I need help with girl please...

[Dj Joey]

alright, i recently turned 17, and i've only had one girlfriend when i was 12. We didnt see each other when we were going out and i dumped her. She was like obsessed with me at that time.

I'm not a loser (well, not much ), but my friends are in the popular jocks crowd, and i could say im part of it too, but im more of a dork. All I do is laugh, make others laugh, not caring what people think. There are many girls who have told me that they like me, but i've never gone out with any of them. I just think they never met my standards. Probably i have them too high, but i think it's better

Well, The thing is that I've never kissed someone. EVER. And this worries me a lot.

(story) :

There's this girl that liked me when i was 12 and she was 11. I didnt like her though, and she moved when i was 14 (her being 13) and i never saw her again... 3 years later, somehow, she got my e-mail address and we started talking again. She made me put my webcam for her, and she said I was still hot, and a lot better. She was really sweet and nice to me all the time. Then, after a few weeks passed, she decided to invite me to a party in her house. I thought it would be fun, so I decided to go with my 2 bestfriends who are really good with girls by the way.

When i first arrived, she was really happy to see me, and I was completely shocked. I was like WOW. She turned into a really hot girl (HB9). We stayed together all the time talking about what had happened to our lives etc. As time passed I discovered how popular she was.

I had to deal with many guys that tried to hit on her, but thanks God I never lost my power.

The worst thing that happened was when i was dancing with her. Some guy came up to us and asked her if she wanted to dance with him. She was like, No, sorry ,I'm already dancing with him(me). Nevertheless, the guy still asked me if he could borrow her for a while! ..wtf? ... that's when my AFC mind told me, dude you dont stand a chance with her anymore, but I didnt let that stop me. I answered with a "haha, NO dude, She's with me already bye"

After a while, things turned better for me, and she looked more interested. We had more fun until i finally had to go.

Now, I'm wondering... how long should i wait until i call her or something?

Although I had a really awesome time with her yesterday, I'm now wondering if she still likes me. Personally, I think my physical appearance has improved a lot too, I've been working out for a year and a half now. And now i have more admirers than ever. But appearance isnt everything and i have discovered that lately. So im not sure if she still would go out with me.

I'm trying to play cool, and now im wondering that now that i played in her field, It will be more easy if we play in mine, since i will be less nervous and I wont have to deal with all those people I didnt know.

However, if things turn out to be good... how the hell am I supposed to kiss her? I've never made out with any girl before. I dont know if she had boyfriends before while I wasnt present in her life, so I'm wondering... what the hell should i do? Should I just go for the kiss, or what?

I would also like some advice with these girls that have hundreds of friends and are really popular.

thanks

 

[Find`It]

and i never saw her again... 3 years later, somehow, she got my e-mail address and we started talking again.

Hahaha, man you're hilarious XD

but about the real thing...

Originally posted by Dj Joey
*When i first arrived, she was really happy to see me

*We stayed together all the time talking about what had happened to our lives etc

*I had to deal with many guys that tried to hit on her, but thanks God I never lost my power.

*She was like, No, sorry ,I'm already dancing with him(me).

*I answered with a "haha, NO dude, She's with me already bye"

*she looked more interested. We had more fun until i finally had to go.

(~*~)Although I had a really awesome time with her yesterday, I'm now wondering if she still likes me.

Now look. I said look! You didn't seem to do ANYTHING that would NOT make her more attracted to you!

She was happy to see YOU, and you both just hit it off and stayed together!

You fended off the other guys and proved yourself to be the alpha at the party!

SHE even wanted to stay with you enough that she turned down a different guy!

and you told a guy she was yours already. Dude, she definately likes you. She is very inrested and she had a great time for sure.

BUT NOW YOU ARE DOUBTING! nonono! come on, man! you just made your best day of Don Juaning! Stay on top of this, don't be chasing her, alright? She is intrested, and she is already chasing you! she has your e-mail, and she invited you to a party that you two had a great time at. I'd let her make the next move, and maybe after you see her one more time, turn her down the next!

You are in a good situation with her, so tease her and start pushing the kino when you're with her.

Just read up some more, you'll be fine.

Sorry about my lack of help on the kissing part,
From my experience, I just say that when the time is right, its obvious and you will both know it. It'll be that time when you're arguing with yourself about it. you just have to get your face a little closer, and she'll help you out with the rest.

Good luck, buddy! keep having fun with her.

 

[Dj Joey]

Re: Re: I need help with girl please...

Originally posted by Find`It
Hahaha, man you're hilarious XD

but about the real thing...



Now look. I said look! You didn't seem to do ANYTHING that would NOT make her more attracted to you!

She was happy to see YOU, and you both just hit it off and stayed together!

You fended off the other guys and proved yourself to be the alpha at the party!

SHE even wanted to stay with you enough that she turned down a different guy!

and you told a guy she was yours already. Dude, she definately likes you. She is very inrested and she had a great time for sure.

BUT NOW YOU ARE DOUBTING! nonono! come on, man! you just made your best day of Don Juaning! Stay on top of this, don't be chasing her, alright? She is intrested, and she is already chasing you! she has your e-mail, and she invited you to a party that you two had a great time at. I'd let her make the next move, and maybe after you see her one more time, turn her down the next!

You are in a good situation with her, so tease her and start pushing the kino when you're with her.

Just read up some more, you'll be fine.

Sorry about my lack of help on the kissing part,
From my experience, I just say that when the time is right, its obvious and you will both know it. It'll be that time when you're arguing with yourself about it. you just have to get your face a little closer, and she'll help you out with the rest.

Good luck, buddy! keep having fun with her.

thanks for the advice man, I'll try my best.

But I still dont know how to deal with her very well. I have many female friends who are really popular and stuff, but I've never felt any interest for them since i've known them since we were like 8 years old. And I barely have any experience at getting girls.

This girl is really wild (lol) she's one of those party girls who are really popular. I have no idea if I will able to handle her later.

 

[floydtheater07]

When the time comes, just go for it. There's no better way to do it anyway. Asking is one of the worst things you can do, and there's no use waiting for her to do it. She might never, even if she wants to.

I was in that situation before, and it becomes a lot more natural once you just do it.


It sounds like she really likes you (unless you are exaggerating, which is something all of us can sometimes do), so I wouldn't worry. Worrying only makes it harder.

 

[MightyMate]

Dont worry. Kissing is natural just like sex.The more You kiss or have sex You are getting better. But mainly its nothing hard.
If You are really afraid of starting to kiss simply tell her that You would kiss her now but You dont know how to do it. She wont belive it and start laughing, but for sure You will get the kiss.
Dont go for the kiss sooner than 3rd date.
If somehow You gonna kiss her, after 1st kiss You can tell her that You did it for the 1st time. If she hears it, shes gonna kiss You back for sure. Dont worry man.

 

[Find`It]

just a little more help here for ya...

I know how hard it can be to visualize you and the girl sitting aroud talking and slowly moving into some kind of movie-perfect kiss.

You might even be around people.

When you don't have experience, it doen't make sense and you just can't see what could or couldnt happen.

But here's what you need to do.
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1. when you are with her, have fun, get her laughing and smiling

that should be easy!

2. when something causes a problem with you two,
(someone in the room gets in the way or the place where u are has something bothersome about it or bad music playing, whatever)
nonchalantly tell her "hey lets go somewhere else," (better yet, specify!) "This place is_____ "(noisy, making it hard to see my nice body, too crowded, ect...)

3. go to that place with her and make it somewhere where you are alone.
-this is where you are going to feel weird
it will make HER the ONLY inresting thing around, so you will need to...

*resist the urge to look around and, say, admire how dark the sky is, or how TOPE the walls are. <(-.-)>

*look into her eyes. Remember that you can really read alot of someone's emotions or intentions just by watching their eyes, so try to tell what she's thinking!

NOTE: Don't get WORRIED about what she might be thinking, Be INTRESTED! It's fun to see how they react.

-Know that she expects you to be looking at her all the time anyway, so don't worry about it!
(just like how you probably think hot girls are looking at you...when you are sitting in a room full of people who ARE NOT LOOKING AT YOU!)

*step up the kino. emphasize words or phrases by putting your hand on her leg or arm. TEASE! take something thats her's and make her get from you!

~-If SHE touches you, ALWAYS Touch her back! (touch her in return, not her actual back )-~
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She will make moves on you too because she's INTRESTED! =D
don't forget it, and don't get worried about what happens after you get alone, you'll be having a GREAT time so you wont be nervous!

So just have fun,
keep watching how she reacts to things,
get her alone,
get the kino going...
and pretty soon, the kiss will be the obvious next decision!

*for best results*
about every other time, when she makes a move or touches you, take her hand off of you or push her away!

she will go nuts

after you have pushed her away, make your next move twice as outgoing
(you make kino, she makes kino, you push her away and lay off for a second, then you make bigger kino by grabing her by the waist and setting her on a couch saying "thats what you get for invading my personal space" with a wink.)

well, i wish you luck
(don't make this the biggest deal ever. don't hit yourself for not teasing her one time when you could have. have fun and enjoy the ride)

you'll have a great time.

im sure i left out a ton of important things or made some rather confusing errors -.-;;