I hate women who play innocent when they screwed up

[Someone Much cooler]

i wouldnt have let that bother me. I would have said, "meh i guess i just have a polished palate when it comes to my taste in women." Its not every guy who has a GF like (insert ya boos name) guees i been spoiled by (gf name) gorgeous attributes! Squeeze gfs hand and wink at now jealous friend, whats her counter...to say some chick is hotter than her home girl in front of her?

 

[Kailex]

PS: Your girlfriend secretly loved it and was laughing on the inside.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Sodbuster,
"Basically, you spanked a baby with an axe"Sometimes you are quite precious.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Women in general have this unspoken, subconscious attractiveness comparison system continuously running in their heads. They are keenly aware that the primary factor for attracting men and keeping their attention is their physique. Superbly attractive women (9's and 10's), while predominantly insecure, have a enough male attention fawned upon them to know their value, however, for the 8.5's and under, the largest majority, there is a constant need for comparison; so much so that they psychologically evolve a subconscious comparative association.

For the most part all of this works covertly for women, and usually amongst themselves. But, when a man overtly confirms a woman's relative attractiveness (or lack thereof) it sets off that comparative association. It triggers this internal conversation for her, "That woman is in better shape than me and this guy is confirming that she's beneath his physical standards, therefore I am beneath his physical standards."

For women, an attack on one is an attack on all, so it's not surprising when ANY woman is critiqued on her physicality by a male that the sisterhood will come to her defense, because their collective egos are wrapped up in that associative comparison. Men typically are indifferent to fat or ugly women on the low end of the attractiveness bell curve, so their physical status is overtly confirmed far less. It's physically evident and women know their comparative ranking with lower end women, but compare her with women in the midrange of that bell curve and it's game on. So when you made that judgement call, you weren't attacking the track girl, you were attacking the girl in the conversation because of her own self-perception.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Most of your story is pretty juvenile. Just a petty moment between two adults. Really not a big deal; it will wash over fairly quickly.... I've said tons of "over the line" things to women; and never had one remain mad at me about it for long.

So...

This is the only thing im commenting on...

- my GF is now mad (it's her friend) that I called her on it, I tell her it's the principle of the matter.

Why are you justifying your actions to your GF? Her being mad is good... you not giving a sh!t if she's mad about something - is better...

 

[Nkognito]

When I first read this thread I could not make a judgement because the original post seems one sided. I would have to be in the conversation to know if it was "too brutal" or just a "blunt reply". The way the post was typed is aggressive and if I just play a scene of strangers out in my head and read through the script by the way its typed then it does seem like a brute response.

In all honesty I would have just countered with intelligence and made a snarky remark as to if I was drunk then my beer goggles must be on the fritz. And then countered with a better equivalency such as "cheerleaders are to football as Morgan Webb is to geeks" followed by a "big phucking DUH" facial expression .

I am a "kill it with kindness" kind of guy, I don't need to become Andrew Dice Clay because the rebuttal is so miniscule and not worth it. I mean it's not a political debate or an arguement over quantum chromodynamics. It was merely a retort about physical attributes which as Rollo eloquently pointed out, is indeed a very delicate area for women.

Hell when she made her comments then you could have just picked up your drink, taken a swig, asked for her phone, looked at the pic and said "you're right she is getting hotter". Then take another drink and kept going and then finish it off by looking at your girlfriend and saying "you got a place to stay tonight because the more I drink the better she looks, I am taking this phone home with me". :moon:

 

[Boilermaker]

It was a biatch comment, and he went in a tad hard.

Yes, I am glad you finally agreed on that. Because that's the whole point.

Who cares about her juvenile feelings?

 

[cordoncordon]

I really didn't think what you said was any big deal. And same goes for what she said. There have been a few instances where my gf said something snippy and I asked was she ready to start her period. One time I was joking, the other time I wasn't. Either way, no big deal and she never took offense to it. I think most girls have been asked that question enough when they are being b1tchy not to get too bent out of shape from it.

I think I am much more open to see a woman's point of view compared to many on this forum....but in this case, your friend and your gf are over reacting.

 

[cordoncordon]

BTW I think that was a good comparison with Morgan Webb and track girls. Both Webb and the track girl you posted are "ok looking". But better because of what they do. As some of you know, I owned/trained race horses for many years, and we always called girls who we hung out with or fvcked and who worked at the racetrack..."trackgirls". They could be not as attractive as girls you see out at a club, but because we saw them all the time on the racing circuits we raced at, and because they were into horses, the guys were into them. Plus, most were easy haha. Dated one track girl for 3 years..about an 8, another girl for a year, and numerous lays. The one I dated for a year was actually really hot, looked a lot like Megan Fox. Suffered from depression though. The 3 year relationship was a girl I started dating when I was 28 or so, and she was 17 . Oh yeah!

 

[backbreaker]

defe

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

You could have handled the situation better. What would James Bond do? He would be ****y funny, make the girl smirk or smile with his response.

We've all defended ourselves by either retaliating or by explanation. By not thinking much and acting fast we can often lose our frame.

This is something we can all learn from.
Acting aloof would have also been a good choice.

In the OP's story, everyone overreacted.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

God, who gives a sh!t what other people like James Bond would do? He's a fictional character (and Pierce Brosman plays that 2D character perfectly) who is completely unrealistic. Listen, if you're gonna look up to Bond you might as well look up to Data from Star Trek. Now THERE'S a guy who's 100% in control of his emotions.

@Backy - Maybe at that point (when she insulted you) you didn't see her in a male/female dynamic so you came at her like you do one of your boys when they disrespect you.

I'm all about respect and when there's disrespect and I know it's in the context that I'm guessing, I don't want to be around that person or I give disrespect right back. (I try not to go that route because it only causes more grief).

I can agree with Bible also when he says you might have been hurt because she called you drunk, something you've tried for years not to be. To you that could be a big insult and if the chick knew you a little better she probably wouldn't have said that.

I don't think you did anything wrong personally. She gave you sh!t and you threw it right back. You're a drunk and she's on her period. Both of you should let it go. Both of you were being immature. *shrugs*

I think Rollo is right too. When you gave your opinion on a female's looks she took it personally. She shouldn't.

 

[backbreaker]

When did I give my opinion on her looks? TM nail on the head... I'm a 27 year old black man, what the fucl do I have in common with james bond? I mean don't get me wrong I'm the biggest bond fan here, but still. I don't base my life off fictional characters, nor do I pretend to be perfect. I do have somewhat of a temper and she set it off in that instance.
I think of it like this, if one of my boys called me a drunk how would I handle it? I'd tell him to shut his sorry ass up and say something about him, that's how we rag on each other. None of my boys would come ot me and call me a drunk and not expect to get talked about. Why should she? why should I treat her differently becuase she has a pee pee hole?

 

[Warrior74]

LOL sounds like you played innocent when you screwed up bro. You overreacted and your girl, she needs to stay her ass out of it.

 

[JustLurk]

Tl: Dr

You lost your cool for nothing. Not very suavely handled.

Next time don't crack walnuts with a damn sledgehammer.

 

[backbreaker]

Honestly I don't feel I did anything wrong. I treated her the same way I would treat any of my other friends, guy friends had they made a comment about me being a drunk. If she didn't want me to take it there she needs to keep her mouth shut. If that is too harsh then screw it I'm just a harsh dude than, it is what it is.

 

[hithard]

Honestly I don't feel I did anything wrong. I treated her the same way I would treat any of my other friends, guy friends had they made a comment about me being a drunk. If she didn't want me to take it there she needs to keep her mouth shut. If that is too harsh then screw it I'm just a harsh dude than, it is what it is.

Chick wasn't a GF, plate, mate’s misses, future prospect or bff (GF friends don't count). This isn't some social changing moment in which you lose face. It's a 'just shut the f.uck up' type of moment among friends.

Usually GF friends often try to pull this stunt, in which the want to knock you down a peg or two for whatever reason. Also those 'fake friends' that ain't really in the circle.
I also agree with Rollo in that it was an attack on her own self image issues which would have ignited it more.

If you are comfortable with what you have done, own it and move on.

 

[Warrior74]

Chick wasn't a GF, plate, mate’s misses, future prospect or bff (GF friends don't count). This isn't some social changing moment in which you lose face. It's a 'just shut the f.uck up' type of moment among friends.

Usually GF friends often try to pull this stunt, in which the want to knock you down a peg or two for whatever reason. Also those 'fake friends' that ain't really in the circle.
I also agree with Rollo in that it was an attack on her own self image issues which would have ignited it more.

If you are comfortable with what you have done, own it and move on.

That's the point. He's not. He probably didn't say it with a twinkle in his eye and smile like I do. I say inappropriate stuff all the time, hell I'm known for it. But every knows I'm kinda playing. When I tell you to "die in a fire" I kinda sorta mean just shut up you idiot, but I still like you. He came off as a complete asshat and ran here for justification. Like mama used to say, it ain't what you say, it's HOW you say it.

 

[backbreaker]

And she didn't come off as an asshat lol? I didn't come for justification as much as I did to rant. GF gave me the cold shoulder all night becuase i hurt her friends feelings and i was pissed, all over some comment her friend said. If me calling a woman on her **** with that statement makes me an *******, than I'm just an *******, becuase I will do that all day long. If that makes me "insecure" than I'm just insecure. I have a sharp tongue, everyone who knows me knows this. I am very comfortable in my own skin, my GF (who has come to her senses) knows who I am and what I am.

While I do drink, let's get put this all in real perspective. she called someone who struggled with a serious crack cocaine habit (and yes she does know, her BF does blow and my GF had to let her know to make sure it's not around when I come by for ovbious reasons) a drunk, for no other reason than to try to look cool in front of her friends by outing me for an opinion (a valid one), yet I'm the one in the wrong for saying she was on her period. Mind you, I don't, didn't care, but let's just keep it real, she knew what she was doing when she said that. I've owned it and I have moved on, she has apologized, I apologized, my GF apologized to me, everyone has move don, but if you expect me to feel BAD for calling her on her ****, or like i did something wrong after that, wrong.

 

[Warrior74]

And she didn't come off as an asshat lol? I didn't come for justification as much as I did to rant. GF gave me the cold shoulder all night becuase i hurt her friends feelings and i was pissed, all over some comment her friend said. If me calling a woman on her **** with that statement makes me an *******, than I'm just an *******, becuase I will do that all day long. If that makes me "insecure" than I'm just insecure. I have a sharp tongue, everyone who knows me knows this. I am very comfortable in my own skin, my GF (who has come to her senses) knows who I am and what I am.

While I do drink, let's get put this all in real perspective. she called someone who struggled with a serious crack cocaine habit (and yes she does know, her BF does blow and my GF had to let her know to make sure it's not around when I come by for ovbious reasons) a drunk, for no other reason than to try to look cool in front of her friends by outing me for an opinion (a valid one), yet I'm the one in the wrong for saying she was on her period. Mind you, I don't, didn't care, but let's just keep it real, she knew what she was doing when she said that. I've owned it and I have moved on, she has apologized, I apologized, my GF apologized to me, everyone has move don, but if you expect me to feel BAD for calling her on her ****, or like i did something wrong after that, wrong.

Whatever man. I care. You came off as a sourpuss and you know it. That's not how you win. The same thing said with a smirk and grin woulda still put her in her place. You still sound butt hurt on here about it. Then again, you're never wrong bruh. I've repped you so much that I can't rep you anymore, you have some epic posts on here but still we all fall short sometimes, you did on this one, admit it and charge it to the game. I don't expect you to feel bad Mr Bond, I expect you to learn. But whatever mang. You're right, right?