I knew this would happen!

[Dude_man123]

So yeah, the girl I have been after for a little while finally gets attracted to me, great. The problem? She started texting me almost nonstop. Its cool, I don't mind talking to her, but I was scared if we talked a WHOLE lot, friendship would occur, or we would just get bored of each other quickly.

If I didn't txt her back, about 30 mins later she would txt me and be like, hey, what happened? If I said I had something to do, there would be questions, and what not... so I never really got away.

Anyway, she has gone on vacation. First part was a wedding, second to the beach. During the wedding part we txted a decent ammount. On the day of the wedding we didn't txt at all, I assume because it was the day of the wedding, and the next day she txts me and says she went to a party that night and got drunk. Ok, cool. I had to go to work, so I said I'll text you back later.

After work I text her and it felt like the conversation wasn't going anywhere, so I just said "sounds like you dont want to talk so I'll let you go"

I left the house, without my phone, cause I was annoyed that it just doesn't seem like this relationship, which is JUST STARTING, isn't even working... I come home about two hours later, she has left two messages, one saying, nah your fine, I was driving earlier, the second message said he whats up (probably sent later, when I couldn't reply to the first) so I text her back, and find out that she was currently drinking, I make a small sex joke, and just didn't bother carrying on a conversation.

So heres the issue, I think we txted so much she has lost interest. Today she hasn't even txted me. Either that or she is just having a lot of fun on vacation and isn't bothered about home right now. We aren't officially going out, but we were kinda sorta planning on it, so anything can happen right now.

It just feels like its over before it started. There was nothing I could do though, she kept texting me... :-\

And if she does speak to me again, while on this vacation, should I talk back? or just ignore it? Make her miss me maybe? IDK. I need to build more attraction, because I think it is slipping.

 

[Dude_man123]

Ok, so I have thought this over and decided that I am not going to txt her this time until she txts me first. Make her start to think I am busy, not thinking about her, at least that possibly up attraction some.

When she does text me (I am sure she will) I won't return it for a few hours... or maybe not till the next day.

I hate doing this though because I wouldn't like it if someone did that to me... but im not a chick. I am probably just overreacting, I mean, she is on vacation... It's just realllllyyyy bad timing, because things were starting to pick up for us...

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Edit: Just stop texting her so much. Make her wonder what your doing. I wouldn't even bother texting her, just call her up if you want to talk. But, keep it short.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I tell everyone I meet that I pay for texts extra cause my cell plan sucks so please dont text me unless its really important. It seems to work. Then text only when it is really important - which is usually pretty much never.

The only time I can think of when I needed to text someone was when I was meeting someone so I sent them a text with my location cause I knew I wouldn't have reception there.

 

[speakeasy]

What the **** is up with txting back and forth like that? Why not just get on the phone and have a real ****ing conversation?

 

[NickBe]

What is up with all the texting do you now have anything better to do?

 

[Monkey]

Ask her out on a date and turn off your phone!

 

[Obsidian]

Tell the broad that you don't do texts and you don't talk on the phone for more than two minutes at a time.

Then tell her to quit f*cking around on vacation and to get her a$$ back in town if she wants to chat with you (in person).


You want to have your problem summed up in two words? Text messages.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Tell the broad that you don't do texts and you don't talk on the phone for more than two minutes at a time.

Then tell her to quit f*cking around on vacation and to get her a$$ back in town if she wants to chat with you (in person).


You want to have your problem summed up in two words? Text messages.

Succinctly put young brother!

Remember this always:

Chicks text thier girlfriends. If you get a text and reply to a chick, guess what you've become. . ."

 

[Dude_man123]

Hmm, well one time I txted her and told her to call me and she did. But she says she gets a bad signal in her room :-\ But yeah, I guess I'll stop txting her, cause it does cost me money...

We are supposed to go out sometime when she gets back (got to check work schedules) but I am not even sure if its going to happen now. But then again, she could just be having a good time.

 

[Public_eNemy]

I like to pretend I'm not that interested, it drives them crazy !

 

[Obsidian]

We are supposed to go out sometime when she gets back (got to check work schedules) but I am not even sure if its going to happen now.

Just wait 2-3 days after you know she's back in town, then call her up and set up a meeting.

 

[Dude_man123]

Im going to start doing that. Like, before she left I was doing that, somewhat. I mean, she knew I was interested, but I guess she wasn't 100% sure. Then I cut that out a bit (shouldn't have done that)

For example, she was talking about going on vacation and she was like, are you gonna miss me? and I was like, well, are you going to txt me? and she said yeah, I always have my phone, and I said, good, you wouldn't want me to forget about you. (sorta AFC, but then switched around...) Anyway, by not txting her yesterday, not planning on it today, or well, at all till she txts me, I can use this again, to make her think I forgot about her. Heck, I told her to txt me so I wouldn't forget about her... and she isn't, so its all good, right?

The first day she was gone she txted me and was like, so do you miss me yet. I said Not yet, do you miss me? and she said yeah. Unfortunately later in the convo I said I was just messing with her (I need to stop doing that!)

 

[Dude_man123]

Just wait 2-3 days after you know she's back in town, then call her up and set up a meeting.

We work together... so yeah. I am planning to do this, cause before she left she said we have to hang out together. But it just seems like she has low interest levels right now, not sure if its me, or if its just because she been having fun on vacation... but if her IL is low right (not really sure...) then chances are she wont take me up on my offer when she gets back, or she'll flake out.

(BTW, we are teenagers...)

 

[Obsidian]

if her IL is low right now then you need to forget about her and move on because she's too flaky to bother with. However, you oughta wait at least a couple days after she gets back because if you call her right when she gets home, that will LOWER her IL regardless.

But yeah, her IL might not be real high. If not, just go ahead and ask her, and don't worry if she says no. Also, if she gives any kind of lukewarm response, such as "maybe" or "call me again that day to make sure I'm still up for it," I'd drop her.

 

[Dude_man123]

if her IL is low right now then you need to forget about her and move on because she's too flaky to bother with. However, you oughta wait at least a couple days after she gets back because if you call her right when she gets home, that will LOWER her IL regardless.

But yeah, her IL might not be real high. If not, just go ahead and ask her, and don't worry if she says no. Also, if she gives any kind of lukewarm response, such as "maybe" or "call me again that day to make sure I'm still up for it," I'd drop her.

Got ya. All I know is her IL was high before she left. I don't even know how to approach her now that I feel like her IL is lower now. Feels like a waste of time, but I still could just be overreacting. I hope so anyway.