So basically there's this girl that I'm friends with that isn't really my friend when I come to think of it. She used to be a 10/10 hottie and extremely respectable but now she's like a 5/10 fatty who's kind of a slut and a tease now.
I have the most extreme possible oneitis you can have for this girl. I have failed so many times with her because she's basically the first girl I've ever really liked this much or have gotten this far with.
When I didn't make my intentions clear that I liked her, we were really good friends, we hung out a lot and got along really well. Ever since I made that first move, things have been awkward ever since.
Since I have huge oneitis for her I asked her to prom, thought she was gonna say no but she said yes. I think she said yes to prom out of desperation of not getting a date (now that she isn't a 10/10 anymore). I really want to fix my relationship with her but I don't know how to do it. Can anyone help?
Long version:
I have the most extreme possible oneitis you can have for this girl. I have failed so many times with her because she's basically the first girl I've ever really liked this much or have gotten this far with.
When I didn't make my intentions clear that I liked her, we were really good friends, we hung out a lot and got along really well. Ever since I made that first move, things have been awkward ever since.
Since I have huge oneitis for her I asked her to prom, thought she was gonna say no but she said yes. I think she said yes to prom out of desperation of not getting a date (now that she isn't a 10/10 anymore). I really want to fix my relationship with her but I don't know how to do it. Can anyone help?
Long version:
- Story starts Junior year of high school (last year)
- I'm a nerdy shy beta foreveralone white kid
- She's a somewhat popular white girl
- We end up with a class together
- I crush on her really hard but I never talk to her
- One act plays in school comes up, we're both in it
- We end up a little closer, more flirtation and IOIs
- Cast party comes up
- After the cast party me, her, another guy and another girl go to a donut shop
- I suggest that we should make a regular "adventure group" of the 4 of us
- The other girl there starts giving me hard IOIs, starts EXTREME kino with me in front of the other 2
- Because of this the other guy has no competition basically and swoops me, they become boyfriend and girlfriend
- I pretend I never liked her and I remain friends with the other 3
- After a while I think I got over her
- She progressively becomes less and less attractive, gets fatter
- I get more social skills and acquire more female friends
- He breaks up with her after 6 months towards the end of the summer
- Senior year starts
- All of my feelings for her resurface
- She keeps inviting me to hang out and we text constantly, many IOIs from her
- She invites me to a kickback at her house
- I don't make a move
- Other guy does, they hook up in her room
- She shows immediate remorse, starts repeating "I got the wrong guy"
- I later found out I was the RIGHT guy (whoops)
- I don't make any moves because she's basically slutty now
- We remain "friends" up until new years
- We go to the same new years party
- We make out for like 10 seconds at ball drop
- I ask her out a week later, she says "let's just be friends"
- At this point I'm like SCREW IT and completely cut contact with her
- We end up going to the same bonfire at a friend's house a month later and she does a lot of flirty **** with me, many IOIs
- I make a point to hang out with her and watch a movie with another couple as a double date, I do the classic arm around shoulder maneuver but I don't K-close her at all
- I start texting her again but sound really beta
- I tell her I want to make out with her (over text message) and she doesn't respond
- Next time I hang out with her I try kino, some resistance, no IOIs from her at all
- She's flirting with other guys right in front of me, but they're all fleeting
- Things are really awkward between us now
- Prom's coming up
- I still have extreme oneitis for her
- I ask her friend to 'feel out the situation' for me
- She tells me that I shouldn't ask her to prom
- A few weeks later her friend tells me she changed her mind
- I ask her and she says yes
- Sometimes she gives me IOIs, I reciprocate with kino, sometimes shes for it sometimes she isn't
- Everyone is thinking "WTF she's so unattractive why did you ask her to prom"
- Pretty sure she changed her mind because nobody else would want to ask her
- I want to fix this but don't know how
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