I need life guidance. My life is ruined.

[justanothernormalguy]

You are beating yourself up because of a bad break up, not because of this girl. No one likes bad break ups, you feel like you have lost dignity, a friend, and more importantly the chance of ever getting back with this girl (and that stings a lot to a mans ego, she is a never get back girl). Now listen, you want to feel better, delete the facebook stuff if you havent already and go to the gym. Sit in the gym and work your muscles to failure. Its time away, its a hobby, go out and do stuff. Time heals wounds, however scars are there forever. You may get a chance to be in this girls life again as a friend but you will never get a relationship back again, you need to accept this. dont do or talk about doing stupid stuff because thats just giving up, and if you are a quitter then why would she even want you back? Be a man about this, accept your faults, change a bit if necessary and progress with your life. Come on now man, keep your head high. Be cool and collected.

 

[t00dumb]

let the healing process begin!

 

[Marvin Gaye]

We went out ofr a year. I made the mistake of turning her into my life.

Yeah I've seen many a thread about this girl. Don't worry dude you seem like you've got a solid head on your shoulders! I've noticed your threads and posts and this ain't you

she must have had a slammin body-- or at least gave awesome head-- for you to be acting like this

 

[Plec07]

About 2 years ago my girlfriend at the time broke up with me. I could of easily let myself go into a spiral of depression like you have with the situation I had, which was.

- She was my first serious girlfriend, I was with her since I was 15 and had been with her for 2 years.
- She was my first anything other than kissing
- We had already planned our life together (I know big mistake - I was young )
- I had just dropped out of college (never agreed with standard education)
- Didn't have a job
- Didn't know where I was going with my life
- Was passing the time by smoking weed and drinking when I wasn't with her
- And to top it all, the day she broke up with me - via text. Was the day I found out my dad had cancer.

I was at my mate's when we had an argument via text because she was pissed off that I went to my friend instead of her after hearing the news about my dad, even though she was busy at her friend's who she hadn't seen in months. As soon as she ended it I could have broken down into a mess but you know what I did instead?

I phone up this girl who I'd been getting closer to recently (only as friends), told her to come to my mates. We invited a couple more people round and got nice and drunk and had one hell of a night. I then stopped smoking weed, started drinking with moderation. Started going to the gym. Finally got my motorcycle license, and got myself a job. During all that I also hooked up with a couple girls and found my current girlfriend, who was a girl I often thought about while I was at college and going through a rough patch with the girl who was now my ex. A year and a half in with this girl and I'm still happy. My ex turned round after she heard I was with her (maybe 2 months after we broke up) and told me she was pregnant in a hope to get me back. Now at the time I had no idea if it was true or not but I told my current gf and even though she never wants kids and we had only been officially together a week (seeing each other for maybe a month) she said she'd stay with me even if it was true. She encourages me to go out with my friends instead of staying home with her all the time - she even gives me lifts if she's not coming out with us. I've got a pretty damn awsome job (aircraft engine specialist engineer) and I'm joining the RAF next year. I own a car and two motorcycles, and I'm part of the Institute of Advanced Motorists in the UK.

Looking back at it, that girl breaking up with me was possibly the best thing that ever happened to me. It put my life on track and I couldn't be happier.

Take a page from my book and use this to turn your life around! Don't go the other way and let it ruin your life.

 

[Boxer]

Best advice pleco EVER!

Just letting you guys know that I went to a party last night. It felt really weird being there like i was cheating my my Ex or something. I text her one last time saying and she responds with one word. I go back into the house and start chatting up a sexy girl. After like 10minutes she just puts her hands behind my head and we start making out and end up in a bathroom. I did not think drunk girls were that easy! I think im officially over my Ex now.

 

[KarmaSutra]

About 2 years ago my girlfriend at the time broke up with me. I could of easily let myself go into a spiral of depression like you have with the situation I had, which was.

- She was my first serious girlfriend, I was with her since I was 15 and had been with her for 2 years.
- She was my first anything other than kissing
- We had already planned our life together (I know big mistake - I was young )
- I had just dropped out of college (never agreed with standard education)
- Didn't have a job
- Didn't know where I was going with my life
- Was passing the time by smoking weed and drinking when I wasn't with her
- And to top it all, the day she broke up with me - via text. Was the day I found out my dad had cancer.

I was at my mate's when we had an argument via text because she was pissed off that I went to my friend instead of her after hearing the news about my dad, even though she was busy at her friend's who she hadn't seen in months. As soon as she ended it I could have broken down into a mess but you know what I did instead?

I phone up this girl who I'd been getting closer to recently (only as friends), told her to come to my mates. We invited a couple more people round and got nice and drunk and had one hell of a night. I then stopped smoking weed, started drinking with moderation. Started going to the gym. Finally got my motorcycle license, and got myself a job. During all that I also hooked up with a couple girls and found my current girlfriend, who was a girl I often thought about while I was at college and going through a rough patch with the girl who was now my ex. A year and a half in with this girl and I'm still happy. My ex turned round after she heard I was with her (maybe 2 months after we broke up) and told me she was pregnant in a hope to get me back. Now at the time I had no idea if it was true or not but I told my current gf and even though she never wants kids and we had only been officially together a week (seeing each other for maybe a month) she said she'd stay with me even if it was true. She encourages me to go out with my friends instead of staying home with her all the time - she even gives me lifts if she's not coming out with us. I've got a pretty damn awsome job (aircraft engine specialist engineer) and I'm joining the RAF next year. I own a car and two motorcycles, and I'm part of the Institute of Advanced Motorists in the UK.

Looking back at it, that girl breaking up with me was possibly the best thing that ever happened to me. It put my life on track and I couldn't be happier.

Take a page from my book and use this to turn your life around! Don't go the other way and let it ruin your life.

I fvcking love this post.

Youngblood, I learned this same hard lesson at 31. You're a man other men will learn from and admire.

Especially this one.

 

[Plec07]

Best advice pleco EVER!

Just letting you guys know that I went to a party last night. It felt really weird being there like i was cheating my my Ex or something. I text her one last time saying and she responds with one word. I go back into the house and start chatting up a sexy girl. After like 10minutes she just puts her hands behind my head and we start making out and end up in a bathroom. I did not think drunk girls were that easy! I think im officially over my Ex now.

Good I'm just glad it helped you. Sounds like you've taken your first steps into taking back control of your life. Just keep it up, no need to rush, just don't take any steps back and don't look back.

 

[Zarky]

OP, that kind of thing sucks and can be very painful.

However, women rarely break up with you permanently for making them feel bad. They do that when you make them feel bored. So she may be back.

 

[In2theGame]

I think us guys that have been there should play it cool with him. I know as well and others in here know, You feel like total destruction inside. Boxer, ive been where you are and much worse, trust me you'll be ok however your going to feel it bad right now. Sleeplessness, not wanting to do anything else, wondering about her and thats all fine but just 1 year and plus your 18, youll look back and laugh. My ex who i was going to marry just one day flat out left me to be with another guy after 5 years together, yeah imagine how i felt? Totally F**ked. You will be ok. It doesnt matter what i say anyway or what anyone else says on here because your going to feel the way you feel. Damn just thinking about the pain makes me feel bad lol. i rather fracture my leg than feel that heartache that you all know could bring a man to the floor.