I hang out with a nerd/AFC

[Humble Young Man]

I am actually doing good now at making new and cool friends are being comfortable with girls. But the problem is that I always hang around with this nerd (extremly high average, AFC) but I actually like hanging around with him. I do have some good non AFC friends. The reason why I like hanging around with that nerd is because I have lots of fun joking around with him and talk about school subjects.

However here is the problem: I read a post today that what others perceive of me is who I hang out with. The nerd is not disrespected by other people, but it is just that he is a plain AFC.

I don't really want to stop talking to him all of a sudden because that would be awkward.

I mean we go to volunteering after school and walk together one day a week and I do not feel comfortable with the eyes surrounding me that I am walking with a nerd.

Thoughts?

Also, does walking or talking exclusively with a person lower social position and value(nerd, AFC) result in lowering my own value?

 

[steve_erkle]

I typed up a response on my iPod that took me twenty minutes and accidently posted it in the wrong thread LOL. Search fpr a thread called "one more thing" by Sosa_80. that's my response to your question. I would copy/paste it but I can't on my iPod. Later.

 

[Ganondorf]

Who cares

are you really his friend?

If so then why would you care about what other people thought about you hanging out with him?

stop being so shallow

 

[WCF]

Bros before hos man.

 

[Smellsfishy]

Talk to him about this forum and help him out! He's your friend

 

[jeffthechef]

eh..you probably don't want to be friends with people who like you less just because you hang with someone less popular...and remember this guy is only less popular based on a norm set by society....and that society is created by media...and media's sole purpose is to make money by inducing insecurity in individuals...

think about it..why are nerds "unpopular"
they don't dress in correlation with the latest fashion
they don't have "300" bodies
they don't talk about the usual things
they don't enjoy doing the same type of things

but isn't that sort of why you like to hang with him...cause he's unique and not another person simply copying what the popular kids are doing...constantly looking over a popular kid to see if he laughs at a joke, sings during chapel, etc.

UNIQUE INDIVIDUALS ARE ALWAYS SINGLED OUT
that guy that likes to dress like he was born 30 years ago...that girl who has an unusual obsession with unicorns...the nerd who enjoys learning

stop trying to be popular and worrying about social status..cause social status in high school doesn't mean anything once you go to college...and once you're an adult..it doesn't mean ****...once and maybe still nerdy fathers hang with the ex-jock fathers on the weekends, playing poker and talking about their children and sports...adults are less easily manipulated...they for the most part have more wisdom, they have more discipline and moral values...

Simply think about what kind of person you want to be and not others...I read this buddhist book my mom gave to me about once a month...and it's a list of rules regarding conduct...how to be a good child, friend, citizen...and i'll admit..i'm not in the top tier of popularity...probably the second..and i enjoy it...independence is freedom...i can do what i want on my breaks...which i usually study during, and have friends who i usuallys ee in the library that i hang with

Just do what you want to do.

 

[It's-Me]

I am actually doing good now at making new and cool friends are being comfortable with girls. But the problem is that I always hang around with this nerd (extremly high average, AFC) but I actually like hanging around with him. I do have some good non AFC friends. The reason why I like hanging around with that nerd is because I have lots of fun joking around with him and talk about school subjects.

However here is the problem: I read a post today that what others perceive of me is who I hang out with. The nerd is not disrespected by other people, but it is just that he is a plain AFC.

I don't really want to stop talking to him all of a sudden because that would be awkward.

I mean we go to volunteering after school and walk together one day a week and I do not feel comfortable with the eyes surrounding me that I am walking with a nerd.

Thoughts?

Also, does walking or talking exclusively with a person lower social position and value(nerd, AFC) result in lowering my own value?

Nope, stop being self-conscious. Rule #1, don't give a fvck what people think. Rule #2, bros before hoes and know who your true friends are.

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah one of the main DJ mindsets is fvck what other people think.

Hang out with the friends you want to hang out with because you find them beneficial to your life.

Also date whoever you want not worrying at all about what other people may think of the girl which of course means whether she's far younger or far older than you or whatever quality about her society may find unacceptable all that matters is that you find her acceptable. :yes:

 

[darkguy9944]

being unique attracts interest so just show him how to become a don juan have him read the don Juan bible his nerdy hobbies are interesting to women if he looks fine just have him work out nerds aren't against it it's just hard work find easy ways like wrist weights not dumbbells. he will be willing to learn by his nerdy nature and how to pick up chicks just show him how to fight, work out, and be styling (lose the acne and bad stuff like that)