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bigwuz

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Left my wife alone a few months ago. I've been seeing my friends all take trips and enjoy their lives and it makes me want to do the same. I'm not sure how to go about it? I want to travel go to concerts and hang out with friends that I don't have. I
 

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Left my wife alone a few months ago. I've been seeing my friends all take trips and enjoy their lives and it makes me want to do the same. I'm not sure how to go about it? I want to travel go to concerts and hang out with friends that I don't have. I
Why do you want those things and what benefit will that have for you once you get them?
 

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You have to start actively doing what it is you want to do man. Make a plan and get after it
 

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You have to start actively doing what it is you want to do man. Make a plan and get after it
Man being an adult is hard between rent and bills and everything I feel like I'm just stuck in a rut the answer is more income but how.
 

BillyPilgrim

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Man being an adult is hard between rent and bills and everything I feel like I'm just stuck in a rut the answer is more income but how.
Side hustles
 

devilkingx2

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Left my wife alone a few months ago. I've been seeing my friends all take trips and enjoy their lives and it makes me want to do the same. I'm not sure how to go about it? I want to travel go to concerts and hang out with friends that I don't have. I
The first thing you need to learn is how to do things alone. You need to go out solo if you have no one to go out with.

The second thing you must learn is how to talk to strangers and make friends. You need to talk to new people to make friends and meet girls.

Once you combine those two things you shall have anything you want.
 

Macadellic

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How old are
What do you do for work
What interest do you have
What are you passionate about
Do you thing a day that makes you happy and fills your cup it doesn’t have to be big

On your day off
Find a quite place
Take inventory of your life
Write out in paper where you want to be in 2 4 6 8 10 years and how you will get there

I’m not going into depth but laying an outline for you. I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy, I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.

Full benefit.
When you face adversity you will come out stronger.

David of Michelangelo
When Michelangelo was asked
How did you create David


He answered
I just chipped away
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Start chipping away
and built a life you want for your
 

CollegeMan22

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David of Michelangelo
When Michelangelo was asked
How did you create David


He answered
I just chipped away
View attachment 9967 at everything that wasn’t David

Start chipping away
and built a life you want for your
Hey that's my avatar!
 

SmoothHendrixPS2

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How old are
What do you do for work
What interest do you have
What are you passionate about
Do you thing a day that makes you happy and fills your cup it doesn’t have to be big

On your day off
Find a quite place
Take inventory of your life
Write out in paper where you want to be in 2 4 6 8 10 years and how you will get there

I’m not going into depth but laying an outline for you. I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy, I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.

Full benefit.
When you face adversity you will come out stronger.

David of Michelangelo
When Michelangelo was asked
How did you create David


He answered
I just chipped away
View attachment 9967 at everything that wasn’t David

Start chipping away
and built a life you want for your
Damn, he didn't have to chip that much off of David's manhood though!
 

Gamisch

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Left my wife alone a few months ago. I've been seeing my friends all take trips and enjoy their lives and it makes me want to do the same. I'm not sure how to go about it? I want to travel go to concerts and hang out with friends that I don't have. I
Wait tou have no fiends but you are " seeing your friends take trips?" How is that even possible??

You gotta come to terms with the fact that women are a byproduct. Let me give you an example; if you feel like eating a great steak what are you gonna do? Or watch that new movie, or take that trip overseas . You wait untill you have a "great girl" to accompany you, or do you live YOUR life right now?

The grass is always greener on the other side. Look , at some piont(s) a man must reevaluate his own life. A break from women and dating allows you to have more time at hands . Time you can use to make that extra cash you desire.

Dont wait for the chicken to lay an egg, get the egg yourself,grow a chicken and get more eggs.
 

TheManMasenko

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Play your role as a man is the way You NEED to live.

Focus. Discipline. Action. Goals. Achievements. Tunnel vision. The desires you want ARE byproducts. Once you conquer your role as a man, you'll be able to go on trips, f the good women, etc.
 

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Wife or no wife. Single or taken. Men should always seek to fulfill their hearts and minds. If the urge to do something is scratching at your soul, NEVER ignore it. Take action on it.

I always give the same analogy and advice when it comes to this matter: Try and place yourself on your deathbed. These are your last breathing moments. Think back on your life, and for better or worse think about the things you loved and the things you wish you would have done. And above all, figure out what really matters the most in that dying moment. A lot of things will come up during this introspection. Then get up and focus on the things you love now and those things you wish you would have done.

This is called reverse engineering your life.
 

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Wife or no wife. Single or taken. Men should always seek to fulfill their hearts and minds. If the urge to do something is scratching at your soul, NEVER ignore it. Take action on it.

I always give the same analogy and advice when it comes to this matter: Try and place yourself on your deathbed. These are your last breathing moments. Think back on your life, and for better or worse think about the things you loved and the things you wish you would have done. And above all, figure out what really matters the most in that dying moment. A lot of things will come up during this introspection. Then get up and focus on the things you love now and those things you wish you would have done.

This is called reverse engineering your life.
Great post bro. What did you find matters the most for you during this exercise?
 

Modern Man Advice

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Great post bro. What did you find matters the most for you during this exercie?
People, especially family. If you can uplift others including strangers, especially those close to you, and even more so those who you love, life becomes fulfilling.

Another exercise I did years ago was when I used to volunteer at a senior hospital in NYC and simply ask those who were in fact in their last days or months what would they do differently and the answer was 99% of the time: Spend more quality time with those I love. Build more community.

So it really came down to people and those moments that take your breath away.

Money, status, women, jobs, cars, etc, etc, etc none of it matters in the end.
 
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