I have failed to grasp this law of power my whole life. How do I overcome this challenge?

[Trainwreck]

Thinking independently among myself, but acting like others in public. For example, an Atheist politician that pretends to be a moral bible humping Christian to get votes. I think this has hurt my chances with women and friends because I don't care about football, rappers, the Kardashians, Game of Thrones, and all those other ****. In addition, I'm not a blind leftist like most millennials and I'm more on the radical/revisionist side of politics and history. What do I do to overcome this challenge?

 

[Mike32ct]

I don't think that you have to "fake" certain views or preferences. Just don't publicly "judge" or "criticize" people for theirs. Come across as an open-minded guy or better yet, eventually become an open-minded guy. Don't take other people(s) views personally. Don't attack their views or get into pointless debates.

I lean strongly to the right, but I get along just fine with people on the left. If they have a different view than me, no big deal. It's not personal. That's how they see things.

If they like certain things in pop culture that I have no interest in, I let it go in one ear and out the other.

 

[El Payaso]

I don't think that you have to "fake" certain views or preferences. Just don't publicly "judge" or "criticize" people for theirs. Come across as an open-minded guy or better yet, eventually become an open-minded guy. Don't take other people(s) views personally. Don't attack their views or get into pointless debates.

I lean strongly to the right, but I get along just fine with people on the left. If they have a different view than me, no big deal. It's not personal. That's how they see things.

If they like certain things in pop culture that I have no interest in, I let it go in one ear and out the other.

Good attitude to have.

 

[BeExcellent]

Agree with Mike...I have an extremely liberal friend who loves introducing me at parties as "my favorite Republican". It's a riot. But I get invited to the parties you see . And I studiously avoid in depth political discussions with people I don't know well IF I want to keep channels of communication open.

The law basically is about the fact that people feel threatened by different viewpoints in many cases, and that it is impossible to determine who is or isn't threatened by different views so best to go along to get along.

Also known as flying under the radar, and not rocking the boat.

I've gotten crucified a time or two on this rule professionally...so I get it. Sometimes silence really is golden.

 

[Mike32ct]

Exactly BeExcellent.

And frankly, it's presumptuous and rude to just ASSUME that other people are "on your team" and give an unsolicited political rant at a party or work gathering. But other people do this, and it's important for us SS-ers to be able to handle it. I learned not to get "rattled" or "butthurt" when that happens. I'm at a point where I can be very chill about it and even sometimes ENJOY listening to or overhearing an opposing view, even if I disagree with it and will never change my mind. I don't feel the need to "respond" or "defend" my views. It is what it is. Again, it's not personal.

TDLR: Be prepared to hear opinions from the other side and not let it bother you. Even if you don't agree with their "rant," you may later find that you actually like the person despite the difference in views.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Listen to the Silence/.. in the media, in your classroom, in public, in business, in a social setting and there you will find the truth. Listen to what they Don't say. You can play their record back to them, but never believe it. Make no mistake about it though, They ARE the enemy of your life and your childrens' lives. It really is about the survival of Intelligent people vs. Low IQ people.

 

[ubercat]

Learn to say that's really interesting and sound deeply sincere. And then ask them a question about it. That simple routine will get you a long way

Hopefully over time you will learn to be sincerely interested in other people's views. I mean remember you already know your own views so that should be boring to you.

Until then fake it to make it

 

[ubercat]

@Trainwreck you have made a few social skills posts. There's a good bunch of guys here so you must have collected a few simple tricks. So the questions I have are where and how do you practice? Give us some details

 

[Trainwreck]

school, work

 

[Roober]

Everyone has something to teach you... believe that and be open to listening... keep digging until they can teach you something...

Also... avoid talking about RAPE (religion, abortion, politics, exes) and talk about FORD (Family, occupation, Recreation, Dreams)

And the biggest thing for people nowadays.. DO NOT JUDGE! I was not a Trump supporter, but I have zero issues with people expressing their American rights to vote for him. Some refuse to even acknowledge other opinions and ignore them.

You don't learn anything if you mind is closed. Open and remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions based on their own value systems...