I messed up. I think she broke up with me.

[OptimumIndividual]

Christ....the betaness from OP made my d1ck shrivel up.

You're THIRTY FIVE. Act like it dude. Crying over stupid drama in front of a woman puts you one half-step away from being her gossip girlfriend.

 

[eatbleach]

Have you had other fights like this? I smell a subtextual power play in this girl who has to know that overdrinking is a button for you. Why are you having these kinds of fights at three months? Was this the only one or more? Be very careful of getting into a "sin and redemption" type makeup/breakup cycle. Women often thrive on it, but it completely emasculates and tears men down. Never ever ask anyone "are we breaking up? are you breaking up with me?" Don't lay passive aggressive type ultimatums like that, just leave and let cooler heads prevail the next day.

Going forward, don't huff and puff, posture, threaten, make a scene, that's what women do, just -do-. No anger, but make sure you aren't complicit in whatever bad behavior you react to firmly and pick your battles. Were you drinking along with her? Had you told her she'd had enough and needed to go home? She has likely lost a ton of respect here, unless she was very highly interested prior, this one may be done. Hope I'm wrong and good luck.

This is the biggest fight, will have confrontations here and there but nothing this big. And it's the first drunken fight as well.

"are we breaking up? are you breaking up with me?" I know this is dumb and I will never say anything like this again.

She wasn't really embarrassing me or anyone. I was drinking with her too. It only escalated when we go to her place because I tested her by trying to leave and said hurtful things. She didn't really do anything like I said, she just got really drunk and pushed me away after I said those things.

It's not done and it's actually stronger. We made up last night and the night before. We're good. We're still learning each other. I just want to learn myself how to be calm and not get heated so easily. I'm the one who might be needing help not her.

I'm overwhelmed with all the responses. Thanks to all.

 

[GetFit66]

Why don't you just stand your ground instead of being a wuss, let her know it isn't even worth talking about as you were both drunk. And let her come back to you.

If she doesn't, it just confirms what frog said.

 

[Mr_Stinky]

First of all, you only dated her for 3 months...so that is nothing.

Second, she is a drunk and drinks a lot.....that is your pet peeve

Third, you don't know that much about her yet....hell, you didn't even know she likes to drink a lot.

Fourth, she flipped the script on you and turned you into the bad guy

Fifth, she now has you believing that this is your fault, that you are to blame, when it was HER behavior that caused the problem.

Sixth, there was no need to be begging or crying

Seventh, she is using the "you broke my heart" line to end the relationship

Eighth, she used this "fight" as a way to break up with you

Ninth, the relationship is over because she wants it to be over, she was looking for a way out and she got it.

Tenth, quit crying over a drunken party chick...find another chick who won't turn on you and isn't a pet peeve of yours.


I've said this before...in fact, I just said this in another thread!!

Chicks do this sh!t all the time when they want to dump guy....first they turn the dude into a bad guy, then they start a fight, then they break up with him during the fight!!

The guy immediately apologizes and begs forgiveness, but she doesn't want to hear any of it...then the guy believes it was all his fault that the break up happened and that he hurt her....even when it was all her fault!!

She can do whatever she wants now because she is free of the guy and holds all the power

This is just a power play manipulation tactic that chicks use against you....you fell victim to it.

You can never "win her back"....she doesn't want you back....don't be a fool....she broke up with you because she wanted to get rid of you...and that she did....move on because this chick isn't worth it.

Chicks do this when they are looking for a way out of the relationship....they will find any excuse they can to a start fight and ultimately end the relationship...which is what she did with you!!

Chicks use an excuse to as why they can no longer be with you...her excuse is that "you broke her heart"

No matter what to try to say or do, you will always be the bad guy according to her.

She has the perfect excuse dude.....what the hell can you do? Nothing!!

Every time you beg or cry to get her back, she will refuse and say "you broke my heart"

She played you for a fool, and turned on you on a dime...you really want a chick like that?

She holds the trump card and has the power over this relationship...which is to break up with you and end it for good.

If this chick really cared for you, would she turn on you and break up with you? No, she would be upset, but not break up over something minor.

She knew what she was doing....she had her chance to do it......she seized the moment...then she dumped you.

People just don't break up like that....Opportunists use a heat of the moment fights to break up with you.

You said she gets wasted with her friends and they have to take care of her....you are tired of dating party chicks....no matter what she says or has you to believe, she is just like all the others...you just don't know her well enough yet.

Chicks who get wasted regularly with friends make bad judgments...they are all the same, no matter what they try to claim.

Don't be surprised to find out she is banging another guy who she says is there for "support" LOL

Find a chick who doesn't get wasted all the time and one who won't dump you in the heat of the moment.

Came in to quote most of this. Please read and digest this. It is very good advice

 

[El Suave]

she tested you...