbn in front of hbcrush.
I went ahead and hugged her goodnight--and she brushed her lips against my cheek.
Her reason for not going out Saturday makes sense to me, because I know the whole story--and I do not think she is lying. I think she is actually looking forward to me attempting another date, which in this case, I will make an exception. I saw the look on her face, I know exactly what went on in our convo's (not the conversation, but the other stuff), and she did not say no per say.
One more thing while I was at her apt: (I'm not sure what led up to this, but)
hb: Kiss my butt
me: I kiss my hand and grab her a$$, as she is sitting on the couch doing something with her laptop.
All in all, tonight was not a compete failure, but it was not a complete success, either. It's let me look at this situation with a little more ground room, though, as now I know while I may still be in the friends zone, I'm not far from reaching the border.
I also see that I have competition, as she is not with any ONE right now. She has a crush, my friend has a crush on her, and I will be the one who ends up with her--THAT IS HOW I SEE THIS SITUATION UNFOLDING.
Any feedback, advice, replies, or critique are appreciated.
I went out tonight to talk with an old friend, but they didn't show up, so all's well, and I stay at the bar--of course, it's the one I frequent.
Well, I'm upstairs, talking with a girl that I had met there and the bartender, and a guy that I met new years eve. Well, as it turned out, hbneighbor showed up at the bar, and where I was at. We hug, little FRIENDLY small talk. Friendly, because before tonight, there was nothing.
She goes over, sits at a table, and talks with her friend who is also at the bar. I sit and continue to talk with the bartender, and three other people, just having a good time. Here's the thing: I noticed hbneighbor glancing my way, and we make smooth eye contact several times.
Then she comes back up to the bar and orders another drink, a little small talk here and there; when she goes back to the table, she says she will be back.
Oh yeah, while she is sitting at the table, one of those three people I was talking to was a hb herself, just not my type, or I would have at least attempted a #close with her.
Back to hbneighbor. Her and her friend get through 'catching up'm and she comes back. Now, I don't remember hardly any of the convo, but she told me playfully to shut up quite a bit. I gave plenty of kino, and she gave some back. I did attempt a date, in front of the people--here's what happened:
(she was sitting by a guy I had met recently, then him, then me)
I make direct eye contact with her--and wave her to come here.
she does;
me: Me and you should go out Saturday night
hbn: Where
me: (name's a place)
hbn: No, I don't like that place because (something about guys)
me: Okay, let's do this--(gave the thought)
hbn: (she is thinking, & it appears as though she is spacing out.
(I try to get her attention, and)
hbn: I'm thinking, hold on just a sec
hbn: You know, Saturday is not really that great, b/c of something about an ex-bf.
me: Alright, no big deal
She goes back and sits down in the chair she was sitting in, and I turn my attention to hbui (uninterested)
We talk a little about music, eye contact is good, a tiny bit of kino here and there, but remember, I'm not interested in her, so this was just practice)
Okay, after a little of that, hbneighbor tells me something, but I can't hear it:
me: I can't hear you (I get up and go over to her)
hb: blah blah
This conversation was pretty boring, but it was playful too. I don't even remember what the convo was about, but our kino was playful, and fun.
We had a little chat--because she had gotten me a Christmas present, and she didn't get back until just a couple days ago.
She mentions it, and my curiosity is peaked, but it's cool. Later, I ask her what time she is leaving:
me: What time are you leaving?
hbn: Why, are we walking home together?
me: I figured you drove, but if you didn't, then let's.
some little chit chat, and enough of that.
The other guy that was sitting next to me has attempted to c**kblock me, but I don't think he will be successful. He's supplicating to her, but he did get her number, and she is a little wary of that herself, but after me and her went to her place, she told me she would see, but she's using a no-tolerance kind of thing with him, and she told me why.
Remember, the guy she told me she had had a crush on that she thought was so cute--he's the competition mentioned in the title. However, he called her, and I was in her apartment still, and I heard the convo--the only thing he has going for him, as far as I can tell, in this situation is the fact that he is cute.
While in her apt:
We talk a little, play a little. I'm not holding anything back, except for the dam attempt at a kiss, and I'm so wishing I would have. The thing is, as her crush showed up, that was when I was about to go for it. So anyway, we sat next to each other, I was able to put my arm around her for a bit, our legs and a$$e$ were against each other while she was on her laptop.
After (crush) got there, I got up, walked away from her w/o touching her, got my coat, shook (crush's) hand--I know him too, had a little more playful talk with hbn in front of hbcrush.
I went ahead and hugged her goodnight--and she brushed her lips against my cheek.
Her reason for not going out Saturday makes sense to me, because I know the whole story--and I do not think she is lying. I think she is actually looking forward to me attempting another date, which in this case, I will make an exception. I saw the look on her face, I know exactly what went on in our convo's (not the conversation, but the other stuff), and she did not say no per say.
One more thing while I was at her apt: (I'm not sure what led up to this, but)
hb: Kiss my butt
me: I kiss my hand and grab her a$$, as she is sitting on the couch doing something with her laptop.
All in all, tonight was not a compete failure, but it was not a complete success, either. It's let me look at this situation with a little more ground room, though, as now I know while I may still be in the friends zone, I'm not far from reaching the border.
I also see that I have competition, as she is not with any ONE right now. She has a crush, my friend has a crush on her, and I will be the one who ends up with her--THAT IS HOW I SEE THIS SITUATION UNFOLDING.
Any feedback, advice, replies, or critique are appreciated.
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