I need some helped, I just got dumped

[ROCKST4R]

I used to go on here a lot on another account, and I know my game. I know what I should do now. I mean, there will be other girls and she wasn't THAT special, all that stuff. But damn, it still hurts. I mean, fvcking sh*t, I liked her a lot, hell I loved her. I was so proud of myself because I was able to stay at a level where I could love her, but not sacrifice my game.

This whole thing just came out of nowhere. I mean, due to conflicting schedules and the face that she lives an hour away, I haven't been able to see her in the past week and a half + she just got a job which meant I wouldn't be able to see her for another week or two, and I was encouraging her to hang out with friends because she said she was really really missing me.

She called me about 4 days ago and she was almost crying because she had to cancel her plans with me this weekend because she was going to the US with her family for the weekend and that was the only time we'd be able to see each other for the next while. I told her to calm down and said that everything was going to be alright. I told her to hang in there because I'd be able to see her soon.

Then, yesterday, she called me and told me that she was feeling differently about "us". She was so quite, I could barely hear here, she seemed so sad. I don't get it. It felt so weird saying goodbye. It was the first time we didn't say "I love you" before hanging up in almost 8 months.

And, as much as I hate how it sounds, the pick-up artist in me has an explanation. She'd been going out with friends the last few days before all of this happened and... well yeah. This whole scenario just seems to weird, it would make much more sense if there was another guy involved. As much as it hurts to think about it that way, I can't help but feel that its true.

I feel like ****

 

[trajhenkhet02]

Hey man. It happens to the best of us. Long distance relationships usually tank. I've only seen one that ended in marriage but it was the exception.

 

[slaog]

I used to go on here a lot on another account, and I know my game. I know what I should do now. I mean, there will be other girls and she wasn't THAT special, all that stuff. But damn, it still hurts. I mean, fvcking sh*t, I liked her a lot, hell I loved her. I was so proud of myself because I was able to stay at a level where I could love her, but not sacrifice my game.

This whole thing just came out of nowhere. I mean, due to conflicting schedules and the face that she lives an hour away, I haven't been able to see her in the past week and a half + she just got a job which meant I wouldn't be able to see her for another week or two, and I was encouraging her to hang out with friends because she said she was really really missing me.

She called me about 4 days ago and she was almost crying because she had to cancel her plans with me this weekend because she was going to the US with her family for the weekend and that was the only time we'd be able to see each other for the next while. I told her to calm down and said that everything was going to be alright. I told her to hang in there because I'd be able to see her soon.

Then, yesterday, she called me and told me that she was feeling differently about "us". She was so quite, I could barely hear here, she seemed so sad. I don't get it. It felt so weird saying goodbye. It was the first time we didn't say "I love you" before hanging up in almost 8 months.

And, as much as I hate how it sounds, the pick-up artist in me has an explanation. She'd been going out with friends the last few days before all of this happened and... well yeah. This whole scenario just seems to weird, it would make much more sense if there was another guy involved. As much as it hurts to think about it that way, I can't help but feel that its true.

I feel like ****

Maybe you've changed over that time? You call yourself a pick up artist but the problem with PUA's is that they can't keep the act up forever. Saying "I love you" all the time sounds very AFC.


Keep improving yourself is all you can do. You'll attract higher quality women then.

 

[amoka]

Best thing you can do right now is NO CONTACT. She calls, don't pickup. She leaves message, don't respond. She texts, don't reply.

 

[Scribbler]

Best thing you can do right now is NO CONTACT. She calls, don't pickup. She leaves message, don't respond. She texts, don't reply.

+1. I learned that the hard way when my ex and I divorced. The bad days always included some kind of contact with her.

@OP: Breakups suck, but time is your friend. Hang in there.

 

[ROCKST4R]

Best thing you can do right now is NO CONTACT. She calls, don't pickup. She leaves message, don't respond. She texts, don't reply.

Holy crap wow. I had it in my head to talk to her about it, I wanted to find out what happened, but honestly, I'd completely forgotten about that, I haven't had to deal with break ups in a while.

The point of all this is, she doesn't to be with me anymore, knowing why won't change that. I'm going no contact.

 

[RandallLambert]

Grab a camera, go out with mates, and take photos of yourself having a great time, with loads of girls around you. Post them up onto your facebook and get your mates to comment on how wild the night was. She'll write to you sooner or later or at least it'll be like a dagger to her heart. Still go the no contact route, just know that you'll have come out on top.

 

[IamMyownMan]

Randall's quote

kind of childish and set up to backfire...he may be quite social and be able to post pictures etc...but trying to COMPETE with a female on a social level may be more beta than COMPETING with another guy for a girl's attention.

OP move on with your life. If you do go out and have a great time and take lots of pictures and your friends post the pictures and crazy comments on facebook because that night went that way and was wild is one thing. However, carrying that out as a plan and colluding with your friends to post on facebook has AFC written all over it.

Stick to the No Contact and move on with your life. You will get over the pain with time.