I have been masturbating for 8 years and now... i have a trouble about nofap.

[nelysses]

You guys read right. I have been masturbating for 8 years.
I worked out, lost weight, was a virgin and had sex with a girl and when I didn't feel anything I realized how bad it was(this was months ago). I am still praying that I can get an erection.
It hadn't even occurred to me that this was related to masturbation. On the contrary, I had started to lose interest in girls. I literally didn't want any girls.

After this, I fell into a ridiculous depression, I distanced myself from my friends and had almost no close friends (because I never went out) and within months I gained 30 kilos again and became 120 kilos.

I dropped from 120 to 90 and my life got much better. Now I'm 120 again.

I decided to stop this and started dieting and exercising again, but this time I realized how bad masturbation was. I'm literally addicted. 15-20 a week...

Then I decided to do Nofap for a while, but after 2-3 days I became a completely different person.
I already have a few friends and they say I'm very nervous and have changed. Besides, while I thought I didn't want any girls, now even my normal friends started to interest me.
Yesterday, she showed me an outfit. Even her cleavage started to interest me and to be honest, I was a little shy about Nofap. Is it always going to be like this?

Has anyone ever done Nofap or experienced this? Do you think I should do it?

 

[SW15]

Then I decided to do Nofap for a while, but after 2-3 days I became a completely different person.
I already have a few friends and they say I'm very nervous and have changed. Besides, while I thought I didn't want any girls, now even my normal friends started to interest me.
Yesterday, she showed me an outfit. Even her cleavage started to interest me and to be honest, I was a little shy about Nofap. Is it always going to be like this?

Has anyone ever done Nofap or experienced this? Do you think I should do it?

NoFap (and no porn) is one of the best seduction practices that you can do. It will help your vibe with women and your eventual ability to persuade them to have sex with you. It will also be good for your sexual health, as you can avoid the downside of porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). PIED can happen to regular porn watchers and masturbators.

Doing nofap can change everyone's personalities a bit at first. You might change from being more nervous to being more comfortable with yourself.

At first, nofap can make you more aggressive on your approaches, which is good. The only way that you are going to orgasm is through sex, so you are going to want to make the moves to have sex.

The new practitioner of NoFap typically only notices differences in the first few weeks of NoFap. Then, after 1-2 months, NoFap becomes a part of who you are. The best way to keep NoFap going in the long term is to get laid regularly.

 

[Plinco]

Most importantly abstinence from masturbation helps you heal from dopamine dis-regulation. With more balanced dopamine levels, you will feel more motivated to do constructive activities. I highly recommend it.

 

[nelysses]

NoFap (and no porn) is one of the best seduction practices that you can do. It will help your vibe with women and your eventual ability to persuade them to have sex with you. It will also be good for your sexual health, as you can avoid the downside of porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). PIED can happen to regular porn watchers and masturbators.

Doing nofap can change everyone's personalities a bit at first. You might change from being more nervous to being more comfortable with yourself.

At first, nofap can make you more aggressive on your approaches, which is good. The only way that you are going to orgasm is through sex, so you are going to want to make the moves to have sex.

The new practitioner of NoFap typically only notices differences in the first few weeks of NoFap. Then, after 1-2 months, NoFap becomes a part of who you are. The best way to keep NoFap going in the long term is to get laid regularly.

Most importantly abstinence from masturbation helps you heal from dopamine dis-regulation. With more balanced dopamine levels, you will feel more motivated to do constructive activities. I highly recommend it.

Thank you for your answers.

I was not a very social and talkative person since I was little. But in the last 2 years I suddenly became the opposite and I can say that I talk to people enough to bother them. But I always look for the reason for this within myself because I want to tell everyone everything as if I am dependent on others. As if I can't be enough on my own.

Besides, I don't want to do anything and I don't enjoy anything. Could all of this be related to NoFap? More precisely, excessive masturbation.

 

[SW15]

I was not a very social and talkative person since I was little. But in the last 2 years I suddenly became the opposite and I can say that I talk to people enough to bother them. But I always look for the reason for this within myself because I want to tell everyone everything as if I am dependent on others. As if I can't be enough on my own.

Besides, I don't want to do anything and I don't enjoy anything. Could all of this be related to NoFap? More precisely, excessive masturbation.

It's important to think about what you were like prior to you becoming a regular porn watcher and masturbator.

I suspect that you turned to pornography and masturbation because you weren't getting sufficient attention from women during junior high and high school, just as you were reaching puberty and developing sexual interest in the opposite sex.

It is likely that you were emotionally hurt by the rejection of similarly aged females during the crucial years of adolescence.

The goal with no porn and no masturbation is to try to revert yourself back to the beginning of adolescence on mindset and do a hard reboot on your psychosexual development process.

Additionally, it's likely you might need some psychotherapy from a mental health professional in dealing with some childhood and adolescence trauma.

 

[nelysses]

It's important to think about what you were like prior to you becoming a regular porn watcher and masturbator.

I suspect that you turned to pornography and masturbation because you weren't getting sufficient attention from women during junior high and high school, just as you were reaching puberty and developing sexual interest in the opposite sex.

It is likely that you were emotionally hurt by the rejection of similarly aged females during the crucial years of adolescence.

The goal with no porn and no masturbation is to try to revert yourself back to the beginning of adolescence on mindset and do a hard reboot on your psychosexual development process.

Additionally, it's likely you might need some psychotherapy from a mental health professional in dealing with some childhood and adolescence trauma.

Actually, I was just in middle school and I realized it gave me more pleasure. Now it happens more when I'm stressed. It's not just stress. It's like a drug withdrawal. It's like an animal was sedated. It's like I'm a wild animal when I don't. As I said, a friend of 3 years is starting to like me for the first time. Not emotionally. Purely physically When she asked me how is my blouse , I started to see the cleavage on her chest instead of her dress.. And that was only in 3 days. When I finally masturbated again she was just a friend again.

I don't have any rejection stories about that. In fact, it may be for this reason that I never wrote to a girl before university. I didn't even talk to her like that. Then, when I got to university, there were stories where my name came up.

 

[SW15]

It's like a drug withdrawal. It's like an animal was sedated. It's like I'm a wild animal when I don't.

This is common. Porn and masturbation are sedations. You are horny. You watch porn and masturbate and then are less horny.

When you remain horny from no porn and no masturbation, you are motivated to take action to seduce women and take care of the horniness.

Focus on getting real life sex. That's what no porn and no masturbation does for you.

 

[corrector]

The problem is you need to invest in a proper VR headset, like the Quest 3, and look at the highest quality 180 degree videos. I have a Quest 2 so it can pass. When you watch everything through a smartphone or small computer screen, it's not immersive enough, so you end up fapping more to compensate for the small screen size. If it's large enough, then something clicks off in your brain, it's too big to fap on, and then you won't be fapping at images since you have access to life-size portrayals of the same thing. It starts feeling pervy to behave like that since what you are used to on a small screen seems pervy on much larger medium. Just watching something that's life-size feels like a mental conquest in and of itself. Like you are in the same room with beauty. (just kidding by the way, please don't take this seriously)

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Just cut if off OP, you can be done with this nonsense once and for all.

 

[Travel memoir21]

The So called No Fap 'Aggression' can be tamed by Activities such as lifting weights, praying, meditation, yoga, taichi, qigong, morning and Bible study/scriptural readings and morning walks in your neighborhood or park. Combine those activities and you'll have a calmer state of mind and be a better overrall person. It's all in the lifestyle, one of the cardinal rules I follow is to never lay down in my bed without doing some hollistic or spiritual such as meditation, chanting a few Godly mantras, stretching or praying and connecting with shared communities whose into the stuff I'm in online.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Lol in my opinion if you spend your time trying to use this vital essence to get some poon, you’re only gonna end up with baggage and misery. What you want to do is to use this lifeforce to go after positive goals such as improving your financial situation, trying to make a difference in a positive cause to improve society, being more creative and harnessing this energy to enjoy your hobbies and art, using this essence to attract a more Quality woman who is righteous with virtuous qualities you respect…a good woman will see through your playboy facade trust me …etc.

 

[MatureDJ]

You guys read right. I have been masturbating for 8 years.

I'm literally addicted. 15-20 a week...

In my day, someone like you would have been nicknamed "Old Faithful".

 

[MatureDJ]

Just cut if off OP, you can be done with this nonsense once and for all.

That might not do the trick.

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[nelysses]

In my day, someone like you would have been nicknamed "Old Faithful".

Lol in my opinion if you spend your time trying to use this vital essence to get some poon, you’re only gonna end up with baggage and misery. What you want to do is to use this lifeforce to go after positive goals such as improving your financial situation, trying to make a difference in a positive cause to improve society, being more creative and harnessing this energy to enjoy your hobbies and art, using this essence to attract a more Quality woman who is righteous with virtuous qualities you respect…a good woman will see through your playboy facade trust me …etc.

This is common. Porn and masturbation are sedations. You are horny. You watch porn and masturbate and then are less horny.

When you remain horny from no porn and no masturbation, you are motivated to take action to seduce women and take care of the horniness.

Focus on getting real life sex. That's what no porn and no masturbation does for you.

The problem is you need to invest in a proper VR headset, like the Quest 3, and look at the highest quality 180 degree videos. I have a Quest 2 so it can pass. When you watch everything through a smartphone or small computer screen, it's not immersive enough, so you end up fapping more to compensate for the small screen size. If it's large enough, then something clicks off in your brain, it's too big to fap on, and then you won't be fapping at images since you have access to life-size portrayals of the same thing. It starts feeling pervy to behave like that since what you are used to on a small screen seems pervy on much larger medium. Just watching something that's life-size feels like a mental conquest in and of itself. Like you are in the same room with beauty. (just kidding by the way, please don't take this seriously)

I will read them all messages tonight. I'm just writing a status update before going to gym.
Normally I was sleeping at least 10 hours a day and wake up tired. Today I couldn't sleep because of this sexual energy..

I don't know why but I always thought about the same girl. Frankly, since she is my childhood friend, it makes me a little angry. Normally I never thought like that but suddenly seeing only a pair of breasts while looking at her is very strange and freaky. But somehow I couldn't get over it.
Normally I would fap and sleep but I didn't yesterday. And I only slept for 4-5 hours when I would normally sleep for 10 hours. I am tired but sleeping less made me feel good. I still had the same sexual desire inside me.

I got up and went for a walk. I walked for 5-6 km. I am better now but it is obvious that there is a problem.
I hope this desire will decrease in time. I don't want to lose a girl who has been my friend for years.
If I stay like this for a little longer, I feel like I will touch her ass while playing billiards.

I won't lie. I know that I shouldn't be afraid of sexuality and I actually like being like this. It makes me feel like a wild animal rather than a docile pet but we are humans not animals.
And most importantly, this girl is my friend.
Normally I don't care, but now if I close my eyes I see cleavage.
Not anything emotional, just physical.

 

[nelysses]

Lol in my opinion if you spend your time trying to use this vital essence to get some poon, you’re only gonna end up with baggage and misery. What you want to do is to use this lifeforce to go after positive goals such as improving your financial situation, trying to make a difference in a positive cause to improve society, being more creative and harnessing this energy to enjoy your hobbies and art, using this essence to attract a more Quality woman who is righteous with virtuous qualities you respect…a good woman will see through your playboy facade trust me …etc.

I'm still a student in a med school. So I don't have much time for work. I study and spend time with friends. What a bad life
I will be graduate in 3 years. So I should do something. I don't wanna be a obese masturbator doctor...

 

[SW15]

I don't wanna be a obese masturbator doctor...

That would be bad. That seems less likely to happen, though it could happen.

An unmarried doctor does get a status increase in the eyes of women. Doctor salaries are also good too, so you'll have money working for you.

Money and status do help with getting laid, especially with Epiphany Phase and beyond women (late 20s and beyond).

The majority of the doctors and dentists that I have seen in the last 15 years have been married men. I think most of these doctors/dentists got married during medical/dental school or residency. This is also a small sample and these doctors/dentists have been Baby Boomers and Generation X'ers. These Boomers and X'ers were most active in the mating scene of the 1980s-1990s. Their experiences are less relevant to a medical school graduate of the 2020s.

I'd be curious to know more mating environment experiences for the Gen Y/Millennial doctors/dentists. It is probable that Millennial doctors and dentists are more likely to be unmarried men.

None of the doctors/dentists I've met seemed like they would be amazing seducers.

 

[RickTheToad]

You should check your testosterone levels. Masturbating is fine and also helps reduce the chance of prostate cancer. A mixture of sex and a knuckle shuffle never hurt any dude.

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Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer - Harvard Health

Research into the connections between sexual activity and prostate cancer....

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Ejaculation Frequency and Prostate Cancer: CAPLIFE Study - PMC

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