I have a pretty good idea of women & how they behave, but this is a first. Help!

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So long story made short. As most of you know, I work at the admissions complex at my college doing customer service and office duties. I go out and greet people and the line, ask them what brings them there and then take the leadership and solve their problems/concerns.

Today, there was this really cute Asian girl crouching on the floor, looking kinda tired in the line. I thought she was just another brat because she was well-dressed with one of those 1k designer purses. Anyway, she needed help ordering a transcript and I took her with me to show her how the system works. As we were on our way inside, she asks "do you have some water?" I responded with "I dooon't, but the cafeteria is here and there," again, thinking she was being a brat.

To my amazement, it turned out otherwise. Fifteen seconds into the order, the closed her eyes, said she didn't feel well and started shaking vigorously right before she collapsed. People were staring and being paranoid, but my first response was catching her right away and carrying her in my arms about 60 feet to a seating area where I laid her down. As I carried her and walked across the main entrance where 50 people are waiting to be helped, I told a male coworker to get a nurse and a female co-worker to get her water. It was like rapid fire commands & they all obeyed, haha. I just took the leadership altogether, opened the door to get her air and undid her sweater so that she could breathe & relax. I felt good and masculine.

People stared and stared some more and 10 minutes later half the police station and fire department are there--an exaggeration in my opinion. Anyway, after it had all passed, I heard her saying "he caught me right before I fell." They decided to take her to the health office and she said "can I still get my transcript?" and the paramedics responded " as long as you feel okay." In that instant, I happened to be walking by (I kept working shortly after carrying her and stuff, but checking on her), smiling, the paramedic says out loud " this is the guy that saved you! and he will also help you get your transcript?! This is the guy right here. :yes: I answered to her gaze & smile with a playful "you owe me twenty bucks, dude!" The whole crew chuckled and then I helped her with her transcript as the cop who was escorting her to the health office watches from behind. At the end of the order and after asking her what happened she says out of nowhere while smiling "hey, do you want lunch or something?" (I know..I know not the best response..)but I said "sure!" and proceeded to write down my number and told her to write hers. I told her to feel better and she smiled, thanked me again and left.

What does this mean? Did me taking the leadership, carrying and "watching over her" rise her interest level? or is this just a polite way to thank me? ( I thought to myself, she could have just said "thanks" and walked away, but she didn't. This is especially meaningful coming from an Asian girl, as they are very, very shy, but on the other hand, she could be Americanized as her style suggests). So what's going on here DJ's? Do I wait for her call, call her myself? Stick to the "she's into me until proven otherwise" mentality? I feel like tis is either a solid green light or simply a polite thank you. Please be detailed.
 
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Robyn923b said:
Stick to the "she's into me until proven otherwise" mentality? Please be detailed.
Why wouldn't you?

Anyway, this is a crazy scenario, so your guess is probably as good as that of anyone else as to what it "means." So contact her if you want, I don't think it really matters (I'd wait a bit though...). You have an easy opening, ie "You know, you still owe me that lunch ;) " or something like that.
 

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Fate has played right into your hands young grasshopper. You can initiate first or wait a day or so. I think this can lead to something promising.
 

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lol.. just be cool with her make her fall in love then turn her into an F buddy.. oh and she was in to you long before you saved her cause if an ugly guy saved her she would have said "oh umm thanks you bye.."
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Go with it.

Ring her up in a few days and ask her to take you out to lunch. Make sure you make a funny out of the previous situation: "You gotta promise me that you ain't gonna faint this time. I can't keep playing Superman all the time, you know! ;)" or something like that.
 

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Gray The Prince said:
Fate has played right into your hands young grasshopper. You can initiate first or wait a day or so. I think this can lead to something promising.
Tyson420 said:
This might be your soulmate.
Haha, you guys might just be right. She was put in my path and I don't mind :whistle:


ARrocket said:
Why wouldn't you?

Anyway, this is a crazy scenario, so your guess is probably as good as that of anyone else as to what it "means." So contact her if you want, I don't think it really matters (I'd wait a bit though...). You have an easy opening, ie "You know, you still owe me that lunch ;) " or something like that.
vatoloco said:
Go with it.

Ring her up in a few days and ask her to take you out to lunch. Make sure you make a funny out of the previous situation: "You gotta promise me that you ain't gonna faint this time. I can't keep playing Superman all the time, you know! ;)" or something like that.
You guys got the same idea, but Vato, you always get a laugh out of me, haha. That is such as smooth approach. Good stuff :up:


DonGorgon said:
lol.. just be cool with her make her fall in love then turn her into an F buddy.. oh and she was in to you long before you saved her cause if an ugly guy saved her she would have said "oh umm thanks you bye.."
You're right, she could walked away and been aloof, but she asked me out! What techniques would you use that would be effective in this situation besides the already mentioned?
 

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I can't help but focus on the fact that this girl went from woozy to seizing and back again a few minutes later to A-O-K.

Seems like a major medical or psychological issue which may only be the tip of the ice berg. But then again maybe I'm just being a prejudiced a-hole.

My only comment would be to decide early, like before you first meet or talk to her, that you want to either hit it, or be friends.

For me, the times when I've found myself screwing up and acting AFC are when I'm interested but I'm trying to leave the door open for friendship in case she isn't interested in me sexually. It's almost always only when I fully commit that I seal the deal.

My only solid "do this" type of advice is: DO NOT TEXT TO MAKE PLANS.
 

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Always assume that a girl wants to sleep with you if a girl spontaneously asks you to meet or gives you her number. Consider it a go... Don't even consider the fact it may be otherwise, and you will have her.

It did happen to me once that a girl gave me her number, and that I, a few months later talked to her about it and she refused to admit she were hitting on me. She said she only gave it to me of practical reasons. Nonetheless, when she gave it to me I assumed that she was hitting on me and we ended up sleeping together. So nothing to lose to make the wrong assumption, as long as you make it to your own advantage ^^


Deadly_Ripped said:
I can't help but focus on the fact that this girl went from woozy to seizing and back again a few minutes later to A-O-K.

Seems like a major medical or psychological issue which may only be the tip of the ice berg. But then again maybe I'm just being a prejudiced a-hole.

My only comment would be to decide early, like before you first meet or talk to her, that you want to either hit it, or be friends.

For me, the times when I've found myself screwing up and acting AFC are when I'm interested but I'm trying to leave the door open for friendship in case she isn't interested in me sexually. It's almost always only when I fully commit that I seal the deal.

My only solid "do this" type of advice is: DO NOT TEXT TO MAKE PLANS.
To me this is to worry too far ahead. If I find myself thinking about potential long term-problems with a girl that I'm about to date, I always stop and think "why do I worry about this, I don't even know if I will kiss her or sleep with her yet, why do I worry about things that might or might not be a problem in a relationship?"
This kind of worries will ruin your focus...

Second of all, fainting-things actually happens to some girls. I know two girls who have fainted out of nothing, only if it's a little hot, if they had too little food, too little water etc. Normally they are just fine, live normal lives and they are also great and beautiful women....
 
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