I have a date with a 9.5 next week. I can't wait :)

[Target_100]

I met this chick at a bar earlier this week, and I was sober and played it cool and had some nice social proof.

I initiated a conversation about nothing and gave her a few compliments to let her know I was interested. Not direct compliments but some easy cold reading guessing things about her that were correct. I did not to any negging or any PUA-techniques, just being a nice, normal, polite and sober guy.

She sent quite a few IOI's after just a minute or so, and as she was about to leave with her friends she was a bit hesistant almost wanting me to ask her to meet again, so I asked if she wanted to meet again and she said yes, so I asked for her number, dialed it in front of her so she had mine number too and off she went.

Next day I sendt a text about nothing and she answered positively, next day I sendt another one to set up a date next week. I take it for granted she is busy during the week because she is so gorgeous so I told her we could meet during the week and suggested a day.

Here are my thoughts about this:

* I'm no good-looker but she is, and when I asked "Want to meet some day?" she replied "Yes, we could go out for dinner", my gold-digger senses tingeled a bit. Her looks also suggested she likes exclusive stuff.
* I will of course not spend too much on her, preferably just coffee but maybe a middle of the road dinner in a semi-nice place.
* I will be confident and in comand, and not put her on a pidestall at all, while still being polite and nice.
* She is probably not the most intellectual but she probably have some major issues that pretty girls often have. I will try to make her open up a bit about this if it seems right and she initiates it.
* For the date I will probably just ask if she is hungry, suggest going for a drink before dinner and then go to a semi-nice restaurant.


And of course there is always the very real possibility of a flake

I know I am overanalyzing things here, but its part of a learning process.


Any constructive thoughts are very much appreciated.

 

[novaknight]

Err....saying "Want to meet some day" isn't exactly optimal...
Shoulda been like "Hey, let's go out for dinner. I'm available (insert time/date), when are you available?"
It's more confident and assertive.

 

[Target_100]

Novaknight: You are in a way right. But "want to meet some day" is much less arrogant.

What I said worked anyway, and to say "Hey, lets meet" implies that she has lower status, versus "Want to meet" implies that we are of equal status.

As I see it my way to say this was more respectful, and this girl has been hit on by *many* dudes that are undoubtfully both confident and more alpha than me.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Target, I'll break it to you gently.

No woman in the history of humankind has ever thought "Hey, let's go out for dinner" is "arrogant". It is seen as manly and attractive.

Why on earth would you want to imply "equal status"? TRUST ME, she is going to find ways to consider her status to be way above yours, and within minutes of meeting you, too. A 9.5 comes with a default setting: "I'm way above you". Your job is to elevate your status and lower hers.

Don't worry about sounding "respectful". Concentrate on being a confident man who reaches for what he wants. That's the only thing that she can respect.

You'd better brace yourself. I'm being nice. Some of the other guys here are going to tear you a new one in order to wake you up.

 

[Target_100]

Atom_Smasher: I totally agree. But at a certain level not trying to be confident implies total confidence.

I will try to describe three levels of status between people:

1. One is dominant and one is submissive. Like a dog and his owner.
2. Both are equally dominant. Like two friends of a long time.
3. One is dominant and one is sublissive, but like a man and a little baby. You will aks the baby "Do you want some milk?" I.E. you are very nice and caring but still of course 100% dominant.

Not the best example but some of you get what I mean.

However of course its better to be dominant towards a girl, but I feel that being in charge of all the big decicions and letting her have a word in the small ones shows more confidence than making all the decicions myself.

 

[Gray The Prince]

If all goes well....I wanna see pics.

 

[Target_100]

I can show some pics with the face blurred out if the date happens. Which I hope

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Why blur out the face.

 

[Target_100]

PrettyBoyAJ: for privacy reasons of course

 

[ZenoB]

Great job getting the date. Now, all you have to do is have fun when you meet up with her. It sounds like you're putting her on a pedestal because she's so attractive. Unless you have a harem of 9.5's, this is understandable. But, you've really got to fight this in your mind until you don't give a sh*t! Also, if things are going well, escalate or leave on a high note.

 

[novaknight]

I think the OP is getting off by looks alone...especially after how he asked her out. Nevertheless, congratulations. I never had a true date with a hot girl...so I suppose you're doing rather nice.

 

[Zunder]

I call bullshyt on 9.5. So she is up there with Raquel Welch in her prime yea?

 

[Target_100]

Zunder: You are right. She's not a 9.5. Raquel Welch is old and not 9.5 in my book either, but this girl I'm going out with tomorrow is by far the best one i've ever talked with, and could easily be a model.

Realistically she might be an 8, but thats way better than what I have ever dated and thats the point to this.

But I prepare for a big ass flake so if it happens I will not be too sad

 

[Target_100]

UPDATE:

I sent a text at about 12 telling her that I will be available for dinner after work, and guess what, no answer for the next 6 hours...

Of course it was stupid to send a text. I should have called.

Anyway. No answer. Now what? How can I maximize the chanses of ever meeting her?


(BTW I am a big jerk and a looser so no need to tell me that

 

[Real Talk]

just tell her to tell you if she's going to show up or not so you don't waste your time. Then move on when she gives you her excuse.

Also, stop with the . I don't think people here will feel inclined to help you if you don't seem serious about taking to heart the advice they give you or improving in general.

 

[Target_100]

Ok I sent a message telling her that I went to another place and that she should tell me when she had the time to meet. She answered quickly that she was sorry and would like to meet haha Like her interest would increase over time.

My action plan will be to call her and game the shyt out of her on the phone and get her interest back up

Anyway, wish me luck, this is a trophy girl for me and an accolade in my gaming life

 

[rocket87]

1. Did you text her back when she texted you with her apology?

2. Yes. CALL Her. You shouldn't have to "game the sh!t" out of her on the phone, it should be simple. 5-10 minutes max on the phone. Reference to funny things that you talked about previously. If there isn't much to reference, then show value somehow with something random and short.. again simple.. Ask her how she is, then when she asks you, tell her "I just booked my trip to hawaii, can't freakin wait." or whatever is exciting in your life recently.

And stop saying she's a trophy girl. She is worthless. She has done nothing for you. You're going to seriously fu$k yourself with this attitude.

 

[rocket87]

what ever happened with this? lol

 

[bigneil]

Having a date with a 9.5 is like having your football team go to the Super Bowl.

You're either going to be extremely happy, or extremely sad. There is no in-between.

Every mistake will be magnified - you will never live them down. But you still want to make it to the big game.

Don't forget - Venus favors the bold - make the bold move at the end of the night. At the same time, don't be humping her leg for the hours leading up to that.

Good luck!

 

[PectoralisMajor]

this text messaging is pathetic; just call her, enough already.