I just Fvcking SNAPPED!

[Mavrick]

This is what you do now. You keep he frame of mind you have set, and you don't back down. You've set the frame and now you have to stick to it, otherwise, you'll appear weak. So here's what you think:

Her loss!

No more reacting to her because you don't want to give your power away anymore. No more deriving who you are from other's thoughts of you. Go find who you are, and you stick to that. If they don't think the same of you, then it's their loss. The way that you feel about yourself should no longer be tied up in what others think of you.

 

[Warrior74]

Good job buddy. Glad you stood up for yourself.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Who cares if "That wasn't very DJ of you." Come to think of it, it sounds nerdy. like u would see that on a Star wars forum with the posters saying "That wasn't very jedi of you" or some lame sh1t.

If you want to live a life which you have to think about every action you take and wonder "Is this DJ of me," go right ahead. You seem like your trying to conform your lifestyle to the "ideal DJ." But whatever man.

I think it was good that you released some emotion but realize that you burned that bridge and you probably won't get with her.

guru said it best. Just do nothing. Seriously, why should you have to do something?

 

[Warrior74]

Who cares if "That wasn't very DJ of you." Come to think of it, it sounds nerdy. like u would see that on a Star wars forum with the posters saying "That wasn't very jedi of you" or some lame sh1t.

If you want to live a life which you have to think about every action you take and wonder "Is this DJ of me," go right ahead. You seem like your trying to conform your lifestyle to the "ideal DJ." But whatever man.

I think it was good that you released some emotion but realize that you burned that bridge and you probably won't get with her.

Yah. I'm not in the thats 'Dj or not DJ' fan club. The fact is when you are breaking out of your shell and becoming, you will make mistakes, you will over do things. You will overract, we all have. We learn from action, from doing things and sometimes from making mistakes.

I give this guy props for standing up for himself. As his confidence rises he'll know how to handle these sorts of situations better in the future.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

do what iqqi said, that's pretty funny.

anyways what did she say afterwards?

Alright, I just wont to remind everyone that this conversation took place on IM (It's not really my style, but she started the conversation.)

But afterward, she said "So I'm gonna retreat to my corner and think of what I just did."

Yeah, it was kind of weird and I'm not quite sure what she meant by it, but I didn't think about it much.

But anyways, I do not regret telling her off. She had been walking all over me this past week and I'd had it with her. Normally I would have stopped hanging out with her, but we share a lot of friends so it would be kind of hard. I decided to just stay away from her within our group. But she started to actively seek me out and shoot me down. I tried to do the DJ thing and just ignore her, but she continued.

So yesterday, after having put up with more of her BS on IM. And having her try to take the power from me and make me feel weak and pathetic. I stopped. I've haven't taken **** from ANYONE in over 4 years (I used to be really AFC when it came to that stuff, but 4 years ago I changed and stopped taking crap from a lot people. then 1 year ago, after finding this site, I took almost no crap from anyone,) but I realized that right then, I was letting her take control of my emotions and letting her breakdown everything that I'd become. Now a lot of you said that by lashing out at her, I gave her control of me, but I think that before I lashed out, she had much more control of me.

I wanted to let her know that her sh*t stopped there. I wanted her to know that she could NOT step all over me.

I think I'm a damn awesome guy and if she can't see that then she can think that somewhere else. If she wants to be around me, she will not disrespect me. Under any other circumstances, I would drop this girl immediately, but I really like some of my friends that are friends with her. I chose to put her in her place, and I do not regret saying that. I stand by my decision whether of not you guys think it was the right thing today. And maybe one day I'll look back on this and think it was foolish of me, but until that day comes, I don't regret having done that

 

[Mavrick]

Who cares if "That wasn't very DJ of you." Come to think of it, it sounds nerdy. like u would see that on a Star wars forum with the posters saying "That wasn't very jedi of you" or some lame sh1t.

If you want to live a life which you have to think about every action you take and wonder "Is this DJ of me," go right ahead. You seem like your trying to conform your lifestyle to the "ideal DJ." But whatever man.

I think it was good that you released some emotion but realize that you burned that bridge and you probably won't get with her.

guru said it best. Just do nothing. Seriously, why should you have to do something?

It was said that he wasn't being DJ because he believed that it was DJ. The label was there and a correction was made. Anyway, he can't do anything now. He's the one that said fvck off. If he goes back on that, he's a pvssy.

 

[Mavrick]

I think I'm a damn awesome guy and if she can't see that then she can think that somewhere else. If she wants to be around me, she will not disrespect me. Under any other circumstances, I would drop this girl immediately, but I really like some of my friends that are friends with her. I chose to put her in her place, and I do not regret saying that. I stand by my decision whether of not you guys think it was the right thing today. And maybe one day I'll look back on this and think it was foolish of me, but until that day comes, I don't regret having done that

Good! I like it! Keep it up!

 

[DavenJuan]

Edge..

dont let ANYONE tell you what is considered DJ or not. we all have are own opinions and ideas.

my PERSONAL opinion would have not let my emotions get the best of me because i think it does look weak..

HOWEVER. it may work completely different for you. its about how YOU feel. you dont let people walk all over you, female or not.

if you can look back at the text you sent and every word you typed is TRUE and wasnt said for a REACTION...

then who cares what SHE, US, OR ANYONE thinks about it

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Lol. Oh man it was too good today. So I'm with a bunch of friends, and the girl comes walking towards us with some of her friends, but she sees me there so she starts walking a different direction with her friends. I could tell that it really bothered her to see me and know that she was not welcome near me and my own anymore. She ended up sitting somewhere else with her friends.

So my friends and I started up a game of football. I basically did an excellent job of showing her that what she said before didn't affect me at all. I had a lot of fun today, more than usual actually. The best of it all was that I could tell that it affected her. Normally, she is a pretty loud person, but today I didn't hear her at all even though we were playing pretty close to her. Or maybe she was being loud like usual and I just didn't hear her 'cause of how much damn fun I was having.

They say the best revenge is living well, I think that that was really true for me today.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

"If you get mad at someone because they are mad at you, they know they have total control in the situation".

Owned!!

 

[Snowman23]

Rule #1 of being a DJ - don't ever let a women control your emotions. And if they do, make certain they don't see it. It gives them the power and makes you look weak, as mentioned.

What you did was completely overboard. Using the "F" word so many times made it seem like you were trying too hard to be a badass. If I was that girl I would have laughed in your face.

Be in control. Keep your cool.

 

[Rhoto]

The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated: In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

Sourced from Laws of Power.

 

[venser]

i say good job. there isnt really such thing as a DJ or AFC move to make. The DJ or AFC move can be different for different people. I think it all depends on the person/situtation and reasoning.

In this case, I think you did right. being that you put up with her for so long, and from what little I can tell from your personality, this was very out of the ordinary and very bold for you. Those are both very DJ qualities.

It depends on point of reference. I say: congrats

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Alright guys, I've got this weird feeling that she's going to apologize to me some time in the next few days. My hunches are usually right. So my question is, when she does apologize to me, what should I do? I mean, do I forgive her or just tell her to F*ck off (but not in so many words)?

Oh, and Venser, this whole situation is out of the ordinary for me, I haven't had been in a situation with someone being a b*tch to me like she was in at least a few years. This is pretty different of me because I'm not really known to lash out at people. This is probably the first time I've snapped at someone like that in over three years.