i have a confession

[amazingswayze]

i've been taking game way too seriously lately.

there's more to life then getting girls.

all i've been thinking about lately is sex and how will I get it from a girl.
:woo:
I think i'm spending more time on this site then I need to.

as I was laying in my bed a few minutes ago I came to the realization that girls are not a big deal.

I've only hooked up with one girl I actually had feelings for. She was my first kiss. She didn't want me back in the same way. After being hurt, I sought practice. I think I've hooked up with 7 girls now, and I just recently got to 3rd base.

But I've never had a girlfriend.

As of right now, I see girls as sexual objects, and nothing more really.

On my path to DJ, I've become a bit of a jerk.
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This one girl really likes me. I was her first kiss. I've been a jerk to her. All I'm trying to do is have sex with her without any regard to her feelings. I don't want a relationship with her because I wouldn't be proud to call her my girlfriend. She's a 6, and I don't think she's losing weight anytime soon. (I'm such a jerk)

I basically gave up on love. Not saying I will be this way for the rest of my life though. I want to be in a happy marriage one day with my wife and kids. I have that dream still. But in my youth, I have no hope in these girls. I just want to use them for sex.

I guess it's because I want to lose my virginity, and see how I feel about it after. I want to be ready when I meet the girl I do have feelings for.

There's a J. Cole lyric that describes this typical teen mindset;

"Should I admit that a slutty ***** was my first smash?
Wasn't experienced, so nah I didn't wear it out
Always thought my first time would be someone I cared about
But being a virgin was something to be embarrassed 'bout
I used that ass for practice, so I wasn't scared out my mind"

This is my confession;

I've become a jerk instead of a DJ, and I'm hooking up with girls that I have no real interest in/care for. In a nutshell I guess.

I feel guilty.


Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

At age 17 you should focus hardcore on education all the way through to grad school if possible then get a good job and when you are settled in around say 26-27, its prime MACKING time.

 

[Poon King]

agreed, this is why i am telling you people to stop putting 110% of your focus on women.

They are not worth it at all, focus on important things in your life, focus on you, your studies, your future.

When you stop focusing on women its like magic your life will turn around and you will feel much better.

Indeed.

These pathetic thirsty betas would hang themselves if someone from the future told them they would be single for life. :crackup:

They have no reason to exist outside of servitude to women.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You know, I always thought of hooking up as ****ing, but I guess it's not. What does it mean to hook up? Cuz I have heard of SO mnay different definitions to be quite honest.....

 

[pyros]

yeah, it is a super good idea to forget about women at 17, and worry about it once you're a 30 years old virgin. Great advise...

You should care about women etc, but you should be obssesed with it. You should go meet chicks, have sex with them, relationships etc, but you should not focus all your energy on that.

It seems many guys here have decided to throw the towel and go like MGTOW. This is not the way. Good women enrich your life, and men need women to be fullfilled.

Some men may be happy if they fvck with two women, some others want to bang 40, it is a personal choice.

One thing is to be obssesed with women and focus all your life in getting women (which is completely wrong), and another very different thing is to want to have sex with them, go on dates, have fun etc. which is totally normal.

OP I would not advise you to 'forget' about women. They should not be your priority; your priority must be your studies/career/family, but you should also spend some time picking up chicks and getting better at it.

 

[GS750]

Well I don't think the message was to forget about women. I think it was to not take them seriously at age 17. Yeah hook up with them, have sex, etc. Learn what makes them tick, what they respond to, their games, etc. But develop yourself in other ways and don't make them your #1 priority. I was lucky in a sense that I have a sister who is 2 years older. She was quite popular in her high school/college days and I saw how she and her friends behaved. Gave me a little insight to the female mind.

 

[Bingo-Player]

personally i wouldnt be so quick to give up on chicks at your age

i can promise you now that if you adopt an wiser mentaltity about women (which you will if you keep reading posts on here) then you are going to be able to clean up

chicks aged 17/18/19 and even 20 are the easiest girls you will ever be able to bang because they are niave and they havent discovered exactly how much power they have over weak men yet

im 23 now and girls my age are becomming arrogant and self entitled they have $hitty jobs and personalitys to match but because they are in the best shapes of their lifes , their pu$$ys are still relatively tight and they can afford boob jobs they think they can get away with it

its only when they get to their late 20's / 30's do they start realising the younger model is now getting the lions share of the attention and they better settle for whoever the fvck gives them any attention anymore

a maijority of my plates are 19/20 and i find this is the perfect age, not too immature , fairly loyal , wanting to experiment in bed , more than happy to suck on the D etc etc

like i said try and become a little wiser with women and you will reap the rewards

 

[SmooveMooves]

First, not wanting to date a chick because she's overweight does not make you a jerk. Not caring about a plates feelings doesn't make you a jerk either. Being a jerk makes you a jerk. If your just some asśhole going around disrespecting people and hurting them, then you may have an issue. Second, instead of focusing on gaming chicks. Focus on Self Improvement

Which used to be with this sites main focal point. Excercise, build wealth, goto school, pursue a passion, these are things you should be obsessing over. Women should be secondary and WILL come.

Also, have sex A$VP. If you feel like it will make you more comfortable/confindent, go for it. My first time was hyped up, but once you do it you'll be like 'Wow, this is no big deal.'

Don't wait til' you 27 or something cause then you'll just bítch about all the lost time you could've been having sex. We've had a couple posters here upset about the time they wasted. Just get it out the way. Sex is cool , but don't go in expecting much to come. (Get it?)

 

[Alexandar]

A part from sex women bring nothing absolutely nothing positive in a man life.

what about cooking? and why cant a woman act the role of a simple friend as well? have you ever had a real friend, yannick?

Ha beta white knights fake accounts come on here and say that i was a failure with women, they don't realize that they failed too, and much worst them me being single these people will have failed there lives.

So. you ADMIT you failed with woman, but your only argument is, well you people failed as well? thats very pathetic, but its Good to know you admit it at least, i GUESS. but dont delude yourself kid. you already failed your whole life too. granted you have a bit of time until. you are 60 but you are not the type of person who can change his mindset drastically especially at your age. you are an insecure b i t c h when it comes to women. you ARE that beta. Your entire mindset of "i dont need women" is based on butthurtedness, not on actual perceived self worth. I hope im wrong and you can one day soon move forward. From the sounds of it though, id be shocked. You have the mentality of a child. No wonder your LTR's bent you over like this.

A woman will NEVER be able to do to me what they did to you. If she was able, id never have given her the time of day in the first place.

found the will to live again.

you had lost it? case and point...

I don't need a women to take decision to where i want to go what i want to eat, and so on.

ummm. what? you were letting women do this? wow buddy. so now it becomes clear how beta you were.

you see, if you let women control u to that degree, most people here will never fail as badly as you, so mind your tongue.

bash the good people who speak against the grain.

yea i feel bad for poon king too sometimes but what does he have to do with..... oh... wait
....
...

i see.


for all the sh! t you talk about how useless and evil (ALL) women are, you dont see to understand that nothing in life is ever a one way street. we all hold SOME blame at least, in all of our interactions with others. If for nothing else, then for LETTING THEM HAPPEN.

so dont let the women take all the blame when you laid your pathetic a s s on the ground face first and said "it would be my honor If you took a dump on the back of my head"

 

[amazingswayze]

Great advice everyone!

You know, I always thought of hooking up as ****ing, but I guess it's not. What does it mean to hook up? Cuz I have heard of SO mnay different definitions to be quite honest.....

Plenty of positive responses on this thread, I appreciate it.
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I'm not obsessed with women but I will admit they are higher on my priority list than they should be. I think it's just because I am eager to lose my virginity. I feel like I won't be a complete version of myself until that happens, if that makes sense.
:trouble:
In my age group, "Hooking Up" can mean anything from kissing to sex. I use it to refer to kissing for the most part but it's meaning is ambiguous. If you really want to know what I meant when I said that;
:wave:
I've kissed 7 girls.
I've made out with 3
I've felt up 3
I've fingered, ate out, and got head from 1.

 

[Konada]

personally i wouldnt be so quick to give up on chicks at your age

i can promise you now that if you adopt an wiser mentaltity about women (which you will if you keep reading posts on here) then you are going to be able to clean up

chicks aged 17/18/19 and even 20 are the easiest girls you will ever be able to bang because they are niave and they havent discovered exactly how much power they have over weak men yet

im 23 now and girls my age are becomming arrogant and self entitled they have $hitty jobs and personalitys to match but because they are in the best shapes of their lifes , their pu$$ys are still relatively tight and they can afford boob jobs they think they can get away with it

its only when they get to their late 20's / 30's do they start realising the younger model is now getting the lions share of the attention and they better settle for whoever the fvck gives them any attention anymore

a maijority of my plates are 19/20 and i find this is the perfect age, not too immature , fairly loyal , wanting to experiment in bed , more than happy to suck on the D etc etc

like i said try and become a little wiser with women and you will reap the rewards

Very true. College fvcks up alot of women when there's thirsty dudes around every corner.