I might be too heartless

[_sideways_]

I think I'm too heartless to date, care about females. I mean, if they got sick or injured my heart would go out to them... But otherwise...I just don't have it inside of me to care.

During my interactions I'm the gracious host type...but it's just chit chat. I do not really divulge anything more than funny quips and banter.
I'm usually thinking about my day at work and how my shoulder workout is feeling lol. I laugh because I really do care about my shoulder gains.

I have been known to walk away from chicks wanting some more of my time/me/etc.

Its like a pattern that when I'm checked out, I'm seriously not even registering that she might be sad.
I might think she's sad, though there is no way to know, but like I said, I'm already thinking about work, or family, or gains.

I wouldn't say I'm selfish. More like...if she didn't WOW me even though I had WOWed them, then there's very little I can do to keep myself around knowing there's a big whole world out there with different languages to learn, flowers to smell, anything I want.

And approaches are fun to do so I'm not sitting at home watching commercials on the tele.
I dont want to leave a trail of bitter sad girls, but if they ain't cutting the mustard and I try to let them down easy and explain myself and they still harbor ill will towards me then I have no choice but to keep trucking.

 

[Desdinova]

Instead of me being concerned about them, I'm always trying to think of ways to make their emotions swing. I don't know if I'm obsessed with that 5hit or what, but I always want to either enhance what they're feeling, or transition them to feeling something else. When the transition is justified (like if she's pissed me off), I'll let her soak in that for a while, and then transition her to something else. It's like running a dog through an obstacle course.

She's sad? Okay, let's make her laugh.
She's happy? Okay, let's piss her off a little
I don't know how she's feeling? Let's just throw some random 5hit out there to give her some strong feelings.

A lot of times, I'll get tired of having her around. She spends the night? Okay, well I have 5hit to do and I don't need her ass laying in bed while I'm needing to go somewhere. No, you can't come because then I have to wait for you to put on makeup, make a pit stop for you to get coffee, etc etc. These are the times when women feel like a rock tied to your leg.

When it all boils down to it, I generally don't care either. Well, at least most of the time. I can get over a woman in a couple of days and be fine while she's still badmouthing me to her friends or some 5hit. I usually hate ending relationships, so I generally do it over text messaging to get it done ASAP. I've had bad experiences doing it other ways. I don't need to hear her bawling her eyes out. I don't need her trashing my stuff. I need her OUT of my life.

Speaking of bawling her eyes out, that 5hit doesn't affect me anymore. When any woman starts bawling, it's like it doesn't even phase me except that I can't understand what she's saying through the snivelling and the snot.

But they're fun to drag out for errands I have to run as long as she doesn't have 5hit to do as well. If it's my day of errands, the last thing I need is to be bogged down by sandal shopping at Walmart. Fvck shoe shopping and fvck Walmart.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Instead of me being concerned about them, I'm always trying to think of ways to make their emotions swing. I don't know if I'm obsessed with that 5hit or what, but I always want to either enhance what they're feeling, or transition them to feeling something else. When the transition is justified (like if she's pissed me off), I'll let her soak in that for a while, and then transition her to something else. It's like running a dog through an obstacle course.

She's sad? Okay, let's make her laugh.
She's happy? Okay, let's piss her off a little
I don't know how she's feeling? Let's just throw some random 5hit out there to give her some strong feelings.

Desdinova, the world needs a guide on emotional carouseling, and you are the master.

 

[wifehunter]

No way!!! Extremely entertaining, ladies are more fun than a barrel of monkeys. You just have to know how their brain works, or doesn't, lol!!! Never have had trouble making them smile a laugh!!! (unless they are evil hags)

My advice: watch lots of comedy where the main character is mostly indifferent... see: hawkeye peirce, bugs bunny, beavis and butthead, eddie murphy, chris rock, jim carey, will ferrel etc.

Women love to laugh!!!

 

[_sideways_]

Should I make it an issue

 

[_sideways_]

When I was 5 I didn't care about anything.. When I was 12... I didn't care about anything...when I was 22 I didnt care about anything...


KUNT OF PUZZ.. YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A KID BY 25 AND MORE TROUBLEZ THAN A DON JUAN DE MARCO EVER DID.

YOU STAY IN THE SMALL LEAGUES AND KEEP WINNING.

YOU STAY SOUNDING LIKE THE ONLY SKINNY GUY ON THE BLOCK WITH INSECURE GIRLS.

BESIDES GIRLS, YOU HAVENT ACHIEVED SHYT...UR MOM DOESNT LIKE YOU, YOU THINK 25 YEAR OLDZ DONT LOOK BETTER THAN YOU

I WILL BURST YHAT BUBLLE U LEVID IN..

I'm purposely writing incorrectly because you give guys and girls a skeevy feeling

Yes...you even creep me out .

Where's the ignore button

 

[Konada]

It's not a big issue. I bet we all have or still have the same issue as you. Men are not empathetic beings so it's not in our nature to care and put ourselves in their shoes. I did that when I was five years old, but never after the age of 12 or so.

Every girl I've ever broke up with cries and they expect it to make me rethink my decision. I just keep a very emotionally flat face and that pisses them off even more.

I believe what OP is talking about is sympathy rather than empathy.

I may understand what a girl is going through when I reject her but I look at it with more of a 'Okay so that's what she's feeling' (empathy) rather than 'Damn I feel bad for her' (sympathy/condescension). As men, its never good to have sympathy, rather better an understanding of what people might be feeling and act in a objective, rational way about it.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I think that women are amazingly bereft of empathy when it comes to their boyfriend/mate/SO.

It used to be that when I would reject a woman and make her cry I would feel absolutely awful. Since then I've learned that every woman has the potential to be horrifying heartless with men. They break up with you months before they break up with you, if you know what I mean. At that point it's resolved in their own minds, they have someone waiting in the bullpen, and they will give you the company memo with an icy cold attitude.

Nowadays if I make a woman upset by rejection I don't care that much at all because first, I know if the shoe were on the other foot she would be heartless, and two, she has a social network to fall back on and ease her fall in a few days. Of course once that happens, I will be a vile piece of human waste in her eyes, thanks to her friends pulling her out of her quicksand.

I've learned to never give a woman "resolution", and to never feel to bad about letting her go. I will feel a little bad, but I will also temper that with the truth of what I know she would do under reversed circumstances.

Women are absolutely incapable of loving a man unconditionally. They are only capable of loving children this way. That's a huge part of our collective problem... We think they are going to love us like our mother loved us, and there literally exists no wiring in her brain to do so. That throws us into confusion. In this life I have learned that men do have at least the capacity to love pretty much unconditionally, and virtually all women have zero capacity, except for with children.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

I think that women are amazingly bereft of empathy when it comes to their boyfriend/mate/SO.

It used to be that when I would reject a woman and make her cry I would feel absolutely awful. Since then I've learned that every woman has the potential to be horrifying heartless with men. They break up with you months before they break up with you, if you know what I mean. At that point it's resolved in their own minds, they have someone waiting in the bullpen, and they will give you the company memo with an icy cold attitude.

Nowadays if I make a woman upset by rejection I don't care that much at all because first, I know if the shoe were on the other foot she would be heartless, and two, she has a social network to fall back on and ease her fall in a few days. Of course once that happens, I will be a vile piece of human waste in her eyes, thanks to her friends pulling her out of her quicksand.

I've learned to never give a woman "resolution", and to never feel to bad about letting her go. I will feel a little bad, but I will also temper that with the truth of what I know she would do under reversed circumstances.

Woman are absolutely incapable of loving a man unconditionally. They are only capable of loving children this way. That's a huge part of our collective problem... We think they are going to love us like our mother loved us, and there literally exists no wiring in her brain to do so. That throws us into confusion. In this life I have learned that men do have at least the capacity to love pretty much unconditionally, and virtually all women have zero capacity, except for with children.

One key point is to be aware of the incredible amount of AFCs that will answer women's call when they need them. So if you dump a girl, it's not big deal, she can have a new obedient bf in hours.

 

[parkthebus]

What are you too heartless for?

 

[l__i__l]

Congratulations.

 

[raider87]

I think that women are amazingly bereft of empathy when it comes to their boyfriend/mate/SO

In my experience they enjoy seeing you hurt & heartbroken. Must be an ego boost for them.