I have no idea what to do help please.

[danthemann]

Ok so ive been dating this girl for 7 months now, and we've had our ups and downs and what not... we'll recently ive found out that in her sophmore year of high school she was raped by one of her black friends. I have nothing againts black people i have alot of black friends but I do not like interracial sex. No i'm really pissed off cuz ive hung out with this guy and whatnot and shes told me shes never done interracial. I love her a lot but I'm really confused. One part of me says that wow she was raped and its not her fault and all. but we hang out with this kid and his friend every now and then without a problem. so the other side of me says shes way overexaggerating and just telling me it was rape.

Im confused right now i want to rip the head off this guy. help please.

 

[shaunuk]

please tell me it's not the same girl as in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155027

 

[danthemann]

nope different girl lol

 

[shaunuk]

Not being patronising, but...you sure?

It's only been 7.5 months since you posted that "She Cheated" thread so how would the math work out? lol..


EDIT: ok fair enough, you could've got with another girl pretty quick

 

[danthemann]

yeah and i got another girlfriend.. lol just cuz i have a gf doesnt mean i dont have others lined up

 

[eaglez1177]

You're never going to get the full truth regarding what happened, at least not from her. If you really want to know what happened, you would have to talk to the black friend that apparently "raped" her.

From what it sounds like, she could just be ashamed that she had sex with him, so shes claiming that it was rape and not her fault and that she would never willingly have sex with him.

I would be a bit more annoyed of the fact that you have hung out with this kid before, and she still hasnt said anything to you about it. Thats just messed up if you're all hanging out and the kid sitting right next to you once "raped" your gf.

Ask your gf what else shes keeping from you.

 

[Analyzeit]

You didn't explain it properly??

Ok, most girls will lie about there sex life.. fact, just face it and don't let it bother you.

You said you found out?? Did she tell you or what??

You've been going out for seven months, just ask her.

She may not tell truth, if she says. Yeah he raped me, ask her why don't you mind hanging out with him.. ect... or if she says no, ask the black friend. Black friends the only way to know for sure, but you really should ask her first before just going and getting angry at her. Maybe she wants to tell now, that your closer or i don't know. Just don't get angry get both sides of the story then make your decision

 

[Bible_Belt]

Just forget about it. She's probably lying about the rape part. He will lie if you ask him. There's no point in getting upset.

 

[danthemann]

yeah she told me... it took her a while to tell me... i wouldnt doubt shes lying tho and blowing it out of proportion..

 

[Evzone]

What the hell? If she was sexually abused, call the police. And, if she was seriously raped, she needs therapy. That stuff is no joke.

If she WAS just kidding, EXIT THIS IMMEDIATELY. False accusations of rape are one of the most morally bankrupt things that can be done. Would you want her saying that about you? If she was just saying it as some kind of defense mechanism, it doesn't make it any less stupid.

 

[Bible_Belt]

yeah she told me... it took her a while to tell me... i wouldnt doubt shes lying tho and blowing it out of proportion..

She probably just got too drunk to say no, and calling it "rape" is her way of dealing with the guilt. I don't mean that as an insult against her, nor am I telling you to dump her. It's just how girls act.

 

[ariet]

shes a liar dump her
find a better one

but we all know that your mind is made up and nothing(from ur last thread u were defending her) we can say will your mind HAHA
dont be racist interracial is alright. It took time for me to accept it. You should deal with that problem.

 

[ariet]

shes a liar dump her
find a better one

but we all know that your mind is made up and nothing(from ur last thread u were defending her) we can say will your mind HAHA
dont be racist interracial is alright. It took time for me to accept it. You should deal with that problem.

 

[rammi]

I would get drunk with the guy and tell him that I plan a girl, and if he will help me? If he agrees plan it together and ask him if he did it before. If he did then go to the police and the girls parents. A recorder will help.