i love you
- Thread starter Pakwah
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InLawsHateMe
Master Don Juan
Anytime you say it, it's probably too soon.
FlyGuy
Master Don Juan
Everyone is different, but the idea here is to avoid chasing her off by saying it too soon. I'd say you want to wait at least 5-6 months after seeing a girl regularly. That's me though.
Sir Shags Alot
Senior Don Juan
I wait for her to say it first!
You never stated whether or not you actually DO love her. But I'll assume you do, in which case it might be wisest to wait until she tells you she loves you before you tell her. It's something that should be used sparingly, as another poster suggests, otherwise it loses its worth. You can say it once, and mean it, and convince her you meant it, and then not say it again for a while, by which time she may be wondering why you haven't said it lately. Then when you say it again, it will have reassuring value to her. Just as long as no woman gets to think of you as hers unconditionally at any time, I think that's the thing to be borne in mind. Some DJs might call this "being a challenge".
dontmindme
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Right before penetration.
Beebo
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I had a girl tell me when i did not love her back and it made the moment really awkward cuz i did not know what to say back. Cuz of that, my current gf asked me that question, who should say it first and i said the guy. Only cuz i did not want to get stuck again. Though i could see myself saying it back, though not for a while, i choose not to abuse those words. Especially if you have something worth holding onto. I think she asked me that cuz she was thinking of saying it. So i think when i say it, it should be good.
rastlin2021
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when you are proposing to her...
Broadband
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I've been dating a girl for 14 months and have yet to tell her I love her even when i hear it multiple times a day. I honestly don't know how I should feel before saying it thus it has remained unsaid.
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
LMFAO!!!! I went to school with you! Since I somewhat know you, you REALLY need to read the DJ bible.
An appropriate time would be when you're in a LTR with her. This is the only place the word "love" belongs. If you're not exclusive with the girl, then the word "love" would have more of a negative effect than a positive one.
trajhenkhet
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Jake Steed had a really good line on this one. Something about how talk of relationships shouldn't come out of your mouth till you've come in hers. Classic.
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
True, you cannot develope the feeling of love on command, but you can protect yourself from falling in love too quickly. Becoming blinded by emotion will only lead to trouble and heartbreak.
A person should hold himself back from becoming too emotionally involved in a woman, until he has become exclusive with the woman. However, this doesn't mean that you tell her right after you become exclusive. Becoming exclusive only means that you're focusing on one woman, and you're willing to give up all your other options to spend more time with her and get to know her better. THIS is what should lead to love, and telling those words that let her know you mean it.
Judging from Pakwah's first post entitled "25 and lonely", I highly doubt he's in an exclusive relationship.
Dee-Zy
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