I have "feelings" towards my college professor

[SeymourCake]

I don't know if I should pull this through seeing how this could be an awkward situation on her behalf and plus it could jeopardize her career. She's in her 30s, Persian, with an attractive accent. She does have a ring on her finger which she wears every time we had class so that obviously indicates she is married.

I'm 21. Today I went to class dressing nicely, and plus I went to the barbershop the previous day to get a fresh haircut.

As she was lecturing, I looked straight in her eyes, and whenever she looked at me, we engage eye contact and I felt a bit weird inside. I can't say if she felt the same way, so I'm just speaking on my behalf. It's a feeling I never felt before, but I'm sure it's a normal feeling when you look at someone you have feelings for. I locked in eye contact until she looked away and this probably happened at least 4 times throughout the 2 hour class. Of course, I'm not the only one she looks at, as there are probably 10 other people in my class she looks at as she lectures.

There's this one time where she asked a question, and I answered. As she was finishing what she was writing on the board, I answered, she turned around and looked straight into my eyes with a smile. I smiled back, and it was definitely a good feeling. I also made her laugh when I made a suggestion because she confused me for what she wrote on the board.

I stayed after class for like 3-6 mins to ask a question about what she was lecturing and then to confirm if she had my e-mail (note: everyone was permitted to give her an e-mail for class-related purposes). I wanted to get to know her, but something in the back of my mind tells me to wait until the semesters over and build up from there. Maybe catch her during office hours, get to know her a bit, and then go for it from there. I didn't wanna seem too needy if I did all this today.

I don't know what to do Don Juans. What would you do if you were in my position? I just wanna give her some amazing foreplay for 30 or so minutes, and then hammer her down. What would you do if you were in my position? Should I move on due to the circumstances, or take my risk?

By the way, this feeling is definitely lust. I can't see myself in an actual relationship with her and plus her ring indicates she's married. I just wanna do a ONS, and if I like it, make her my bootycall lol.

 

[Darth]

1. Forget it, she's married.
2. I would remove the phrase "I have feelings" from your vocabulary

 

[nismo-4]

You are guilty of catching feelings for a married woman.

You are seriously asking to get your feelings, dik, mind, brain, hands, and face hurt! Not necessarily in that order either. Be careful, it's lust, and you don't want her hubby whipping your ass. Dude might look like a Football star! Here's something that happened to me at college;

At my university, I met this administrative assistant who had just caught a flat on her Lexus. I just so happened to be leaving class and was ready to go shopping. But I stuck around and helped her out with it and was talking a little dirty (i.e. that's what happens when your man uses cheap rubbers. the performance is unsatisfactory and you're stuck unsatisfied.) I even said that these nuts need to be lubricated! While fixing the flat, I noticed how she was flirting and eventually her wedding ring came off when I wasn't looking. Later times after this when she knew she'd be seeing me, she'd be wearing shorter skirts (workplace appropriate yet sexy classy) and heels! She certainly looked more MILF-y and always kissed me with lipstick! It was quite obvious she had eyes for me (evidenced by her having her arms around me a lot) and we eventually had an affair. She even teased me about marrying her! I only saw her wedding ring on when her husband was coming by and even then, I noticed that she wasn't into him. I knew however, not to be a white knight. Just f**k her, don't develop feelings, and don't tell anyone.

The point is, if a woman wants you, whether or not she's married or has a bf, she'll make it known. I just happened to get lucky. But catching feelings is gonna hurt you and making it known to others in any kind of way is worse. And being she's a college professor, you might jeopardize some things...just a thought.

 

[f283000]

Good story nismo.

I would take this situation with a grain of salt. The reason for this is that a hot college professor could be considered sort of a hired gun.

So while she's not getting paid to give smiles/looks to customers like a waitress that makes most naive guys think she's actually flirting with them, your professor is still out there in front of a large group of people and many of them males.

You think for 1 minute that you're the only student that has given her looks/she has given looks to? You're probably not the only 1 not even in this current semester! maybe not the only one in your own class! Women are attention hors by nature they feed on attention.

I remember 1 hot young teacher back in college. Every guy in class was trying to act "cool" and flirt with her. This stuff is all so common.

So just remember that next time you think she's giving you looks. Be a little realistic rather than obsessing over someone that is just giving you back some attention so you can give her more of your attention to feed her ego!

That's how some women play. They know all it takes is a look for a naive guy to think they have a chance and shower them with attention to feed their ego needs.

I'm not saying that it's impossible for you to seduce her but in the mind of a hot college professor you're probably just another broke horny college student giving a hot teacher some attention to feed her ego. She's not going to f*** you and risk her job and reputation for you, specially if she has a ring on her finger.

 

[SeymourCake]

I shouldn't have said "I had feelings for her". Let me rephrase that... I just wanna fvck her.

 

[Falcon25]

She's married dumb ass. You are going to pursue a married woman 9 yrs your senior? Shouldn't she be doing the pursuing? Once again, SHE'S MARRIED.

 

[runner83]

She's married dumb ass. You are going to pursue a married woman 9 yrs your senior? Shouldn't she be doing the pursuing? Once again, SHE'S MARRIED.

Agreed. You are wasting your time.

Sure, guys do hook up with married chicks sometimes (I know I have) but in thoses cases the girl is always aiding the pursuing in some way. Avoid married chicks whenever you can.

I don't see anything in your post to show that she is even interested beyond what she is probably doing with other students.

If, when you got her e-mail off her, she had said "and this is my private number" and handed it to you on a piece of paper with a saucy look, then that would be interest and I would say go for it.

But in this case, you must move on. FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.

 

[Drdeee]

Dude, what is gonna happen if you ask her politely after class when none around for a coffee with her. The worst thing that could happen in my opinion she'll get flattered.


P.S. ring on finger doesn't mean she's married.

 

[JT7890]

OMG, please DON'T hit on your teacher. WTF, how creepy.

 

[JCballin88]

Isn't this guy a certified troll on the site? Ignore

 

[Thundernuts]

I never did understand how the nickname troll came to be but i see it everywhere.

Dude, you aren't something that lives under bridges and are really thinking that your teacher is digging you, snap out of it. She isn't.

You want proof, here it is.

Exhibit a. In the course of two hours she makes eye contact with you 4 times. That is nothing special in the slightest in a college. Im sure your in a huge room full of people.

Exhibit b. If she has a way to contact discreetly, and she had this desire, she would have done something by now. If she is married and not satisfied, she will subconciously come up with an excuse to contact you and she will believe it.

The court rules the defendant, SeymourCake, guilty of crimes against logic. You are fined two blue balls and must carry out a minimum sentence of one semester of thinking you actually had a chance. Dismissed.

 

[SeymourCake]

This is why I hate the fvcking internet, everytime I post something to get advice for, I get labeled as a "troll". This is not the only forum that does this to me.

Back in the early 2000s, a troll was labeled to someone who intentionally annoyed people for his or her own sake and for his or her pleasure. Nowadays, a person who has a different opinion or different point of view as you is called a "troll". New flash people...There are people who think differently than you. Either you accept it, or get your head out of your ass.

By the way, I'm not pulling this through. Fvck that. I don't wanna be the reason why she lost her job she worked most of her life for and cause marriage problems. I'm just gonna worry about the test I have on Monday.

This is a prime example of someone being trolled on.
http://www.pwned.nl/

Am I doing this to you all?

 

[Real Talk]

well, at least we got him to understand it was a bad/stupid idea and that she probably wasnt interested in him anyway.

God job guys

 

[Thundernuts]

SeymourCake, just want you to know i wasn't calling you a troll. There, I've covered myself. And also, wasn't trying to sound harsh, its just that what you thought were signs were really more along the lines of normal teacher behavoir. Don't feel weird about it, because i garentee that 95% of guys who say they never had a thing for a teacher are liars. We can't all get that lucky. Besides i think that teachers tend to have a real high sex appeal towards their students because it's forbidden, they take on a mentor role(a role wich usually attracts their pupils) and usually they have their moments when that Strict teacher shows a side of sexiness.

When you think about it, what makes a man really want to see breast is the fact that he doesn't get to see them all the time. Once he does, he doesn't raise a such a big deal about it. Its pretty much the same with teachers.

 

[nismo-4]

I never did understand how the nickname troll came to be but i see it everywhere.

Dude, you aren't something that lives under bridges and are really thinking that your teacher is digging you, snap out of it. She isn't.

You want proof, here it is.

Exhibit a. In the course of two hours she makes eye contact with you 4 times. That is nothing special in the slightest in a college. Im sure your in a huge room full of people.

Exhibit b. If she has a way to contact discreetly, and she had this desire, she would have done something by now. If she is married and not satisfied, she will subconciously come up with an excuse to contact you and she will believe it.

The court rules the defendant, SeymourCake, guilty of crimes against logic. You are fined two blue balls and must carry out a minimum sentence of one semester of thinking you actually had a chance. Dismissed.

Now Thundernuts is the court's prosecutor and runner83 is the District Attorney! ROTFL!!!

The defendant is also guilty of chasing a married woman as well as patronizing false interest. For exhibit a, OP, do you realize that this professor is most likely doing this to 93 more male students, you included? You have not presented the court a reasonable defense.

In exhibit b, the court has found beyond a reasonable doubt that this professor is leeching attention from you and feeding her ego! She's gonna get railed by her hubby! She's just not that into you. Wake your ass up. You are gonna run around with this woman and get hurt. Being she didn't make a move on you (like what happened to me with the administrative assistant), and you were very concerned about it, therefore the crime of oneitis development has been committed.

You are hereby ordered to serve time in Falsehope, Washington. I'm also fining you for oneitis development. This fine is 1 deluded mind and a minimum of 2 weeks with your hands. You are also ordered to serve time in Friendzone, Georgia. The only appeal I may accept is is you get off your ass and go talk to more chicks. This will get you mind off of this professor.

BTW, you and the professor. Not gonna happen.

Case closed. Spin more plates people!!!

 

[Megaman XIV]

I see Judge nismo is having more people in the courtroom!

OP, she's married and making eye contact with more men than you. Judge by actions, not by words. She would've acted on this desire a long time ago if she really wanted to f**k you. But since she didn't, she's stringing you along. The treadmill effect folks. Running but getting nowhere.

 

[5string]

Leave an apple on her desk before class. That'll do the trick.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Leave an apple on her desk before class. That'll do the trick.

Step 1. Cut a hole in the apple.
Step 2. Put your **** in the apple.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

SeymourCake,

Your whole post could have been written as follows, without losing any of its meaning:

One of my hot female professors is married, and I am physically attracted to her. I see no signs of her interest in me above and beyond that of any other student. What should I do?

The answer: enjoy the eye candy, and forget about anything more.