i have a date this sat

[Packers2010]

it's great, i managed to get a date! oh how wonderful.. maybe not..

see i went on one of those social networking sites called tagged. see.. what i did was i signed up and messaged every girl i could in my area. nothing happened. so i forgot about ti. 2 weeks later someone added me, so i got an email about it. i really thought i had deleted it. but alas no i didn't. so i messaged every girl in my area again. this time though i got a few hits. one girl was quite responsive.

i asked her to show me around because i haven't been here long. we even have got her number. ( haven't texted yet. need to get credit, will get some tomorrow) we are meeting up this Saturday. at 2 pm. that's great. can have some fun with a girl. haven't done that in awhile.

for some reason, i feel like something is off. i mean, this has NEVER happened to me so quickly. like, i feel like i am going to get mugged or something. we have had less then 6 messages and we are meeting up. not to mention she could be flaky as f@ck.

it doesn't matter though, sure it's 40 mins train ride from my house. but there is a row of bars just off the trainline so if she dose flak. then hey, i can go hit on other girls too. not a big loss. gets me out of the house witch i wan't

do you have any tips i could use?

just thought i would update you all. now lets **** her and turn her into a **** budy :rockon: :woo:

 

[Eternal_water]

From what I have read it seems like the less messages before meeting up the better your chances are.

Seems like, the more messages have been sent the more desperate you look, the less mystery remains and it looks like you have no options left.

whereas if there are few it seems to make you look confident and less likely to be friendzoned - striking while the irons still hot.

Let us know how it goes.

 

[Packers2010]

From what I have read it seems like the less messages before meeting up the better your chances are.

Seems like, the more messages have been sent the more desperate you look, the less mystery remains and it looks like you have no options left.

whereas if there are few it seems to make you look confident and less likely to be friendzoned - striking while the irons still hot.

Let us know how it goes.

yeah, maybe so. this time i just opened, got a response then asked if they wanted to meet up. i used to never do that. maybe I AM being more confident now. i do feel like i am.

anyway, i'm making this out to be a bigger deal then it is. i am more confident now, so i should expect better results.

 

[roman81]

yeah, maybe so. this time i just opened, got a response then asked if they wanted to meet up. i used to never do that. maybe I AM being more confident now. i do feel like i am.

anyway, i'm making this out to be a bigger deal then it is. i am more confident now, so i should expect better results.

Confidence is a good thing bro, however be ready for her to flake. Go no contact until the evening before the date or an hour before the date it self.
I would go into this without any expectations. I'd look at this as good practise for the future.
I would plan to spend no more than an hour and a half at most with her. Find some sort of physical activity to do that would be fun, failing that go to the pub for a liquid lunch, failing that go for coffee. Try to let her do more talking than you. Make light hearted jokes and tease her just don't be too harsh.

Good luck

 

[Serg897]

I would go into this without any expectations.

That is the bottom line. Just have fun. Tease her and ask her questions about herself. It sounds like you are nervous and without much experience, so you are making this out to be a bigger deal than it really is. She is just a girl. Relax. Have fun. Let us know how it goes.

 

[Packers2010]

Confidence is a good thing bro, however be ready for her to flake. Go no contact until the evening before the date or an hour before the date it self.
I would go into this without any expectations. I'd look at this as good practise for the future.
I would plan to spend no more than an hour and a half at most with her. Find some sort of physical activity to do that would be fun, failing that go to the pub for a liquid lunch, failing that go for coffee. Try to let her do more talking than you. Make light hearted jokes and tease her just don't be too harsh.

Good luck

don't worry man. i expect to receive a " i can't make it" flake text any minuret now.

what i might do, is just tell her i am meeting up with a friend after then go to the bars and hit up some girls there..

i will most likely go to a star bucks get a coffee then tell her to show me around the place. since it is 2pm. then at about 4 maybe end the date. something like that. will always play it by eat though.

 

[Packers2010]

That is the bottom line. Just have fun. Tease her and ask her questions about herself. It sounds like you are nervous and without much experience, so you are making this out to be a bigger deal than it really is. She is just a girl. Relax. Have fun. Let us know how it goes.

thanks for the support man. it will be ok. i will just do whatever. might see if i can find some records while i am there.

 

[roman81]

The only contact you should have with her is to confirm the date don't text her unless she initiates contact, do not send any BS texts

 

[Packers2010]

The only contact you should have with her is to confirm the date don't text her unless she initiates contact, do not send any BS texts

i don't have any credit if i wanted to. witch i don't

i will text her tomorrow befor i get ready at like 12pm. that's about it.

 

[Packers2010]

ok guys. she flaked as expected. though we agreed on next weekend. ( to day is st pats day and the rugby is on so it's a huge day. plus tomorrow is mothers day here so. )

anyway here is the next convo that happened between us this morning.

me: hey it's luke. we still on for today?
her: hey not sure i'll let you know by 12. ( my train leaves at 12 and it was raining so i got mad at this point)
me: don't worry about it i'll fix someone who WANTS to meet up ( yes i said fix in the text it's a typo)
her: you what?!
me: do you want to meet up or not. my train leaves soon so if i miss it thats it.
her: can we rearange? it's not that i don't want too meet up with you it's the fact it's my grandparents 50th anniversary and i have to help prepare everything. sorry it got dumped on me yesterday and my brother dropped out. ( i didn't care at this point. so i just played it down.)
me: oh... why didn't you say so in the beginning that's fine. **** they been married 50 years? that's an achievement. anyway i hope you have fun. we can do something next weekend if you like. ( i re read this line here and it sounds so AFCish. but whatever, she will flake next week i bet)
her: thanks for understanding and yeah next weekend is fine with me.

it doesn't bother me at all. i just got pissed because i didn't want to go all that way and have her flake on me. i might get her to come closer this time.

anyway there the up date so far. will see if anyone else wants to meet up.

 

[Iceberg]

ok guys. she flaked as expected. though we agreed on next weekend. ( to day is st pats day and the rugby is on so it's a huge day. plus tomorrow is mothers day here so. )

anyway here is the next convo that happened between us this morning.

me: hey it's luke. we still on for today?
her: hey not sure i'll let you know by 12. ( my train leaves at 12 and it was raining so i got mad at this point)
me: don't worry about it i'll fix someone who WANTS to meet up ( yes i said fix in the text it's a typo)
her: you what?!
me: do you want to meet up or not. my train leaves soon so if i miss it thats it.
her: can we rearange? it's not that i don't want too meet up with you it's the fact it's my grandparents 50th anniversary and i have to help prepare everything. sorry it got dumped on me yesterday and my brother dropped out. ( i didn't care at this point. so i just played it down.)
me: oh... why didn't you say so in the beginning that's fine. **** they been married 50 years? that's an achievement. anyway i hope you have fun. we can do something next weekend if you like. ( i re read this line here and it sounds so AFCish. but whatever, she will flake next week i bet)
her: thanks for understanding and yeah next weekend is fine with me.

it doesn't bother me at all. i just got pissed because i didn't want to go all that way and have her flake on me. i might get her to come closer this time.

anyway there the up date so far. will see if anyone else wants to meet up.

Do you think she's really going to come?

I find it hard to believe that she was unaware of her Grandparent's 50th Anniversary. Sounds like bullsh*t.

 

[Packers2010]

Do you think she's really going to come?

I find it hard to believe that she was unaware of her Grandparent's 50th Anniversary. Sounds like bullsh*t.

i don't care either way. I she isn't the only girl i am going after. i have 2 others i am setting up.

 

[Serg897]

Yeah I generally have little tolerance anymore for these kinds of excuses. If she is really interested she wont give you this kind of garbage when you are trying to set up a date.

Try once more and have zero tolerance for games or excuses. Another flake and you shouldn't bother anymore.

 

[PapiChulo]

I would set something up and flake on her before she gets a chance. I am 90% sure she will try to flake because her pus$y cat got sick..... P.S. good tactics on setting up many dates.

 

[Foley91]

So, I think you'd rather set another dates. Probably that's not your case.
Don't worry, I'm sure your other girls were better. Though it seems to me you'd be more confident about the girls anyway. The social dating sites nets are created exactly for that purpose. There's no need to wait for awile, to correspond, etc. There are several friends who met in such sites and they feel quite good- in the role of good partners who are in love for sure or just as f888buddies. Well, that all works! Inform us how the things went with the other 2 girls)

 

[Foley91]

So, I think you'd rather set another dates. Probably that's not your case.
Don't worry, I'm sure your other girls were better. Though it seems to me you'd be more confident about the girls anyway. The social dating sites nets are created exactly for that purpose. There's no need to wait for awile, to correspond, etc. There are several friends who met in such sites and they feel quite good- in the role of good partners who are in love for sure or just as f888buddies. Well, that all works! Inform us how the things went with the other 2 girls)

 

[Foley91]

So, I think you'd rather set another dates. Probably that's not your case.
Don't worry, I'm sure your other girls were better. Though it seems to me you'd be more confident about the girls anyway. The social dating sites nets are created exactly for that purpose. There's no need to wait for awile, to correspond, etc. There are several friends who met in such sites and they feel quite good- in the role of good partners who are in love for sure or just as f888buddies. Well, that all works! Inform us how the things went with the other 2 girls)

 

[Packers2010]

well i have 2 girls kind of on the ropes.

sam- i was supposed to see her on Thursday because my aunt was driving down to her town. ( never made it there) i txted her late on Thursday because i forgot and set up a drink today.

i got a txt message at 6 saying she was in bed with the flu all day. ( she has flaked once before) i missed the text and at 8pm saw it.

i replayed with:

well the question is: do i give you another chance and bleive you. do i just give up ecuador ( dam iphone auto correct) your a flake and don't actually want to meet?

i do really want to meet you, i genuinely am ill please give me another chance.

i haven't sent anything back yet. not sure if i will yet. who knows.

that is girl one.

girl 2 is Carly

we set something up and she flaked, then i asked her on tuesday if she was free on thursday she said she had class, I said something about having a cooler time with me then class. but she wouldn't break it.

might test her mid week for next weekend.

with both girls i am finding something funny. both still have enough IL to text back. but not enough to meet. witch i find weird. i remember meeting a girl on the train ( posted about her on here) and when i mentioned meeting up, she went silent. by now i thought these girls would have bailed. maybe they just like my attention? how ever minimal it is. ( longest one day next convo i have had with them is less then 5 messages)