I need advice!

pupil-number-7

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hey,

I'm have trouble with girls. The emails I've been getting from girls have all been flakes. either they were fake emails or the girl never replied or the girl replied but had no interest in me sexually. I don't know what I could be doing wrong!

The way I approach them is I say something random (to break the ice) that usually makes them laugh. Them I immediately start qualifying them by asking if they are adventurous. If they say yes I give them a high five then I tell her I like adventurous people what's her name. She gives it to me then I ask if she's fun to hang out with (I continue qualifying) she says yes then I ask what she's doing on Friday. If she's busy I say saturday, then sunday. she usually begins to laugh. Maybe they like my perseverance. When they say "I don't know" or "nothing" I ask for their email they usually give it to me. "Great" I'm thinking. This went real well and she found me funny, "I'm sure to meet up with her." But when it comes time to email them, I get nothing! And that really pisses me off and takes a bit out of my self esteem every time! I get back up but it really sucks when that happens and it's happend five times consecutively!

WHAT COULD I BE DOING WRONG?
 
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Aazman

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sounds like your being a fun friend. Be a bit more sexual. Kino and some innuendos.
 

Hakuna

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Giving her high-five's and making her laugh at your perseverance might make you come off as a clown or just a funny friend rather than someone she finds attractive. Try being less funny and more secksual. And ask for her number, not her email.
 

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Read this.....http://thenategreenexperience.com/blog/How+to+Meet+and+Date+Hot+(and+Smart!)+Girls/

also here's this ...

Nate, good overview..and when I recently interviewed women for a launch for my conversation skills program for men...I asked them what the worst things were men did that they experienced on a daily basis...One of them coined a new term for how women react to those kind of standard questions guys keep asking like "What's your name?" "Where are you from?" "What do you do for a living?" ..

She gives these kind of questions her "Standard Programmed Responses"...
SPR's for short.

So yeah...obviously inducing a girl to go into SPR mode...because you've just become as the last 20 guys and she's getting bored already as well as knows you're not the spontaneous or confident type.
 

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You are being her court jester and not sexual. This is filed under "Ways to get in the friendzone."

Judge nismo-4 is gon- Oh hell no! You asked for an email? Why? Get the phone #!

I've filed this appropriately and now to render my verdict. You are guilty of the following:

1. Being asexual
2. Not getting the girl off the net.
3. Doing an interview.
4. Overdoing the comedy.
5. Being boring.
6. Failure to escalate.
7. Obtaining emails.

You are hereby ordered to do more dating in the real world, even if it means clubs and bars, and you will be sent to Dry Vaginas, Arizona. You won't get to fill the Grand Canyon bro. You are also ordered to use push pull tactics, be unpredictable, and mysterious, and the court orders you to ask what these girls are doing on Tuesday and Wednesday. I'm also gonna fly you out to Fort Blueballs, Indiana.

Case closed.
 

pupil-number-7

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nismo-4 said:
Case closed.
Ok thanks for the feedback. Read my other post "field report" I tried to improve by being more physical but I may have come on too strong. You tell me, you seem to know it all.
 

the305

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You dont need to "attract" and "escalate" and "be sexual" with a girl right off the bat, thats a mentality of: omg i just met a girl and i need to get her, lets skip the actual rapport, lets just "get her"

This is a huge disconnect with real world interactions.

I don't see anywhere where you have a mutual conversation of some sort, and yes it was boring as hell - you need to keep it fun and mutual - you get to know a little about each other.

I got the feeling you approached this with a "i have to sell myself to her" - which isnt the best route to take.
 
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