I need EVERYONE"S Quick Opinion PLEASE!!!

[intel200]

Ok,

My last post on this topic is at

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.phps=&threadid=36361


The African girl called Sat after like 3 wks no talking (she was in Thailand when I posted the first message) and I was in the movies so I say I'll call her back. She calls back like 4 hrs later and my girl answers the phone. This made the African chic very upset and jealous. Anyways, I call her later to talk and she says that judging from our convo I seem to have put up a "wall" since we havnet been talking. Also, I told her I forgot her # and she said she was very hurt. We got off the phone with her feeling down, like I dont care for her. She did ask if I wanted to hang out again too. I am in a position of power now. Suggestions please! Should I just not call? Make her feel worse? I wrote a strongly worded email that I was gonna send today, but I havent yet. Advice please.....

 

[intel200]

The link didnt work...let's try again

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=36361

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. You need to decide what you want from her. Your post is vague in that area. do you want the pantie's or to make her pay for putting you down.

2. She is scandalous to keep persuing you even after your woman answered the phone. That is not a good sign. This type will f*uck you over and up with your current woman if given a chance. If you let her in your door check for her hidden traps that women will leave behind to mark their territory.

3. I would keep my distance. It's been too much time in between with nothing happening. Who has she been f*uckin with in between. If she ain't fu*cking you then she is definetely f*ucking somebody, somewhere.

 

[intel200]

I just dont know if I should "let her have it" by telling her off in person, on the phone or in email...or if I should avoid her like the plague.

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Player hits it on the head, but now I'm going to put my $.02 in.

Normally I'd go for the confrontation, but with e-mail, phone, or person to person confrontation there is always a witness or some way of keeping a record and that's not always a good thing.

I'd stay away from her or at the least give her some food to "apologize" for what happened and put laxative or rat poison in it.

 

[Quick]

You still haven't told us what your goal is with this girl. Are you trying to increase her attraction to you, or are you trying to decide the best way to cut her?

Less is more. Don't send a "strongly worded" email. It won't accomplish what you want it to. It'll either make you seem like a pvssy because you whine too much, or an a$$hole because you talk too badly about her. If you want to leave on a high note, just fade out of existence. If you leave with this email, you'll look like the loser, and she'll forever have the evidence. I regret every emotional email i've ever written, good and bad, because girls have a tendency to save them.

Or drag it out a little more, finally agree to meet her, and try to get the punani one more time(if that's your goal). Then fade away if you don't get it.

 

[intel200]

I wasnt really after the pvss too much. I really liked this chic ya know? We had chemistry, but she is indecisive..... Im gonna show you cats a sample email, let me know what you think..... I thought I'd make it balaned and not too emotional, not too mean. just tried to hit where it has the most effect. Here it is:

I wrote 2 letters to you before this one attempting to say what I am about to say right now. The first was offensive and mad. The second was sad. They each represented an aspect of how I feel when I think about you. I am mad that I spent any time pursuing you, and that I let you lie to me and use me. And I am sad that I have nothing to show for my efforts. But the strongest feeling I have when I think about you is Love. I try to deny it, but I really am in love with you.

After you left for Thailand I began my net business like I told you I would, and it is going very well. That along with hanging out with friends has been keeping me busy. Now that business has picked up, and since I have folks around who actually are diggin me, I don’t have time to play games with you anymore. The way you would say “lets date” one day then not be feeling me like that the next has gotten old. I have wasted more valuable time this year ****ing around with you than doing anything else, and I am not prepared to add another instant to that. So while I can say I have feelings for you, I can also say that I no longer think too highly of you as a person and I realize that much of the reason I liked you in the first place is because I thought you were someone that you certainly are not.


Good luck getting your life strait and learning how to make up your mind. I hope you have a happy life and are successful in all your endeavors.

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Quick, I stated the whole email/phone messages thing was bad already, all you had to do was read what I wrote down.

Anyhow, about the girl, it seems like she's into making money at this point and is looking for a big daddy, Intel.

Ignore her: it works for PCs and it works in real life too.

 

[intel200]

I hear you guys, I hear you loud and clear. This situation is from my AFC days for sure, but there is pride involved. Its like I just wanna get back a little. let her know she's missing out.

 

[Silquee Smoove]

That's true, Intel, and I can definitely feel you on that one. But most women have a tendency to have the "last word".

So you can bet your bottom dollar that if you say one thing, she will definitely have a rebuttal for you, plain and simple. Coming from personal experience the only way I've ever "won" over a girl/woman was to "intimidate" her and then it's a crummy way to win.

 

[MrNiceGuy]

for that email.. I'd say less of the "I am in love with you"

in fact dont say that at all..

rather, more of the "I think we coulda had something if you hadn't screwed me about.. "

 

[intel200]

Ok. man, I respect your opinion. This is a no win situation. D*MN IT! I just wanna get back.

 

[intel200]

The "I love you" refrences were strategic. I cant deny that I liked this girl, but not love. But she has had her heart broken time and time again. I thought that the "I love you" line will haunt her after the inevitable next heart break or two. These words are supposed to come back and bite her in the azz. I know this is vindictive, but I am an usually calm and rational person and I am trying to get in touch with my emotional side more. This seems to be the best time.