Another common geographical issue I've seen is guys from the New York/New Jersey area having issues outside that area, particularly out west. If you take a NY/NJ guy and put him in Denver, Phoenix, San Diego, Dallas, Houston, and other fast growing Sun Belt type cities, you'll often see a guy whose value isn't fully realized in those areas. The NY/NJ spirit and temperament isn't as common in the Sun Belt.
Having been to both coasts, I can definitely see this. It seems like people are the most laid back out west and the further Northeast you go, the more uptight, impatient, neurotic, stubborn, rude people seem to get. Just my observation.
Northeast people can be perceived as impatient, but I would classify it as achievement oriented. They want to get things done. In dating, they want to accomplish their goal, which is often to get laid. In the Sun Belt cities, even though there are a fair amount of transplants, there is less of an achievement orientation.
In smaller towns, you are better off developing hobbies and a social life that has women in it. Network with people and make some actual friends instead of trying to seduce the whole town. If you are a cool guy, you will run into cool people who will invite you to social gatherings where you will meet women.
At first they will ignore you. You might even wonder "Do all the girls have some kind of private agreement to ignore me?" Then after like 2-3 months, they will start seducing you. And they will seduce you with "plausible deniability". They will bring up some activity and suggest the two of you do it together sometime, but the real intention is to be alone. This is how ALL women behave in tribes. And smaller cities are very tribal.
Smaller cities are actually the best for gaming. It's just that most guy's version of game is whatever comes out of their mouths. They play checkers instead of chess.
Game is actually the entire social dynamics of the environment.
It's so much easier to become popular and develop a reputation in smaller towns. It's also easier to develop real friends and relationships and get to know everyone through 6 degrees of separation.
What do you consider a small city? Charleston and North Charleston, SC combined have over a 200,000 population. That's a solid mid sized area to me. The whole metro area is 500,000+.
It's smaller than 13 million + in Los Angeles, but a place of 200,000 or 500,000 is large enough to be anonymous. I think the sweet spot in terms of dating for a metro area is about 150,000 - 500,000. That's large enough to have options, but not large enough to women to have absurdly high standards and engage in the most hypergamic behavior possible. These mid-sized metros can often be tough on outsiders, just like the sub 150,000 smaller towns/metros.