scoopshank said:
I met her online so it's not like we just talk in person and then not talk until next time, that's a stupid way to have them loose interest. I'll report back how things go over the next few days.
Whether or not you met online, once you've obtained the number keep the messaging to a minimum. Do not initiate with non essential messages: anything outside of attempting to schedule a meetup is non essential. If she initiates with generic crap, take excessive time to respond. And when you do,
do not respond with generic crap yourself.
For example, don't do this,
Her: hey how's your day?
~20 min later
You: not much how are you?
Instead,
Hey: hey how's your day?
hours later (in the meantime she may have texted more crap)
You: you don't want to know, trust me
Her: what?
~5 min later
You: it involves midgets and farm animals
Her: omg blah blah blah
Don't prolong this back and forth. Pull back. Stop responding unless she changes the subject or directly asks another question. Hopefully her hampster will have done some work and she will get the idea that you're not too keen on discussing mundane crap. Ideally she will think this is because you have more important things to do. If she asks why you take so long to respond, say you're busy. If she keeps prying say you're not a big phone person and like talking face to face. It's a good idea to vary the delay when you respond to stupid crap too, otherwise she'll be more likely to suspect you're playing with her. Sometimes responding quickly is fine, just mix it up.
And if she never initiates anything with you, she's probably low interest but whatever the case may be man the f*ck up and only initiate to meetup. For example if you got her number, exchanged some back and forths, and she hasn't initiated anything with you for 4-5 days... that's fine, just text her to meet up at some point,
You: Hey crazy cat lady (or some other reference to something you talked about before)
Her: Hi
You: Care to join me for a drink this Tuesday
Her: I don't know I'm kinda busy
You: Well at some point we need to talk and sort out your cat issues
Her: Well I can't do this Tuesday
You stop responding at this point. You can live without her, right? If she's interested she'll follow up. Maybe message her again in a week and try one more time. Initiating messages with her about stupid crap would have only lowered her interest more. Not every girl will like you. Accept that, and live your life.