I need advice guys, should I just move on?

[Falcon25]

Been seeing this girl for like three weeks. I mentioned in another thread how much we saw each other for like a week straight. Two weeks ago she told me that she wanted space and to slow things down. I was very turned off by that. On Saturday, she tells me how She wants to "come to me" instead of me pushing it. All I did was kiss her. We had been making out a lot. She stopped that. We used to hang out, she stopped that as well. She went from texting me every morning, every day to now barely once a day. She kept asking me questions about long term relationships, what I'm looking for, etc. I answered them honestly, I just said at my age, if the right girl came along, I would definately consider a long term relationship.

So she is asking me to slow things down. I asked her if she wants me to stop seeing her, she said no I just want you to let me come to you. I guess I saw her too much? Or I acted too interested? Too available? Or affectionate? I am a very affectionate person. So I guess she thought I saw her as a girlfriend already? She mentioned that she didn't want to kiss because we are in a grey area. We are not in a relationship and everything. She wants time. My question is; How the hell am I suppose to be close to someone when I don't see them? She used to want to meet up all the time, but she stopped all of that. Should I tell her how I feel? Or should I just not say anthing and ignore her? I am lost. I also think that she may have feelings for someone else, she had mentioned him in passing when we first started hanging out. How do I get the attraction back from this? How do I get the control back. So far, I have been not calling, not texting, or making plans with her. I just take her calls and texts sometimes. Is it gone? Or is it possible to get attraction back? She keeps saying weird stuff like she is looking for long term, doesn't want to get played, doesn't want to get hurt and wants to take her time.

 

[hyper_]

Yeah... what happened is you pretty much let her control the frame and you are now in her reality instead of her in yours...

I am pretty sure you showed too much neediness and eagerness to be with this girl... and that just suffocated her and pushed her away...

she said no I just want you to let me come to you.

So pretty much back away... go date other girls... and detach yourself from this girl... be MIA for a while... until she starts wonder why...

I would also suggest to start approaching more girls... and really developing a skill set that would enable you to constantly attract girls... instead of just focusing on 'this one girl'

 

[Kailex]

So she is asking me to slow things down.

She's controlling the frame.

I asked her if she wants me to stop seeing her, she said no I just want you to let me come to you.

You shouldn't have asked.
And again, she's controlling the frame.

I guess I saw her too much? Or I acted too interested? Too available? Or affectionate? I am a very affectionate person.

Yes to all of the above.

So I guess she thought I saw her as a girlfriend already? She mentioned that she didn't want to kiss because we are in a grey area. We are not in a relationship and everything. She wants time.

This reeks of friend-zoning. This grey area she is talking about is you being her "orbiter". If something better doesn't come up for her, some better option, in the next few weeks... she'll come to you.

That's what she meant by saying: Let me come to you.

It means: I'll go look at other options and if I don't find anything I'll come back to you.

My question is; How the hell am I suppose to be close to someone when I don't see them? She used to want to meet up all the time, but she stopped all of that.

My suspicions... confirmed.

Should I tell her how I feel?

Absolutely not.

Or should I just not say anthing and ignore her?

Absolutely.

I am lost. I also think that she may have feelings for someone else, she had mentioned him in passing when we first started hanging out.

Oh, there it is.

How do I get the attraction back from this? How do I get the control back. So far, I have been not calling, not texting, or making plans with her. I just take her calls and texts sometimes. Is it gone? Or is it possible to get attraction back? She keeps saying weird stuff like she is looking for long term, doesn't want to get played, doesn't want to get hurt and wants to take her time.

BLAH.
She's playing the game just as much as you would be. She's gently laying you down by saying she needs time.

Forget her. Date other women.
And if she "comes to you"... you don't move an inch for that girl immediately. YOU control the frame and submit her to your will, but not the other way around.

She basically told you that she wants to fool around and measure her options but that YOU should WAIT for her while she does that.

And should you?

HELLS NO.


EDIT: And damnit, next time post only ONCE. I saw this a few minutes later at the Mature Men forum and Igetit gave you a much better response. BLAHHHHHHHH!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

She's controlling the frame.



You shouldn't have asked.
And again, she's controlling the frame.



Yes to all of the above.



This reeks of friend-zoning. This grey area she is talking about is you being her "orbiter". If something better doesn't come up for her, some better option, in the next few weeks... she'll come to you.

That's what she meant by saying: Let me come to you.

It means: I'll go look at other options and if I don't find anything I'll come back to you.



My suspicions... confirmed.



Absolutely not.



Absolutely.



Oh, there it is.



BLAH.
She's playing the game just as much as you would be. She's gently laying you down by saying she needs time.

Forget her. Date other women.
And if she "comes to you"... you don't move an inch for that girl immediately. YOU control the frame and submit her to your will, but not the other way around.

She basically told you that she wants to fool around and measure her options but that YOU should WAIT for her while she does that.

And should you?

HELLS NO.


EDIT: And damnit, next time post only ONCE. I saw this a few minutes later at the Mature Men forum and Igetit gave you a much better response. BLAHHHHHHHH!

Was getting ready to unleash the "WTF are you thinking" slap but Kaliex nailed it!

Too needy, too clingy, too desperate. Delete her number and start meeting new women. Women can sense a needy guy from his body language, his actions, his words.

Just by the questions you've asked here, its very obvious that this chick was consuming your mind, when it should have been the other way around.

Take this as a lesson learned, date multiple women at the same time and make them work around YOUR schedule. This is what happens when a woman controls your mind.


Edit: Tried to rep you Kaliex but I gotta spread the love around first... LOL



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