I have been ruined by sex with some girls

[AttackFormation]

Today I came home from a girl's place. If I didn't have more sexual experience I might have thought it was some nice sex (except that she's too short for me to doggy with). At least I fvcked her even though she has no kinks, right? nope, not thanks to the two girls in the next paragraph. The whole time, I was just thinking of what it could have been if I could be fvcking one of them instead of her.

The seed was planted last year in May, although it didn't bloom then only because I didn't actually penetrate that girl. Then I met another girl like her this month a few weeks ago and now the innocence is over for me. They are similar... their behaviour when with you is girly, light-hearted, fun and positive which in itself is a strong + compared to other girls' personalities but the real trouble starts with the kind of sex they want.

They don't just want to be spanked, grabbed or hair pulled (which not every girl wants in the first place), they want to be choked, something that really did it for me... They want you to call them all kinds of demeaning names during sex; wh0re, slut, mattress (in Swedish calling someone a mattress = they're "used" and give themselves up for easy sex), will call themselves that, and dirty talk in general. They want to have red marks from being slapped on the ass. They love sucking d!ck and are sluts - they'll put your d!ck in their mouth, and do so happily, a few minutes after you first meet them. They want to be told what to do and not just in the bedroom, the vibe of you having dominance over her is something they want to feel always. That extends into naturally wanting to please you in and out of the bedroom, because they see themselves as submissive to you and their place is to do what's good for you and what you want them to. And they don't only love doing all this, they need it. They're not putting on an act, like a girl who doesn't have these kinks but does it to be nice to or keep you. No, these girls are genuine. When they get off to you calling them a loose wh0re while you pound them with your hand strangling her blood supply it is a real feeling for them, which you can see and hear on them if you've ever fvcked one of these kinds of girls.

The problem is this has ruined me for normal girls who are not messed up in this way. These easy and slutty, high sex drive, submissive, practically masochistic, dirt talk-loving girls have taken my sexual desire to a level where I can't have "normal" sex anymore without feeling like it's a waste of potential and time. I couldn't be with a girl who isn't like this anymore, and I also happen to need new plates. How do you identify these girls so you know who to go for?

 

[Dgwizdal]

No way of telling really. Typically the sluts like the kinky stuff. There are alot of closet freak good girls who also enjoy.

HOWEVER, some don't. I hooked up with one on Sunday night, put my hand around her throat and she f*ckin freaked out on me and almost kicked me out of her house. While another good girl loves to be choked until she's almost passed out and wheezing. All in experimentation.

If anything, train a good girl to be your slut and yours only. Push the boundaries until she feels comfortable and enjoys some of the things you enjoy with the slutty pump and dumps. IMO: that would be the perfect balance minus calling them loose *****s

 

[marmel75]

These are the types of girls that will beg you fvck them in the ass and then when you pull it out turn around and shove it all the way down their throats...I know what you are saying.

I was banging a chick like that for a time and I haven't met anyone like her since and I STILL think about those times...I never will choke a chick...I'm too strong and it would be far too easy for me to crush their windpipes if I were to get really into it by mistake and then I'm looking at a murder/manslaughter charge...no thanks I'll pass, lol

 

[FCB]

Yup, my mind always goes back to those girls from my past. There's a range from completely vanilla all the way up to the girls that really get off on kink. Its the ones that really get off on sucking, can't get enough of it, that get off when you **** them hard, like to be slapped and have you grab their head and shove your **** down their throat that really do it for me. Some guys don't care as long as the girl agrees to x and y, but for me its them wanting it and being into it that really turns me on. You can train them but the girls who really get off on being a sex toy typically have something inside them that drives that, and unfortunately it seems to corelate to other issues that manifest as psychological red flags.

 

[fastlife]

Every time I've ever thought to myself 'Damn, that's the best sex I'll ever have,' I've always done better.

But I'll go ahead and go against the advice of every relationship coach ever: focus on what you want--most girls get off on you getting off on them. And there are plenty of young girls out there who'd love nothing more than to meet a guy who'll push all her boundaries and give her permission to be a total slvt with him. Of course, I've never been with a girl above the age of 21--I'm sure there are some older girls who 'don't do that sort of thing'....anymore lol.

 

[devilkingx2]

I simply joke about the things I like with girls to get their reaction. If their reaction is positive then have a semi serious but still theoretical conversation about doing it. If you make it that far then start actually planning it with her.

Alternatively I straight up ask them related questions(but i ask a ****ton of random questions, mostly sexual, so most girls dont get the reason i ask unless i explain it to them). Like, if they had to be in a 3-way, would they prefer to do MMF, MFF or FFF. And if they would do either of the other two(it both gives you a clear idea of her sexuality and straight up tells you how down she is for each kind of 3-way. Make sure to ask the reason for her preferences lol)

Or I ask them about the shortest skirt they've ever worn publically(should give you an idea of what she's willing to do outside the confines of a private residence and how much she'll risk/let other people see)

This all has the side effect of making you yawn and completely lose interest if she responds negatively to a lot of your kinks

 

[AllDay85]

Today I came home from a girl's place. If I didn't have more sexual experience I might have thought it was some nice sex (except that she's too short for me to doggy with). At least I fvcked her even though she has no kinks, right? nope, not thanks to the two girls in the next paragraph. The whole time, I was just thinking of what it could have been if I could be fvcking one of them instead of her.

The seed was planted last year in May, although it didn't bloom then only because I didn't actually penetrate that girl. Then I met another girl like her this month a few weeks ago and now the innocence is over for me. They are similar... their behaviour when with you is girly, light-hearted, fun and positive which in itself is a strong + compared to other girls' personalities but the real trouble starts with the kind of sex they want.

They don't just want to be spanked, grabbed or hair pulled (which not every girl wants in the first place), they want to be choked, something that really did it for me... They want you to call them all kinds of demeaning names during sex; wh0re, slut, mattress (in Swedish calling someone a mattress = they're "used" and give themselves up for easy sex), will call themselves that, and dirty talk in general. They want to have red marks from being slapped on the ass. They love sucking d!ck and are sluts - they'll put your d!ck in their mouth, and do so happily, a few minutes after you first meet them. They want to be told what to do and not just in the bedroom, the vibe of you having dominance over her is something they want to feel always. That extends into naturally wanting to please you in and out of the bedroom, because they see themselves as submissive to you and their place is to do what's good for you and what you want them to. And they don't only love doing all this, they need it. They're not putting on an act, like a girl who doesn't have these kinks but does it to be nice to or keep you. No, these girls are genuine. When they get off to you calling them a loose wh0re while you pound them with your hand strangling her blood supply it is a real feeling for them, which you can see and hear on them if you've ever fvcked one of these kinds of girls.

The problem is this has ruined me for normal girls who are not messed up in this way. These easy and slutty, high sex drive, submissive, practically masochistic, dirt talk-loving girls have taken my sexual desire to a level where I can't have "normal" sex anymore without feeling like it's a waste of potential and time. I couldn't be with a girl who isn't like this anymore, and I also happen to need new plates. How do you identify these girls so you know who to go for?

Dude I empathize! I've had to escalate to choking thanks to a few women, and now passive ones make me sick

 

[El Payaso]

These are the types of girls that will beg you fvck them in the ass and then when you pull it out turn around and shove it all the way down their throats...I know what you are saying.

I was banging a chick like that for a time and I haven't met anyone like her since and I STILL think about those times...I never will choke a chick...I'm too strong and it would be far too easy for me to crush their windpipes if I were to get really into it by mistake and then I'm looking at a murder/manslaughter charge...no thanks I'll pass, lol

Don't forget possible rape charges too.

 

[Lozboss]

I would suggest going monk mode for a month. Not having sex or masturbating.

You need to reset your sexual brain. Happened with me too. You'll start to enjoy normal sex again.,

 

[Glumix]

I have been wondering about this question for half a week now because I struggle with the exact same thing at a different level.

And my answer will be pretty psychological I think, sorry about that, but it's going to be a question: what drives your sexuality?

There is a concept called canalization which explain how you can use your libido to build something of greater nature.

It means that following only your d!ck is as bad as following only your brain. You have to find the golden mean, the desirable middle between those two extremes.

Sexual desire is not strictly related to the awesomness of the sexual act you want but also to the desire beyond that drives the act.

And as men, we have the right (and the duty) to refuse the sexual acts of lower nature proposed by the women to build something better. It's not lacking masculinity to do that. It's what make you stronger than a large majority of men.

Your masculinity does not come from the fact that you have your d!ck deep in her as$ but from the fact that your d!ck is where you want it to be doing what you want it to do. And I think that is what drives your sexuality and consequently your desire.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

IMO there's nothing wrong with a submissive, dirty, kinky gurl. I don't have the need to 'reset' my brain/sex drive, because I'm secure in knowing what I want and like.
The method that I use is something mentioned above - train, teach and nature a 'nice' type girl into a wh0re. I've done it several times. They've told me it's very sexually liberating. The key is not to force anything. Offer the goods, let her grab the hook and off you both go.

 

[Glumix]

The method that I use is something mentioned above - train, teach and nature a 'nice' type girl into a wh0re. I've done it several times.

And what is the precedence?
You train/teach them so you will have sexual desire?
Or you have sexual desire so you train/teach them?

 

[HeadLightsOn]

And what is the precedence?
You train/teach them so you will have sexual desire?
Or you have sexual desire so you train/teach them?

The latter.