I Keep Going Off/Getting Worse

[Julian]

i dont see the problem here?


@Tenacity

bro own your ****, if this is how you feel then you are justified to feel that way and there is nothing wrong with it. you arent physically harming anyone or harrassing people then its all fair game.

Id actually like to thank you for doing such a great service and letting these hoes know where they are wrong. if more alpha males stepped up and banged these hoes then teach them a lesson on values it might change things.

On the flip side, just because you aren't a criminal or a drug dealer doesnt mean you arent a scumbag. Plenty of professionals out there who are lowly..id rather have dinner with a thug drug dealer then with some of the slimy individuals in the corporate world. an education and a job doesnt make anyone less of a piece of sh1t. and just because someone has been arrested or sold drugs doesnt make them a horrible scumbag.


i also get what ur sayin tho...my exgf was dating some fat fuk lowlife and i always looked down on her for it, couldnt respect her...because here I am..10 levels above her exbf and 90% of the male population period, so this ***** should be feeling like she hit the jackpot you feel me?

Ultimately judge not lest ye be judged...who cares who these females got banged out before you hit it...these hoes belong to everybody...and remember...shes not yours...its just your turn.

 

[Juanto]

Tenacity has turned this forum into the Moansphere. My advice: leave the forum, stop complaining and move on with your (real) life.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

@Tenacity isnt exaggerating. As a black man this is true for our culture. If you think about it, it's true for all cultures.

WOMEN like men with sociopathic tendacies at their core. This is like complaining why men like good looking women and not fat hogs.

The answer to this riddle...if you choose to do this is to lower your standards on looks. You know it, I know it. You can't complain about the "soul"...yet feel you are perfection and complain when we know the real answer to this riddle is you can't seem to get past a certain appearance.

You have to cancel out the future aspect by accepting the good of their past by the fact they were never in the ballgame. The ball game is also won via the future because looks wise...they don't have a chance. And yes, I know, what you are trading off will be unfortunately accepting a female who's not only the greatest to look at...but never has the chance to go for the bad guy in the future so she'll be insecure.

But bro This will always be the answer. Looks. Looks. Looks.

But that is the game and the cards are what they are. Unicorns and perfection does not exist. You can't eat soup with a fork.

I feel for you because you want the great looking black broad who has a fat girls mindset without the insecurity. But I'm trying to keep this post as simple as possible.

If I said one thing in this post that I want you to remember it's: are you willing to date a nice sweet fat whale?

 

[amazingswayze]

You really shouldn't be surprised. You already know that women don't make rational choices about who they screw. Why does it bother you so much? Because you aren't at the top of their high score list? It sounds like you haven't fully swallowed TRP bro...

 

[TheProspect]

Because women aren't what you want them to be, you get pissed off and yell at them? That's childish. Getting upset and going off on anyone for something trivial (and it is trivial) that you have no control over is completely foolish and unnecessary. There is no justifying such behaviour. This is what teenage girls do.

Difference between you and thug is a thug doesn't give a fvck what a woman thinks of him nor does he care who she's been with before him or who she's going to be with after him.

Allowing your mental well-being to rest on whether the women you meet live flawless admirable lives is just plain stupid.

That ideal woman you're seeking is never gonna be attracted or interested in you simply because you're emotionally unstable and prone to hostility. Fortunately for them, water seeps its own level. "Good" women are doing themselves a favor of avoiding you and your temper.

No quality woman (yes, they exist.. and yes, they probably sucked a cock before that wasn't yours) wants to be with a sissy. It doesn't take you verbally beating women as a hobby to realize that deep down you are unhappy as fvck, as well as desperate for (and expect) validation from women because you have a nice car and some money in your bank account. Outside of finances, you offer NO real value to to quality women and you know it. Women know it. I know it. My grandma with dementia knows it and she doesn't even know her name. Volatile emotional outbursts are usually seen in teenage girls, not 30-year old men... it's of no surprise to anyone here that a single "quality" woman hasn't even had a remote interest in you and your aura of self-pity.

 

[thatfeel]

tenacity just needs to leave flint, michigan already. let the supposed low quality women there to drink the brown water.

and stop b!tching like a little girl.

 

[Urbanyst]

The honest reason I haven't moved yet in relation to this.......is because I don't know where to move to? This is happening wide scale across the board, everywhere in America.

I don't think there's a black or white woman ALIVE that hasn't been with a thug or criminal in some capacity. Where exactly am I supposed to find an American woman that hasn't done this and move to that particular area where they all reside? Does that area even exist?

Like even the women on this board, like BeExcellent, Penkitten, and SAZC....I'm willing to bet you they have been with thugs/criminals at some point in time as well.

Try moving to Washington DC or Atlanta if you like EDUCATED black women who value MONEY. Those two cities have a lot of black SNOBS. Trust me.

And the thug/criminal thing can boil down to being young and dumb. We are all young and dumb at one point in life. I've dated some trash myself. The thug/criminal is exciting and younger women like adventure.

You also have to figure that if they didn't date losers in the past, they would probably still be with the quality guy now and you would never get the chance to date them. Maybe try to snag a girl fresh out of college with less dating history. I know most girls are high mileage by the time college ends, but not as high mileage as a women in her upper 20's or early 30's.

 

[Urbanyst]

Yes, they are dating/fvcking me, but why? Why don't like the thug/criminal anymore? Is there some sort of agenda here? I can't get my questions answered.....

There is ALWAYS an agenda with women bro. Don't worry about her agenda, worry about yours.

I know some women I've dated did it for image/status. Don't care though.

Women and men are designed to use each other. We are not really designed to totally bond and trust each other. Every woman you date will use you. Just make sure you're also using her.

 

[Tenacity]

Thanks for the responses guys.

Most of you seem to be saying that the issue I'm bringing up with women fvcking thugs/deadbeats is childplay and trival, yet......

- One of the main reasons I grew up without a Father in my life was the result of a woman fvcking a thug/deadbeat.

- When you take a look at the jail/prison systems, they are majority filled by men who had a Father that was a thug/deadbeat.

- When you take a look at the black community, 80% of the households are single mother and the vast majority of the missing Fathers are thugs/deadbeats.

I don't understand why I'm the ONLY man in America, that is disgusted by this shyt. I read the comments you guys make and you are telling me:

* Tenacity, go see another therapist, you just have bent up family issues.

* Tenacity, move go another city or country.

* Tenacity, stop whining bro, be a real man bro.

* Tenacity, if you keep getting ticked off about this, a quality woman won't want you bro.

Why isn't the question EVER as to WHY in the FVCK are these bytches continuing to fvck, date, and pro-create with thugs, criminals, and deadbeats? Huh?? Huh?? Why the fvck isn't that ever the god damn question??

But noooo......women aren't held responsible for shyt. You see I should be "happy" you guys say, after all, I'm getting pvssy right? I'm getting dates right? I should just sit down, eat/bang her pvssy, and be happy, right??

FVCK...THAT....SHYT. What these bytches are doing is wrong god damn it, it's wronggggg. And no amount of ran over pvssy is going to shut me up about the shyt. I want these bytches to PAY and SUFFER for the god damn pain and sins they have put on society!

 

[switch7]

I'd say you expect a lot from people perhaps... No one is perfect, people fvck up, perfect doesn't exist.

I think you also got issues with coming from a family where your dad was a 'deadbeat'. Perhaps you think that makes you a deadbeat by default so you do everything you can to be the opposite of that like working your ass off and hating on deadbeats.

Not sure if you know your dad or not, but my guess is you haven't forgiven him. Maybe you should look at that.

 

[Trainwreck]

Thanks for the responses guys.

Most of you seem to be saying that the issue I'm bringing up with women fvcking thugs/deadbeats is childplay and trival, yet......

- One of the main reasons I grew up without a Father in my life was the result of a woman fvcking a thug/deadbeat.

- When you take a look at the jail/prison systems, they are majority filled by men who had a Father that was a thug/deadbeat.

- When you take a look at the black community, 80% of the households are single mother and the vast majority of the missing Fathers are thugs/deadbeats.

I don't understand why I'm the ONLY man in America, that is disgusted by this shyt. I read the comments you guys make and you are telling me:

* Tenacity, go see another therapist, you just have bent up family issues.

* Tenacity, move go another city or country.

* Tenacity, stop whining bro, be a real man bro.

* Tenacity, if you keep getting ticked off about this, a quality woman won't want you bro.

Why isn't the question EVER as to WHY in the FVCK are these bytches continuing to fvck, date, and pro-create with thugs, criminals, and deadbeats? Huh?? Huh?? Why the fvck isn't that ever the god damn question??

But noooo......women aren't held responsible for shyt. You see I should be "happy" you guys say, after all, I'm getting pvssy right? I'm getting dates right? I should just sit down, eat/bang her pvssy, and be happy, right??

FVCK...THAT....SHYT. What these bytches are doing is wrong god damn it, it's wronggggg. And no amount of ran over pvssy is going to shut me up about the shyt. I want these bytches to PAY and SUFFER for the god damn pain and sins they have put on society!

You know the exact reason why but you don't want to acknowledge it lol.

 

[Urbanyst]

Thanks for the responses guys.

Most of you seem to be saying that the issue I'm bringing up with women fvcking thugs/deadbeats is childplay and trival, yet......

- One of the main reasons I grew up without a Father in my life was the result of a woman fvcking a thug/deadbeat.

- When you take a look at the jail/prison systems, they are majority filled by men who had a Father that was a thug/deadbeat.

- When you take a look at the black community, 80% of the households are single mother and the vast majority of the missing Fathers are thugs/deadbeats.

I don't understand why I'm the ONLY man in America, that is disgusted by this shyt. I read the comments you guys make and you are telling me:

* Tenacity, go see another therapist, you just have bent up family issues.

* Tenacity, move go another city or country.

* Tenacity, stop whining bro, be a real man bro.

* Tenacity, if you keep getting ticked off about this, a quality woman won't want you bro.

Why isn't the question EVER as to WHY in the FVCK are these bytches continuing to fvck, date, and pro-create with thugs, criminals, and deadbeats? Huh?? Huh?? Why the fvck isn't that ever the god damn question??

But noooo......women aren't held responsible for shyt. You see I should be "happy" you guys say, after all, I'm getting pvssy right? I'm getting dates right? I should just sit down, eat/bang her pvssy, and be happy, right??

FVCK...THAT....SHYT. What these bytches are doing is wrong god damn it, it's wronggggg. And no amount of ran over pvssy is going to shut me up about the shyt. I want these bytches to PAY and SUFFER for the god damn pain and sins they have put on society!

Its because thugs/deadbeats are exciting to women. They are excited by the taboo and the danger.

As women age and have more to lose, they start to shy away from those men. Its really not that complex.

 

[Trainwreck]

Its because thugs/deadbeats are exciting to women. They are excited by the taboo and the danger.

As women age and have more to lose, they start to shy away from those men. Its really not that complex.

but it's worse in the black community. Sally Sue the average white girl might go thru a bad boy phase in middle school, but you won't see her literally screwing some street thug while she's in college or at her career. She's going at least stay within her economic status. She'll go and screw around with some hipster bum living off his parents money but you won't see her going to impoverished areas and ****** with white trash bums. In addition, the white women that go for black men have in my opinion more worse standards than black women.

 

[sazc]

I think everyone here HAS acknowledged that situation - what they are doing is wrong.

My interpretation of your original post was that you were asking for help as to how to stop being so angry about this situation slash going off on chicks whom had made the overt decision to date/get pregs by someone whom they knew was 'unsavory' by traditional standards. It seemed that, aside from some off shoot posts, most ppl were trying to help you make sense of these thoughts by chiming in with their perceptions. I didn't read anyone who said "hells yea! those choices are some quality thinking there!' It just doesn't seem to affect people to the very core of their being, like it does you. It doesn't stop them from finding what they want from females, not like it stops you. Thinking this way not only makes you angry, but it makes you unhappy because it stops you from getting what you want. It's self defeating for what you say you are after. Question - are you using this to stop yourself from connecting with someone? Is this actually a self protective behavior? If no one is good enough, you never have to get vulnerable with anyone.

So you want these females to pay and suffer for their choices, got it. Did you simply want a platform to vent about it, and that is what you are doing? Or did you want us to help you make them pay somehow? If so, how?

The core of my question, legitamately, is - what do you need? how can everyone help you?

 

[Tenacity]

The core of my question, legitamately, is - what do you need? how can everyone help you?

I don't know. I can tell you more about how I feel? This is going to be a pretty good analogy to use in this situation.

- I feel like MLK in 1950's. There was a major, major, major problem in society that was going on that was destroying lives, destroying families, and destroying relations (racism).

- But society had NORMALIZED the problem to the point of where very few people even believed it was a major problem anymore.

- So MLK (who could have just spent his time with his wife, his kids, and making money doing other things) decided he would dedicate a PORTION of his life to tackling the major, major, major problem in society.

- In the process of this, he is called every name in the book, even by the people that his tackling of the problem would help make their lives better.

- In the end, he was killed.

- Long after he's gone.....people FINALLY realized the problem he was trying to tackle and realized just how BIG it was, to the point that they have to "apologize multiple times" and they halt MLK as a HERO.

I feel like I'm in the same shoes. No, I'm not MLK, but everybody on this board has agreed with me that what these pieces of fvcking SHYT women are doing is WRONG, yet.....it's become so NORMAL in society that nobody (but me) wants to TACKLE IT.

 

[Urbanyst]

but it's worse in the black community. Sally Sue the average white girl might go thru a bad boy phase in middle school, but you won't see her literally screwing some street thug while she's in college or at her career. She's going at least stay within her economic status. She'll go and screw around with some hipster bum living off his parents money but you won't see her going to impoverished areas and ****** with white trash bums. In addition, the white women that go for black men have in my opinion more worse standards than black women.

Black women have less men to choose from. Successful black men with MONEY are a very low percentage of the black population. Plus, many non-black men don't even consider black women for girlfriends or marriage.

So if you are a black woman and you want to date someone, you either have to hope you can win the lottery and pull one of those RARE successful black men or non-black men who are open to dating you OR you have to date thugs/deadbeats OR you stay single.

Once a woman starts dating thugs/deadbeats it shapes her view of what men are like. So then if she dates a successful, educated black men with MONEY and class, she might feel insecure and out of place. And since that man would have many options to date non-black women, she might worry she will eventually get traded in for something better.

Women want quality men, but they also want men they believe will stick around. If a woman doesn't believe she has the appeal to keep a man attached to her, she will often push him away out of insecurity.

When @Tenacity snaps on these women, he just confirms their fears that they are not good enough for a man like him and only good enough to be with a thug/deadbeat.

Men who date FAT/ugly women have the same problem. If a HOT woman showed interest in them, they would choke and ruin their chance due to lack of experience and lack of confidence. The woman would then disrespect them and dump them.

 

[sazc]

so you feel extremely moved and passionate about this problem (because anger is passion at it's core)

Why dont you become a big brother? Why dont you volunteer your time with kids? Why dont you go to a local boys and girls club, or equivalent, (maybe pick an inner city one) and talk to the director and explain your background and how it affected you and what you see in females today and ask if there is anything you can do to circumvent that in future generations.

You re a finance guy, you could teach a class on how to balance a checkbook, you could teach a class on savings, you could teach a class on loans, you could teach a class on how much it costs to own a car (maintenance, payments, isurance, etc) etc, etc, etc, etc OR you could just play sports with the kids and blow off some steam

The ONLY difference I see between you and MLK is that MLK didnt sit around and b1tch about it, he got out and did his best to make a difference. So get out and make a difference about it. You may not be able to change your generation, but you may be able to save one or two young males or females from making that mistake later on.

In the course of widening your social venue, you will meet quality people and you just might meet a quality female that is AS passionate about your ideals as you are.

My main point is - turn that anger into something constructive. Harness your passion to make a difference just like MLK did

 

[Dingo]

Be the diamond in the pile of ****.... Don't lower your standards.

Have you thought of joining a church ?... Seriously.... Women with some sort of religious beliefs and backgrounds are not as damaged as the general population.

 

[Trainwreck]

so you feel extremely moved and passionate about this problem (because anger is passion at it's core)

Why dont you become a big brother? Why dont you volunteer your time with kids? Why dont you go to a local boys and girls club, or equivalent, (maybe pick an inner city one) and talk to the director and explain your background and how it affected you and what you see in females today and ask if there is anything you can do to circumvent that in future generations.

You re a finance guy, you could teach a class on how to balance a checkbook, you could teach a class on savings, you could teach a class on loans, you could teach a class on how much it costs to own a car (maintenance, payments, isurance, etc) etc, etc, etc, etc OR you could just play sports with the kids and blow off some steam

The ONLY difference I see between you and MLK is that MLK didnt sit around and b1tch about it, he got out and did his best to make a difference. So get out and make a difference about it. You may not be able to change your generation, but you may be able to save one or two young males or females from making that mistake later on.

In the course of widening your social venue, you will meet quality people and you just might meet a quality female that is AS passionate about your ideals as you are.

My main point is - turn that anger into something constructive. Harness your passion to make a difference just like MLK did

MLK also got assassinated

 

[Trainwreck]

Black women have less men to choose from. Successful black men with MONEY are a very low percentage of the black population. Plus, many non-black men don't even consider black women for girlfriends or marriage.

So if you are a black woman and you want to date someone, you either have to hope you can win the lottery and pull one of those RARE successful black men or non-black men who are open to dating you OR you have to date thugs/deadbeats OR you stay single.

Once a woman starts dating thugs/deadbeats it shapes her view of what men are like. So then if she dates a successful, educated black men with MONEY and class, she might feel insecure and out of place. And since that man would have many options to date non-black women, she might worry she will eventually get traded in for something better.

Women want quality men, but they also want men they believe will stick around. If a woman doesn't believe she has the appeal to keep a man attached to her, she will often push him away out of insecurity.

When @Tenacity snaps on these women, he just confirms their fears that they are not good enough for a man like him and only good enough to be with a thug/deadbeat.

Men who date FAT/ugly women have the same problem. If a HOT woman showed interest in them, they would choke and ruin their chance due to lack of experience and lack of confidence. The woman would then disrespect them and dump them.

Cmon man, that's just excusing women's **** behavior. There's plenty of available single quality black men out there that black women do not want. Furthermore, a black man with his **** together has the hardest dating market out of any race of male.