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I need some help. :( :( :( :(

Ferdinand

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Okay, I've tried my best and my limited dj skills have failed me. I've squandered the best relationship I've ever had with a broad. It's been a long long proccess, and I've had a few victories amongst a sea of defeats. But I cant take this anymore so I'm going to turn this one over to you guys.

Okay broad in question will be called Amy, not her real name but it beats saying the girl I'm talking about over and over. I've known her since before high school, and we've always been pretty close. We've always been good friends, but I never felt that I was at any point in the friendzone. I made out with her when we were freshman, I nailed her two years later, I've nailed her quite a few times since. (FYI were juniors in college at moment). Our relationship has had its share of problems, but they've always been settled quickly and made us stronger. Through high school and our first year in college I could not keep her off me. We never were quite an official couple however, I would ask her why we shouldnt just date in a closed relationship, she would get kind of scared and say that she couldnt do that. I allowed it, it allowed me to **** whatever I pleased. I laid other girls regularly and she knew, but it didnt bother her at all. She did her share of older bros however, and her taste in other guys disgusts me. The real problems started last spring, we were at a formal together, she was being a *****, she wanted to leave early, and was fussing about everything. We left and I was really upset, mostly sad, I was kind of drunk. I told her that I did really love her and that she wasnt at all like other girls to me. I was as non-sappy as you can be saying stuff like that. She said that she didnt feel special about me, she said she cared about me a lot, and was sorry for me. We didnt talk much all summer, I was pretty torn up about it. When school started up we ran into eachother alot and we started talking again. We were out at a bar one night she came up to me and apologized for what she had said and that she didnt mean. Long story short, I boned her that night. I was regularly ****ing her for the next month I asked her what had changed, she said that I was the only guy who had stuck around, this made me a little weary. After a little while she became more unavailable and I returned to getting with other girls everyother week or so. I was upset about this. I talked to her about it. She said that she couldnt be with me anymore because I wasnt the type of guy who was right for her. I asked who was, she basically just said older guys. I found this lame and immature, this seems like something girls should get over their freshman year in college. I know the other guys shes hooked up with, and I know what their relationships have been like. They are without fail, older, stupid, moderately attractive(less than me imo), and lacking in any real game. They are easy for her to control and require no emotional investment. She said that we needed to still be close friends, I was pissed so I just said okay. Its been a little while now, and we dont talk very much. We grab lunch or something every once in a while, and we actually have fun like we used to. But it makes me feel bad knowing that I've kind of acknowledged defeat. I sincerily do care about her, like im young and **** but I really do. I would like to know what I should do to make one last ditch effort to have a real relationship with her on my terms. Any help is appreciated, thanks for taking the time to read all this.
 

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No matter how much you want someone to sometimes a person CANT change.. even if they want to. I would move on even though it might suck. Please don't become a orbiter for years to come...

Work on re-framing to boost your confidence. You lack of confidence shows in your post.

"limited dj skills"
Think DJ in training.

"acknowledged defeat"
For the love of god that is not the way you should think of it. You realized how she is and accepted the reality that she will never be good enough for you. That is no defeat. That is a learning experience and life is full of them.

Now go out there and find someone who deserves a real relationship and have fun sleeping around until you find that person :up:
 

loveshogun

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Ferdinand said:
Okay, I've tried my best
I'm gonna quote Sean Connery.

Your "best"? Losers always whine about their "best." Winners go home and f*ck the prom queen.
Realize that, even for the most successful people in history, life consists of precious few victories in an ocean of defeats.

The difference is that winners don't care about how many defeats it takes to get to the victories, so they keep swimming, while the losers try to tread water in the sea of mediocrity until they just pass away unnoticed.

You're either sinking or you're swimming. You choose, bud.
 
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