I need a kick in the a$$!!

[alboh]

I'm not sure if any of you even remember me, but six months ago I made a vow not to pass 500 posts until I lost my V. The past six months have been marked by zero progress and at least three good opportunities blown to hell. I'd love to bore you all to death with a few pages of detail but I'm a busy -- man? young man? old boy??

My problem, I've realized, is I have no spark, no energy, no drive. I feel like a zombie. I know that when I have drive I can chat almost anyone up and have people chasing me around. The problem is I hardly ever have it. I feel like someone's chopped my balls off. I have no friends in Montreal of my own, I just hang out with my roommate's pals. I haven't done one approach. I have no hobbies other than reading. I spend way too much time on the internet. My room is a shambles, my wardrobe is dull, my marks are average, and I pity the person who has to put up with a conversation with me...maybe this is related to having ADD, but I can't seem to really focus on anyone or anything deeply.

I'm not depressed though, just incredibly neutral. I have NO URGE at all to approach, to hook up. I want that urge badly. I want to do crazy ****, run every day, climb mountains, buy a motorcycle, go to India, seduce women, have rich friendships, good conversations, cook delicious food, learn new skills, learn to draw, make music, write a few short stories that have been cooking in my head for months, built a secret hidden tree fort in a park near my house, get good grades, etc. But I don't have any urge to do it, stuck in a state of semi-contentedness. How do I pump up my testosterone and my primal urge?

Any and all suggestions are appreciated. In fact, I feel better just for posting this here.

 

[ShortyBrown]

*kicks you in the ass*

JB, get this kid's details and show him the nightlife around Montreal!!!

 

[E-Z Rider]

Ok...from what you've written:

1) Forget about your virginity. You have MUCH bigger issues to deal with.

2) If on any level you're blaming your problems on ADD...stop it. Don't place blame...find solutions.

3) Solutions:

a) Start with the thing you have the most control over- yourself. Clean your room. You'll feel better not living in filth. Maintain yourself, improve your hygeine. Get out and do jogging, and exercise. It's not so much important what kind of exercise you do, just as long as you do it. Consitently exercise. The mindset you'll get is one of self-discipline; you'll find it easier to maintain your life. Work hard on your academics. They're more important than chicks right now.
1. Once you have your sh!t together, you'll feel more positive than neutral. You absolutely HAVE to strive for excellence in YOURSELF to feel good. Having lots of chicks and friends is NOT going to make you feel really good about yourself. It's YOU that can do that.

b)Once you've consitently shown yourself that you can keep your life in order, find friends. Befriend people you meet. Become friends with your roomate's friends (if they appeal to you) instead of just tagging along. You'll get more satisfaction out of having a close group of guys than you will ever get from having chicks.

c) Now...at this point you should feel pretty complete. Generally happy. Bad things may happen, but you always feel like bad times are the exception, not the norm. You'll be optimistic and enjoying whatever life offers you. ---NOW you can worry about las chicas. This site has tons of info on chicks (but not nearly as much stuff about the first 2 levels, at least it seems that way to me). You can find whatever you need. *However, I will offer this bit of advice: Don't approach girls with "I need to lose my virginity to her" running through your mind. That would be desperation. Have the mindset like: "It really doesn't matter that I'm not a virgin, I'm not any less confident than a man-*****. If this chick cuts the mustard, then maybe she'll be lucky enough to be my first. If not, there are plenty of other girls."

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Hope that helped- -E-Z

 

[jbbrain]

no kidding shorty!

Im gonna have to get this dude laid!

In all seriousness Alboh, try setting goals for yourself..write that shyt down and try to accomplish things on a day by day, week by week, or month by month basis (whatver it tkes)..writing it down may make your dreams and aspirationbs more tangible..

PM me too..