I made a move on a female friend and she said it was awkward and I was creepy

[yuppaz]

What Jariel said was spot on. Don't take this as a set back in your progression in dating, instead the learning lesson is that you need to pay much closer attention to social cues, body language and underlying subtexts. I'm sure there were 100 ways that if you were paying attention to the unspoken situation with her (her seeming uncomfortable, her not giving you "the eyes" or liking your touch and touching back) would have clued you in that she wasn't interested. And then knowing that, would basically tell you that things probably weren't going to go anywhere with her (yet or ever). You also need to look at why even though she wasn't into it, you couldn't care less what her feelings were and you kept going anyway. Where was the empathy and the respect for another human being? Why did you feel the need so bad to hook up with her? It's one thing to spend time with someone you are on a date or something with and she likes you but isn't comfortable enough yet, and therefore the need to chill and try again later and another where it's just hanging out with a girl you know and it's inappropriate to take that action.

This is where experience is a good teacher, start really paying close attention to the situations you are in, in order to take the correct action in the correct time.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Don't dwell on it, making a move and getting shut down is WAAAAY better than mentally masturbating over it forever and being one of her many orbiters.

Secondly when a girl says:

Your creepy = I'm not attracted to you


What you did was not creepy at all, it was fine and the right move IF the girl was attracted to you.

What bothers me about your post more than anything is you clearly saw that she was NOT interested yet you still decided to try and make a move. This is a little bit of desperation and mis-calibration on your part.

What you should've done is bring social proof around her; girls that have only known the NEW you and are interested & attracted to you. If you ever had a shot at her, this would likely make her at least somewhat intrigued by the "new you" if she ever was gonna be.

But in either case, I'm glad you made a move; now you don't need to waste your time on this chick anymore and can start finding interested prospects.







PIMP

 

[Deicide]

What Jariel said was spot on. Don't take this as a set back in your progression in dating, instead the learning lesson is that you need to pay much closer attention to social cues, body language and underlying subtexts. I'm sure there were 100 ways that if you were paying attention to the unspoken situation with her (her seeming uncomfortable, her not giving you "the eyes" or liking your touch and touching back) would have clued you in that she wasn't interested. And then knowing that, would basically tell you that things probably weren't going to go anywhere with her (yet or ever). You also need to look at why even though she wasn't into it, you couldn't care less what her feelings were and you kept going anyway. Where was the empathy and the respect for another human being? Why did you feel the need so bad to hook up with her? It's one thing to spend time with someone you are on a date or something with and she likes you but isn't comfortable enough yet, and therefore the need to chill and try again later and another where it's just hanging out with a girl you know and it's inappropriate to take that action.

This is where experience is a good teacher, start really paying close attention to the situations you are in, in order to take the correct action in the correct time.

Because it'd be good to add another girl to my plate spinning line-up. And it makes me feel good when I've successfully kissed or had sex with a girl. I feel happy on my own without women, but it gives me something else when I have success with them, some form of self-validation, which, even I admit probably isn't healthy. I'm from a small town, so unfortunately, there is a sort of scarcity complex to finding single women here. I am working on getting out of here and moving up in the world though.

 

[djokovic77]

What a stuck up f8cking piece of garbage. Never contact her again, forget her, eliminate her from your life. Don't give her the satisfaction of thinking you care what she thinks. Just move on, be a man.