SW15
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Agree.
Most men are thirsty AF and are just looking to arrange dates. Most men are not good at screening for what would make a first date successful.
In fairness to most men, this is difficult to do. This is even more difficult to do when not in-person. In the last 15-20 years, more and more dates have been arranged via technological means and without an in-person conversation supporting it. Screening via text messages and even a voice phone call isn't very accurate for most men. Most men have a better chance of a decent first date with some sort of in-person approach first, but even a 5-15 minute conversation off of a stranger approach isn't all that great in predicting a successful first date.
The most successful first dates are the ones arranged via mutual friend/mutual acquaintances. Friends and acquaintances are often better at screening two people for a high probability of at least one good date than the typical man is at assessing interest from in-person stranger approaches or tech-based methods.
When most men stop using tech-based methods for arranging dates, they typically have fewer failed dates of the "one date, no sex, no second date" variety. This is in part because they have fewer dates overall but in-person screening is somewhat better in screening than tech-based screening.
