What kinda attitude is this Kal? It's truly sickening, but I understand why you feel this way and I can relate to you because I was like you once.
I used to yurn for sex, yurn for a woman etc, but none where forth coming and I lived in my own self pity and I blamed everyone and everything for my own shortcomings until one day I realised what was wrong with me; me -- my perception of myself was the problem and that is your problem. I used to look like a homeless person, I looked and dressed like Eddie Vedder - rough and scruffy and where I am from that look isn't appealing. I realised this, I cut my hair, I began to run with a rucksac full of weights, I did push ups and sit ups and improved my build. I bought clothes that werent torn, outdated and actually fitted me instead of being baggy. I began to get compliments and looks from women, but still I wasn't happy with myself, something still wasn't right and that was something inside of me.
I used to have low self esteem, I used to be negative, pessimistic, I used to take rejection personally, but then one day I realised that I had to change my entire focus and my mate helped me, we became each others wingmen and we got rejected a lot, but the more I got rejected, the less it hurt, I became immune to feeling of rejection, the sadness of it. I also changed my perspective of women. I no longer put them on a pedestal, because my friend taught me not too and showed me pictures of HB9's without make up and believe me they were some horrendous photos, but slowly I started to realise that HB9's and HB10's usually enhance their looks to get those magic numbers. I don't enhance my looks, because for us men it is easy. You've got to maximise your personality, because there are many women out there who will find you attractive, but will be turned off by your defeatist attitude, your low self esteem etc.
Remember, a person who is insecure and has low self esteem is worthless and no matter how hard you try and hide your feelings of worthlessness, it will be portrayed in how you present and carry yourself. Women will notice this and will avoid you like the plague.
You can leave this forum and live a life of self loathing, or you could use this forum, read posts, take heed of advice and try and improve yourself, because until you respect yourself, like yourself and improve yourself, you will continue to be in the same position and it will only get worse as you age. Nip it in the bud now, and start improving yourself and with time you'll get there. We all do mate, you've just gotta hang in there. Life isn't meant to be easy -- an easy life with no challenges is a life not worth living at all.
