I have some relationship questions

Dole

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I am 21, shes 22, shes a mom and has a 5 year old son. Baby's father (lets refer to him as BOB) is still around he's starting to take care of the kid more and more. She used to talk about all the sh1t she went through with BOB but now doesn't talk about it anymore, Except when I went to dinner with her and her family, we where talking about a local college and she said "bob goes there he's taking business". I asked her last time she hung out with Bob and she said about 6 month's ago and it was just for the sake of the kid (this is when he beat her up). Bob also has another child with a different girl lol. I popped the question asking her would she ever go back to him, her response was she could never go back to him with all the sh1t he put her through and she know's that after a week or two they would be up all each other throat's.
Question 1: Should I be worried about him?

I met her at the club, she was the one giving me IOI's so I went up to talk to her
She fell very comfortable with me after first date.
She persisted that we go into a relationship, I accepted. We been dating for a month and a half now.

She tells me that I need to treat her like a woman and not some 19 year old child and to quit playing games. Question 2: How do I need to treat her??

She also told me what she expects from me, To cuddle with her and to spend time with her. Sex is great and happen's quiet often, she tells me how I drive her crazy in bed. Question 3: Am I her pet because I do cuddle with her most of the time I am at her house, I never sleep over if she falls a sleep she always wake's up with me missing in bed ( except on firday/saturday nights )

Not to long ago I said something wrong over the phone and she used it to her advantage. She texted me after the phone conversation and asked me if our relationship was weird, I was currently high on chronic at the time but she didn't know and I was saying some stupid sh1t with txting. None the less I talk to her and she said that I dont show that I care enough for her and she think's its weird because she calls me all the time tells me she misses me tells me literally that she cares about me blah blah she says I never do that for her. Question 4: Do I need to open up more for her or what?

AFC = Average frustrated chump correct? Well I treat her great, take her for dinner, movies, and so on she alway's thanks me for this. Question 5: Will she eventually get bored of this?

Some say that it's important to play ur girls emotions, is this done through fighting or do unexpected things for her?

Her friend that I met before her well I tried hooking up with her and she blew me off a few times so I stopped chasing her. I now hooked up with the mommy that I am with right now ( I had no idea they knew each other ), so when ever mommy talk's about me the other girl gets all depressed and puts her head down. My girl noticed that and she always question's me about her friend what exactly happend between us and if we still talk blah blah. I keep telling her that there's nothing going on between us. Question: I don't really talk to this girl but should I start talking to her to keep the mommy on the edge?


Me and her already established that she doesn't need me to take care of her son nor to raise him, she doesn't need me to support her or her son financially because he has a father that needs to do that.
 

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Question 1: Should I be worried about him?

No, but you obviously already are. Stop. You should not be worried about any guy. If she leaves you, it is her loss. Stop asking about him; don't even let her suspect that you are jealous.

How do I need to treat her??


Like you've been dating a month and a half.

Sex is great and happen's quiet often, she tells me how I drive her crazy in bed. Question 3: Am I her pet because I do cuddle with her most of the time

No, if you get great sex, give her all the cuddling she wants. btw, the sex is great, because she is fantasizing about you marrying her and the three of you having one big happy family home.

Question 4: Do I need to open up more for her or what?

Never open up all the way. No one really wants to hear your deepest emotions. Not me, not her, not anyone. This is part of growing up, learning that for the most part, no one really cares what you think. Women are no exception. They will beg you to reveal everything about yourself; then you'll be boring as soon as you do.

Well I treat her great, take her for dinner, movies, and so on she alway's thanks me for this. Question 5: Will she eventually get bored of this?

sosuave tends to look down on this, but I don't. If you have the money and are getting plenty of sex, I am not against spending it on a woman. But make sure that the underlying message of treating her well is that you treat all women well when they are meeting your needs and behaving well themselves. But you are out of there as soon as she stops treating you well in return.
 

Mr. Me

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Well I treat her great, take her for dinner, movies, and so on she alway's thanks me for this. Question 5: Will she eventually get bored of this?
You may eventually get bored and resent having settled down so soon with someone at such a young age with an instant family.

But to answer your question, yes, she could get bored when it becomes ordinary and routine, so change it up every now and then. Change the activity, change the day you go out. Surprise her with what you plan. Listen to her when she mentions things she likes, as it will give you ideas for later on in time.

It's GREAT that she actually THANKS you when you treat her, BTW. I don't see that appreciative attitude too often.
 

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Should you worry??? NO... Should you be concerned ??? Always... You cant trust any human... The most you can do is make sure you are getting everything you want aside from monogamy cause you cant get that and should waste time trying to...
 
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