I have a "date" tonight with someone who LJBFed me before

[Kev07]

Yeah i have a casual date tonight, I basically just asked her if she wanted to go watch school play w/ me, because I need extra credit ( English is giving me extra credit for watching the school play)
It was supposd to be for yesterday( friday night) but then she said she couldn't make it but then she rescheduled it for tonight.

Basically last year I was worse than an AFC and she LJBFed me, i didn't kino or anything, but thats a different story. I've been light light kino-ing, and I was wondoring how I could bring up the kino, everytime I think about how I could do that it just seems so weird in my mind(shes one of my best girl friends).

She also just broke up with her boyfriend(with some of my help) 4-5 days ago, and hes being a complete AFC, she actually told me "That b!tch won't leave me the fvck alone" I have just been telling her to take her mind off that stuff.

uhmm I don't know what else i should add in, so if you need to know more about my situation then just ask me.

My question is how should i be approaching this "date" and how I should escalate kino, considering I never kinoed her for more than half a year since I met her, and just recently started really light kino(hand on shoulder) a month or two ago.

 

[mpimpin]

wow man... I can't really give you any advice but I wish you the best of luck if you want to pursue this. I've been in your situation before and I got out of the friend zone, by using DJ tactics. It can be done, but it takes awhile and is hard work. As much as you might think its worth it, it probably isn't.

 

[Kev07]

Sh!t, I just remembered like 3-4 weeks ago she asked me if "i still liked her" and i replyed with no(at the time i was interested in another girl) and then i threw in some bull**** about friendship(hurts to type this, but i really wasn't interested at the time) wooooo this is giong to be interesting.

I have also [played around with the idea of saying "remember what i said back then about not liking you, well it's game time *****!" or something, just my morning mind talking >.>

 

[pvf94]

im stuck in the same situation, got ljbf'd.....casual date to go see a movie on thursday night. She want's to hang again, I wonder if I can pull it off =D I am just looking at it as a fun oppurtunity to bang her, but not feel bad if I dont. WIsh me luck!

(we have been friends for 4 years) hahaha, If I pull this off I am a hero

 

[Docs]

Sh!t, I just remembered like 3-4 weeks ago she asked me if "i still liked her" and i replyed with no(at the time i was interested in another girl) and then i threw in some bull**** about friendship(hurts to type this, but i really wasn't interested at the time) wooooo this is giong to be interesting.

I have also [played around with the idea of saying "remember what i said back then about not liking you, well it's game time *****!" or something, just my morning mind talking >.>

Haha, don't do that... just start off fun, and work your way up to a kiss.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Beware of becoming the "Rebound Guy." :nono:

 

[Kev07]

I'm not worried about being a rebound guy, sometimes she tells me about how her ex used to be, i usually respond with something like "listen, it doesnt matter anymore" and then i proceed to take her mind off of him and just make her laugh and have fun =]

but yeah, I want a kiss, and if i get it, will be my first kiss o.o

 

[Hitman10000]

You are the Rebound dude, don't worry it'll come to her senses that you and her are not a good match. However, Rebounds are usually 50/50 in landing a real relationship. Just let her do all the clingy stuff and you just relax.

 

[Kev07]

she actually told me she didn't want to get into relation ships right now, but that's ok i'm not looking for a relationship.
anyways about 2 hours before i'm supposed to pick her up

text messages:
her: Nt going 2 the play. save my ticket though and get me the program
me: wth
her: 4got it was my frnds party 2nght. sry
me: you owe me. and im not talking about the 6 bucks
her:aw i knw im so sry

and eh i decided not to answer that last one, b!tch.

 

[SamePendo]

Go to the gym asap. Lift very heavy weights, and when you're done with your final rep, instead of going "ahhhh!" say "byyyytch!" in a macho voice, it won't seem like if you said bytch, but you will have said it. A secret between you and me. ;-)

I've got to go to sleep.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

she actually told me she didn't want to get into relation ships right now, but that's ok i'm not looking for a relationship...

So you're her 'no strings attached' emotional pick me up, huh?

 

[Kev07]

Maybe, i'm not sure if she thinks of me as more than a friend though and a close friend but who knows

 

[SubSoniq]

would have been interesting if she didn't stand you up... i'd say next her

 

[TheHoff]

Simple! just don't display the qualities of a male friend and moreso the qualities of a future BF. if you don't know what these are heres a checklist:

-Be the dominant one, i.e. LEAD her and take action
- Don't be her emotional tampon. i.e. try not to get her talking about her EX. You should divert her mind from him. change the subject about something more lighthearted.
- Don't give her all you attention, make yourself look cool around her by talking to as mnay other people as possible.
- Tease her, THIS MAKES GIRLS WET WET WET! but in a playful and flirty way.
- make sexual remarks from time to time to let her know you aren't a whose wihout a willy.
- LOOK AS GOOD AS POSSIBLE

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY DON'T HAVE TOO HIGH OF EXPECTATIONS AS SHE MAY STILL NEED SOME SPACE! HAVE A FEW OTHER GIRLS ON STANDBY ALSO SO SHE CAN COMPETE A LITTLE AND YOUR VALUE WILL RAISE A LITTLE HIGHER.

 

[Kev07]

Simple! just don't display the qualities of a male friend and moreso the qualities of a future BF. if you don't know what these are heres a checklist:

-Be the dominant one, i.e. LEAD her and take action
- Don't be her emotional tampon. i.e. try not to get her talking about her EX. You should divert her mind from him. change the subject about something more lighthearted.
- Don't give her all you attention, make yourself look cool around her by talking to as mnay other people as possible.
- Tease her, THIS MAKES GIRLS WET WET WET! but in a playful and flirty way.
- make sexual remarks from time to time to let her know you aren't a whose wihout a willy.
- LOOK AS GOOD AS POSSIBLE

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY DON'T HAVE TOO HIGH OF EXPECTATIONS AS SHE MAY STILL NEED SOME SPACE! HAVE A FEW OTHER GIRLS ON STANDBY ALSO SO SHE CAN COMPETE A LITTLE AND YOUR VALUE WILL RAISE A LITTLE HIGHER.

I do all of this except not so much on the teasing. I'll see what happens monday. to decide if i'll next or whatever

 

[Demon]

You'll find that many guys avoid becoming the "rebound guy"; in fact, you will discover there are plenty of guys who will avoid pursuing women who have explicitly stated they are only interested in friendship. Hogwash. Since when are women explicit about their emotions? There's no such thing as a "friends-only zone" unless, of course, there simply isn't any sort of intimate attraction between you and her.

Being the rebound guy is your foot in the door. It's like any entry-level position.

 

[Kev07]

so you're saying being the rebound guy is good?

ok anyways i still need some tips on escalating kino without freaking her out.

hopefully my text message to her may have indicated i'm a tad bit interested again, while not responding to her text is like playing a bit of the guilt card. she may not have felt too bad at first about not going because, it wasn't actually a date or anything, i just asked her if she wanted to go with me to watch the play cause i needed extra credit.

i'll find out monday =]

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

so you're saying being the rebound guy is good?

Not really. Too much emotional baggage that she'd want you to carry.

 

[Demon]

so you're saying being the rebound guy is good?

Yes. If you want her. Other guys would say no because they have other goals.

 

[Kev07]

she actually sometimes tells me something about him and i'll say something like, it doesn't matter, or i don't care and she'll just move on to other things and not mention him