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I need to up my texting game
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OC Speedball
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Have any of you guys ran into girls that will ONLY text? Last week this girl gave me her number, and I called her, and she didn't pick up. Then she starts texting me everyday. She asked me to hang out, but I couldn't so I didn't.
And then I try calling her again and she texts me, "Why did you call me?" I said, "Because I need to ask you a question." So I just ended up asking her to hang out through text. My friend advised me to do this because he said some women are just SO used to texting that they completely lack phone conversation skills... they're afraid of it. But this girl and I would flirt for hours in person, it's weird.
So I ended up just asking her out through text. Nothing fancy, just basically a hangout date.
What would you advise me to do in another situation like this? And did I do the right thing? I've had this happen with two other girls in the past as well.
And then I try calling her again and she texts me, "Why did you call me?" I said, "Because I need to ask you a question." So I just ended up asking her to hang out through text. My friend advised me to do this because he said some women are just SO used to texting that they completely lack phone conversation skills... they're afraid of it. But this girl and I would flirt for hours in person, it's weird.
So I ended up just asking her out through text. Nothing fancy, just basically a hangout date.
What would you advise me to do in another situation like this? And did I do the right thing? I've had this happen with two other girls in the past as well.
OC Speedball said:
I can imagine this happens occasionally. Some girls (quite a lot actually) have an extreme anxiety issue when it comes to actually talking on the phone. I know this because, my friends girlfriend (who is smoking hot) added me on facebook the morning after he was arrested JUST TO ASK ME if i could ring police custody to find out if he was still there.
So a girl texts a lot? Thats fine. As long as you don't text her to the point that it bores her enough to lose interest in you, your doing your job correctly. I really wouldn't think too much of it, but as long as you are constantly keeping things new and interesting it will not harm your game.
Then you need to read this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150&highlight=fifteen+lessons
And stick at it lad. Its not rocket science, honestly.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150&highlight=fifteen+lessons
And stick at it lad. Its not rocket science, honestly.
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
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I get it, but I have no access to females at all but that 1 chick. I have no car, I live in some isolated suburb, my friends rarely ask me to hang out, and I'm out of school. This is a bad predicament. Pretty much I got nothing to practice on.
I can't give you Life Counseling but, if you don't have a job, get one. If you don't have a car, work towards getting one. If you don't have access to women, move to/be in places where there are.
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From my experience with texting.. I can only to use it to my advantage once I have built face to face rapport with the girl. Then text her every now and then something she'll find witty, funny, or sexy.
ELMER_GANTRY
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Wrong. I disagree with you on this. Texting does build attraction when it is done right, and it gets the chick thinking about you, which is exactly what you want to do. When you leave a great text, the girl will be thinking about you and your text. You don't have to have text convos to make it work. You need to be able to talk, but if you don't use texting to your advantage, you are limiting yourself.Iceberg said:
You should all read the thread in the MM forum about "texting and messages" and the replies that I left. Texting DOES work so use it.
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I didn't know there were Mystery Method forums. Can you send me the link? I googled it and couldn't find it.ELMER_GANTRY said:
ELMER_GANTRY
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It is the Mature Man forum on hereOC Speedball said:
Here is the link
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=184373
Not sure if you're talking to me of not, just just in case:JPlaya said:
in my 4th text I wrote "I'm going to the beach today - will I see you there?"
Her reply: "Sorry, not today - have to work".
I didn't reply until she then asked me out tonight.
it seemed like you were understanding about the texts when you asked this before
the danger here is that you keep basically asking the same question - and the likelyhood is that you probably keep basically sending the same text. texts should be to set stuff up in person, otherwise you end up having a text-relationship. you must learn to not require constant text attention
if you must send texts, dont think in terms of quantity, think in terms of quality
before you send a text - look at it - why are you sending it - is it interesting? some of these texts, dudes are wondering why there is no response or late response, but there is nothing really to even respond to. a text just for the sake of it, why? dont send a text that is boring, or makes you look boring, why would you want to give that impression?
the danger here is that you keep basically asking the same question - and the likelyhood is that you probably keep basically sending the same text. texts should be to set stuff up in person, otherwise you end up having a text-relationship. you must learn to not require constant text attention
if you must send texts, dont think in terms of quantity, think in terms of quality
before you send a text - look at it - why are you sending it - is it interesting? some of these texts, dudes are wondering why there is no response or late response, but there is nothing really to even respond to. a text just for the sake of it, why? dont send a text that is boring, or makes you look boring, why would you want to give that impression?
was the text you sent interesting? why did you send it?
they only text first if you leave a gap for them to text in
in this particular case, this girl is not going to text first. this is because you text far too often, and worse, you text when you don't actually have anything to say - you text for the sake of it. you text because you can't cope with a period of time with no texting, you are looking for constant reassurance and validation. you need to only text when there is a reason to - or at the very least try and control yourself when you feel the need to send a text that is boring and has no point other than to try get a response
they only text first if you leave a gap for them to text in
in this particular case, this girl is not going to text first. this is because you text far too often, and worse, you text when you don't actually have anything to say - you text for the sake of it. you text because you can't cope with a period of time with no texting, you are looking for constant reassurance and validation. you need to only text when there is a reason to - or at the very least try and control yourself when you feel the need to send a text that is boring and has no point other than to try get a response