I just found something disturbing in my gf's cell phone

[AMF]

Re: Re: I just found something disturbing in my gf's cell phone

Originally posted by GaryNas
I know if I look at her phone I'll see calls to other guys and maybe even text messages that I'll take way out of context.

Point is, if you're having any kind of problems, talk to her about it. Otherwise, don't worry.

We call this the "ostrich effect".

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I want an update!

 

[johnfjr]

I do want to make a point: during this time, when the message was sent, I was a complete jerk off to her. She would come to my house and beg to hang out with me and I would brush her off. I would tell her I didn't want to hang out. I was basically giving her the vibe that I didn't like her, even though I did (And we were going out...but I was using principles of the BAD BOY and challenge). Also, all of her friends (especially the one this message was sent to) thought that I was a **** to her and maybe they were right. In the message, she was explaining something to her friend about something, and briefly mentioned a guy who is involved with something she was talking about (some kind of play that she was in)...thats where she briefly states the "the guy I have a crush on". that was also the only message like that about a guy. and no, its not about me.

I have faith in my relationship with her, but I also know that she did consider betraying me in the past because of my terrible behavior towards her, in my effort to be a challenge/opposite of nice guy. She just never had the guts to leave me. Looking back, I wonder why...she should have, the way I treated her. I am a better person now, and she wants me children. SHe has mentioned marriage every day these past few weeks. Her IL is sky high as far as I can tell. I can't even imagine it being higher, nor would I want it to be higher. The other day she tells me "why do I have to ask you to tell me that you love me? I dont care if you dont say it, I have to tell you that I love you and I wont ever stop saying it". I just wish I never looked through that cell phone, but in a way it was good. It's good to be aware of what's going on. If ever she starts to act flaky, I will use the message I read as a source of resentment and next her because I could not stay with a woman who scans out other men while with me. At the time, I forgive her, however.

 

[tmpgstx]

Good deal John - no relationship can or is perfect. I'd say you two are about even in the resentment department as you were a jerk and she was about to jump ship. In any case too much resentment isn't good, however, in this instance it cancels each other out, and sounds like a good thing to salvage and move forward.

 

[Good_ol_boy]

People who don't know enough not to snoop are going to get burned. Keep snooping and next thing you'll find your mon's dildo, how will you feel then?

DON'T SNOOP!!!

 

[Don_Joffe]

Who cares whats on her phone? If she is your gf, she is YOURS, no1 else's, enjoy the times whilst you have them because love is conditional and soon she wont be yours. If you are insecure she will smell it and she wont like it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She wants marriage and you don't for another ten years?? She'll be gone sooner than you think - she will probably look for another dude and you'll find out about the relationship after she splits and then she'll excuse her infidelity by saying "Well, you didn't love me or want to marry me" She'll blame you - guaranteed!!

Chicks that are having sex with their current beau don't break up with thei b/f THEN find another man - she'll be out searching/sexing another dude while you are in your pajamas at home!! Just letting you know!!