Originally posted by triple_ultima
Part of this is because I just recently stopped taking paxil, whic as you may or may not know, is a druf used to treat social anxiety disorder. One of the effects of withdrawal is depression...
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O.k, first of all dude. Calm down, take a deep breath. All is not lost.
Give her a little space, don't focus on trying to get her back, if you guys were close, chances are she will contact you. Otherwise wait a few weeks, either A the pain will lessen or B. That should be long enough to wait to maybe just give her a casual hello call, but don't try to get her back, just see how she's been, keep it light, and don't talk for too long. She'll probably decide she misses at least talking to you, and you can work, slowly from there.
Here's another thought, you're both young, even though this isn't what you want to hear, it's totally true; THERE WILL BE OTHERS. You will meet so many more girls that will replace her. I was in the same situation as you when I was you're age. I had severe depression, topped with generalized anxiety, (meaning I get extremely nervous around other people, large groups would make me break out in heavy sweats and I couldn't breath). Anyway, I was on every anti depressant available at the time, and nothing worked, I thought of suicide on an almost daily basis, and couldn't even go to school for awhile because of how depressed and nervous I was. I didn't care about my life so I felt there was no point in getting an education. The doctors thought I'd be chronically depressed by the way, that I was one of the few people who are unresponsive to drug therapy. Anyway, I just cut my anti depressant one day, stopped going to the public school and went through alternative ed. Slowely my self esteem started to creep back up and here I am now about 6 years later, more confident than ever, able to enjoy life, and having way better luck with women. I used to get really attached to the ones I was with, and yeah it hurt to break up, that's understandable.
But I can honestly say, every chick I meet after the ones I last broke up with is better, and better. You will meet someone new, rarely is the first girl you're with going to be the one. Right now, focus on yourself, do things that make you happy. I got into playing guitar, painting, and writing, that helped me focus on me, and I clawed myway out of hell. Believe me, you can do this! Once you build yourself up, you won't need anyone else. Confront your fears, don't give into them. Anyway, I wrote a lot more than I'd planned, but I guess you reminded me off myself when I was that age, and don't want to see someone else go through the same ****. Hope this helps. Good luck!
