I need help interpreting this girl

[lxr]

I need some help understanding what kind of message this girl is trying to send. I don't want to look to deeply and I am confident that she could be in to me, but I don't want to misunderstand her.

I called girl (she will be 'girl' for privacy of course) over spring break saying we should watch one of a stack of movies recently lent to me.
Girl said that she was stuck home for the rest of the break to study for an exam. Text msg later said she really wanted to come over but sadly she couldn't.

5 days later I call her to say that I'm going to see date night ( new movie) this weekend and that she should come. She quickly says that she is going with her friends already to see the movie on Friday and will be out of town the rest of the weekend, BUT that I could come with her on Fri to the movie. I agree.

It seems like she is giving common rejection answers, but then again they seem sincere. My plan is to just let her see me out of school at the movies on Friday and let her get comfortable with me (even though her friends will be there) and then ask her out again later. Is this a good plan?

P.s. My friend said that she wants her friends to be there so the first date will be more comfortable. This doesn't seem certain to me because she already had plans to go with her friends before I asked her. What do you think?

 

[lxr]

By the way, I don't have any classes with her so there is limited person to person talking...making it even harder to understand everything.

 

[Igetit!]

By the way, I don't have any classes with her so there is limited person to person talking...making it even harder to understand everything.

The fact that you don't have any classes with her isn't a big deal.

It's actually a good thing,but her repeatedly coming up with excuse after excuse isn't good.


However,it would be helpful to know how things got to the point to where they are now.


A couple of questions....


How long have you known this girl?


When you first met her,what did you say to her? Did you flirt? If so,what did you say?



Your friend may be on to something. Not that she needs to be surrounded by a bunch of her friends in order to go out with you,but that her comfort level needs to be raised.


That's not something you need to worry about. The raising her comfort is simple to do,but first we need to see where this girl's head is at.

 

[lxr]

I first got to know her on a small 6-7 person field trip about 4 hours driving back and forth. This is fall '09.

We got a long really well. I managed to get in the car she was riding in both trips. We watched movies together (1-2 other people in car), I cracked a bunch of jokes and she laughed. We sang some songs too. At one point she was on the phone with someone while our group was at a smoothie shop (2 of us at a two seat table) and she said to the personon the other end, "I'm drinking a smoothie with lxr and I can tell he is totally in to me." She said this while smiling at me clearly knowing I could hear her. I said something funny I don't remember, too.

The thing is I would have asked her out then and there BUT ( this is a big but) she was dating someone else. So I moved to low profile kinda. I saw her around sometimes and smiled at her a bunch, and flirted every so often. This was my attempt to keep her in my mind till she broke up (side Q: was this a good idea?). They broke up about 4 weeks ago. That puts me asking her out at about 3 weeks after breakup.

Update: female friend leader of newspaper club reports that she is among a group of girls that talks about me a lot in a good way (score!).