I made tinder recently and got some matches. But most the girls seem rude as ****.

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I made tinder recently and got some matches.

But most the girls seem rude as ****.

My opening line is 'hi how are you'

and most of them will say Im fine or im good.

I thought it was basic manners to ask how the other person is then continue the convo? So I unmatch all of them ones because it probably means theyre not interested. But why would they match and reply if theyre not interested?

Also does anyone have any better opening lines or ways to get into more interesting convo faster? I cant stand to talk about her job or 'get to know her' cos i genuinely do not care. they are all so uninteresting

 

[Zimbabwe]

The issue is over saturation. Women get so many responses, that they over inflate their actual desirability. It becomes a HUGE ego boost for them. Who doesn't love to be flattered by all that attention? They feel they have to put zero effort into building a relationship, because they know that there will be 100 more men tomorrow to choose from.
The answer, men should boycott dating apps. It is our own fault that we are so lazy that we allow ourselves to be placed in a position of always having to be the aggressor, always competing for a woman's attention. If men didn't accept the role forced on us by these apps, they would fail miserably. Until we quit chasing, we will continue to be led around by our own desires.

 

[Black Widow Void]

You ask a generic question – you receive a generic answer.

Here’s a question for you: Why would a woman go out of her way to continue conversation to such a cliché’d opener?

Back when I did online, I also received the same “how are you” intro from women.

Her: “How are you?”
Me: “I’d be doing better, if I did not receive a generic intro message from the typical dime-a-dozen type woman.”

I got blocked by at least half, 25% would respond with anger and the other 25% would roll with it and attempt to prove themselves to be different and better than their initial impression.

 

[Dr.Suave]

@EyeBRollin has a better script than mine, but heres what got me success recently. Hope it helps:

Text One: "Hey girl. How´s ur weekend going?" When matching during weekend. If matching Monday/Tuesday it was "Hey girl. How was your weekend?". If matching Wednesday/Thursday "Hey girl. Any cool plans for the upcoming weekend?"
Her: Bla bla bla

Next text: "Cool. What do you enjoy doing with your free time?"
Her: bla bla bla

If we have suff in common:

"Looks like we have a lot in common. Im craving my favorite sushi place, wanna meet 5:30ish pm next saturday?" Maybe Im implying that since we have stuff in common I wanna get to know her better.

If we dont have that much in common:

"I live in X city by Y mall. Anything interesting near your house?"
Her: Bla bla bla
"My favorite Burger place is very close to your house. Wanna meet Next saturday evening and grab a bite?"

If there was a new movie I actually wanted to see.
"I wanna watch the new Marvel movie. Lets go on day 1 to avoid spoilers. My favorite movie place has a show at 6pm"

No long texts. No double texting. No over-talking or over-sharing. STFU, Keep it simple and more or less mirror her response time.

So she showed up at the date. Cool. At the end tell her something like "Text me when u are home safe". When she texts u shes home, I just reply "Descansa" which is similar to have a good nights sleep or something like that. Dissappear 1-3 days and ask her out again.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I made tinder recently and got some matches.

But most the girls seem rude as ****.

My opening line is 'hi how are you'

and most of them will say Im fine or im good.

I thought it was basic manners to ask how the other person is then continue the convo? So I unmatch all of them ones because it probably means theyre not interested. But why would they match and reply if theyre not interested?

Also does anyone have any better opening lines or ways to get into more interesting convo faster? I cant stand to talk about her job or 'get to know her' cos i genuinely do not care. they are all so uninteresting

Best not to unmatch. It angers Tinder’s algorithm. And puts your card further down.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Chill bro. It’s not that serious. This was my exact script on all dating apps:


Hey how are you?

I’m fine. You?

Glad to hear. I am well.. just planning my next trip. Did you travel often before the pandemic?

Yes, blah blah blah (woman speak)

Oh cool! Where was your last memorable trip?

I went to Mexico. It was blah blah blah

Nice. I’ve never been to Mexico. Tell me about it over a drink?

That sounds fun. (At this point roughly 30% of girls would comment how smooth the Segway into a date was)

Great, let’s meet at Bobs bar Thursday at 7 pm. Sound good?
Bobs Bar
Street Name
City, State, Zip

Ok

Is that a yes?

Yes.

Great, so I will see you there?

Yes!

Perfect. See you there 888-888-8888 if you need to reach me.

Thanks EyeBRollin. 999-999-9999

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I made tinder recently and got some matches.

But most the girls seem rude as ****.

My opening line is 'hi how are you'

and most of them will say Im fine or im good.

I thought it was basic manners to ask how the other person is then continue the convo? So I unmatch all of them ones because it probably means theyre not interested. But why would they match and reply if theyre not interested?

Also does anyone have any better opening lines or ways to get into more interesting convo faster? I cant stand to talk about her job or 'get to know her' cos i genuinely do not care. they are all so uninteresting

When I was on. I would read her bio. Listen to her Spotify. Look at her IG. (And pics, of course). I would try to find some hook that she displayed that I could riff on when contacting her.

 

[RangerMIke]

Women have learned that it is better to just be rude to get rid of a guy they are not interested in than to be polite. In your case it worked, they were rude, and you went away. Don't take it personal.... every woman I know has a story about some dude they were trying to be nice to just not get the fvcking message they are not interested.

If she's not feeling it right from the start 90% of the time nothing is going to happen.... really nothing you can do about it but just move onto the next one. Don't let it mess with your karma or confidence, and don't take it personal.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I made tinder recently and got some matches.

But most the girls seem rude as ****.

My opening line is 'hi how are you'

and most of them will say Im fine or im good.

I thought it was basic manners to ask how the other person is then continue the convo? So I unmatch all of them ones because it probably means theyre not interested. But why would they match and reply if theyre not interested?

Also does anyone have any better opening lines or ways to get into more interesting convo faster? I cant stand to talk about her job or 'get to know her' cos i genuinely do not care. they are all so uninteresting

Because you are boring like 95% of the other guys on there. Be original. Stand out.

If you got the same boring message 20x a day, why would you respond with much?

You are just grouping yourself in with 95% of the other guys right off the bat.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Here’s a question for you: Why would a woman go out of her way to continue conversation to such a cliché’d opener?

It's about looks and interesting profile. I've tried every type of opener I could think of.I would make funny openers, philosophical openers based on their profile, simple, complex, snarky, direct, sweet ect.... My profile pics were bad, and profile bare so I fell flat.

 

[Konada]

Honestly the bar is set so low on OLD that you just have to text like a normal person and you will stand out different.

If a dude is on OLD and messages a chick, the chick inherently knows you are there to meet women/bang. You don't have to go through the whole routine of spitting game. Show intention and that you're not a clown, you will get the date easily.

"How are you" does not work because it is generic and does not lead the conversation. The woman can feel sad that her dog died and also happy that alpha chad banged her on the same day, wtf is she supposed to tell you?

A question like EyeBRollin suggested leads the conversation into travel. I prefer asking about her experience on OLD and segway it into a meeting.

This is my exact script I used:
Me: Hi
Girl: Hi
Me: Hey I think you are pretty attractive How's OLD treating you so far?
Girl: Not much... quite boring etc etc.. How about you?
Me: Its ok, had a few interesting conversations here and there. I'm not on here much but I'd like to get to know you more in person When are you free for a drink/coffee?

I asked my fiance why did she decide to go out with me despite not building comfort. She said it was because I was "different" from all the other dudes blowing up her phone for a week before asking for the date.

Its simple lads, don't overcomplicate things.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Honestly the bar is set so low on OLD that you just have to text like a normal person and you will stand out different.

If a dude is on OLD and messages a chick, the chick inherently knows you are there to meet women/bang. You don't have to go through the whole routine of spitting game. Show intention and that you're not a clown, you will get the date easily.

"How are you" does not work because it is generic and does not lead the conversation. The woman can feel sad that her dog died and also happy that alpha chad banged her on the same day, wtf is she supposed to tell you?

A question like EyeBRollin suggested leads the conversation into travel. I prefer asking about her experience on OLD and segway it into a meeting.

This is my exact script I used:
Me: Hi
Girl: Hi
Me: Hey I think you are pretty attractive How's OLD treating you so far?
Girl: Not much... quite boring etc etc.. How about you?
Me: Its ok, had a few interesting conversations here and there. I'm not on here much but I'd like to get to know you more in person When are you free for a drink/coffee?

I asked my fiance why did she decide to go out with me despite not building comfort. She said it was because I was "different" from all the other dudes blowing up her phone for a week before asking for the date.

Its simple lads, don't overcomplicate things.

My current gf told me something similar. "You are different, not like the other guys calling me beautiful all the time" "I broke all my rules for you" "I dont know why we got too sexual so fast". Guess we did something right