I got the "its not you its me" line last night... depressed...

[Shawn241]

Just as a warning, there isn't really a point to this thread other than to rant about my life and women in general.

Let me first of all say that I'm not really into the gaming thing, picking up tons of girls and having a lot of girlfriends. DJ techniques are a good thing to have but I'm not interesting in using them to sleep with tons of women. Infact, I really hate being single and I hate picking up women and I suck at it. Needless to say when I do become single I stay for a LONG time and only get a gf again through extreme luck or some really random circumstance.

Well, after dating my current gf for only about 3 months, she gave me the "its not you its me" line last night, and was unwilling to talk about it or see me because she needed to be alone. I don't even really get it, I was really happy, she was (seemingly) really happy, I treated her like gold and she always told me how much of a loser and a ******* her ex was (and she dated him for a year!).

Why do women do this? Why do women leave great guys who have their sh*t together for no apparent reason than "you're a great guy but I have too much going on in my life sorry". Yet when they have crappy bfs they stay with them for years (like her ex, WTF?). I swear, women these days are going to be (or have already started) the downfall of our society. Thats why I think the divorce rate is so high and there are so many fatherless kids these days. Women do a piss poor job of picking men. They have great men in front of their face, or in my case DATING them, yet they break it with the good man for no apparent reason, date and marry a loser that treats them like crap, then think to themselves "How did I get myself in this situation?" I will guarantee you the next guy my now ex-gf will be some sort of loser like her previous bf before me was.

I'm a 26 year old very eligible bachelor, never married with no kids, and very depressed. I do want to settle down, get married and have kids at some point but I'm very afraid that will never happen. I'm getting to the point where I really do hate women.

 

[slaog]

Just as a warning, there isn't really a point to this thread other than to rant about my life and women in general.

Let me first of all say that I'm not really into the gaming thing, picking up tons of girls and having a lot of girlfriends. DJ techniques are a good thing to have but I'm not interesting in using them to sleep with tons of women. Infact, I really hate being single and I hate picking up women and I suck at it. Needless to say when I do become single I stay for a LONG time and only get a gf again through extreme luck or some really random circumstance.

Well, after dating my current gf for only about 3 months, she gave me the "its not you its me" line last night, and was unwilling to talk about it or see me because she needed to be alone. I don't even really get it, I was really happy, she was (seemingly) really happy, I treated her like gold and she always told me how much of a loser and a ******* her ex was (and she dated him for a year!).

Why do women do this? Why do women leave great guys who have their sh*t together for no apparent reason than "you're a great guy but I have too much going on in my life sorry". Yet when they have crappy bfs they stay with them for years (like her ex, WTF?). I swear, women these days are going to be (or have already started) the downfall of our society. Thats why I think the divorce rate is so high and there are so many fatherless kids these days. Women do a piss poor job of picking men. They have great men in front of their face, or in my case DATING them, yet they break it with the good man for no apparent reason, date and marry a loser that treats them like crap, then think to themselves "How did I get myself in this situation?" I will guarantee you the next guy my now ex-gf will be some sort of loser like her previous bf before me was.

I'm a 26 year old very eligible bachelor, never married with no kids, and very depressed. I do want to settle down, get married and have kids at some point but I'm very afraid that will never happen. I'm getting to the point where I really do hate women.

I'm thinking you were too keen to make an impression. Something turned her off you and this is what you should be looking at.


It's easy to blame other things besides ourselves when things go wrong. I used to wonder why women didn't like me but I know now. Basically I was too keen to make them happy. I wanted something off the women. When I say want it can be anything ie sex etc. Women know this. Do you treat everybody like gold? Is that your true personality?


When you want something off somebody what happens is you put them in a position of power. You put them on pedestals and they can see it. If a person sees that they have higher value then you then naturally they'll want to do better and they will eventually lose their attraction for you.


Thats the reality of the situation. To turn things around you need to develop a high value mindset where you know you're the prize. Also an abundance mentality will help with this. Theres millions of suitable women out there for you. Always keep that in mind to help protect against oneitis.

 

[Shawn241]

I'm thinking you were too keen to make an impression. Something turned her off you and this is what you should be looking at.


It's easy to blame other things besides ourselves when things go wrong. I used to wonder why women didn't like me but I know now. Basically I was too keen to make them happy. I wanted something off the women. When I say want it can be anything ie sex etc. Women know this. Do you treat everybody like gold? Is that your true personality?


When you want something off somebody what happens is you put them in a position of power. You put them on pedestals and they can see it. If a person sees that they have higher value then you then naturally they'll want to do better and they will eventually lose their attraction for you.


Thats the reality of the situation. To turn things around you need to develop a high value mindset where you know you're the prize. Also an abundance mentality will help with this. Theres millions of suitable women out there for you. Always keep that in mind to help protect against oneitis.

I didn't put her on a pedestal, I just treated her like a man should treat a woman. She didn't have that in her last relationship and she told me how much a$$hole here ex was and how he treated her crappy. I show her how good men treat women. I don't see anything wrong with that, why wouldn't a woman want a man to treat her good? I don't play games so I'm not concerned with her thinking im putting here in some kind of position of power. Besides she treated me very nicely too so it worked both ways.

I already know I am a high value person and I see no reason I should have to play games with women and have to constantly demonstrate this. I don't have any desire to date someone and in the back of my mind take pride that there are millions of other women out there. If I'm in a relationship, that's where I want to be and that's my focus. Is that so wrong? Maybe for most women, and that goes back to my original point of women making piss poor decisions.

 

[j0n024]

You should have stayed calm and just said

"I agree," Then cut her off and hang up....

I BET she would call back in ..... .056 miliseconds asking what "THAT," Meant.

 

[horaholic]

Just as a warning, there isn't really a point to this thread other than to rant about my life and women in general.

Let me first of all say that I'm not really into the gaming thing, picking up tons of girls and having a lot of girlfriends. DJ techniques are a good thing to have but I'm not interesting in using them to sleep with tons of women. Infact, I really hate being single and I hate picking up women and I suck at it. Needless to say when I do become single I stay for a LONG time and only get a gf again through extreme luck or some really random circumstance.

Well, after dating my current gf for only about 3 months, she gave me the "its not you its me" line last night, and was unwilling to talk about it or see me because she needed to be alone. I don't even really get it, I was really happy, she was (seemingly) really happy, I treated her like gold and she always told me how much of a loser and a ******* her ex was (and she dated him for a year!).

Why do women do this? Why do women leave great guys who have their sh*t together for no apparent reason than "you're a great guy but I have too much going on in my life sorry". Yet when they have crappy bfs they stay with them for years (like her ex, WTF?). I swear, women these days are going to be (or have already started) the downfall of our society. Thats why I think the divorce rate is so high and there are so many fatherless kids these days. Women do a piss poor job of picking men. They have great men in front of their face, or in my case DATING them, yet they break it with the good man for no apparent reason, date and marry a loser that treats them like crap, then think to themselves "How did I get myself in this situation?" I will guarantee you the next guy my now ex-gf will be some sort of loser like her previous bf before me was.

I'm a 26 year old very eligible bachelor, never married with no kids, and very depressed. I do want to settle down, get married and have kids at some point but I'm very afraid that will never happen. I'm getting to the point where I really do hate women.

The ugly reality is you have to sleep around to learn how to keep a girl around.

There is a wealth of information on this site. Put it to good use. The first thing you'll learn is not be be the 'nice guy.' Either they get dumped or cheated on (with a jerk.) That's just the way it is. The only way to find a good girl is to learn how to pick up lots and lots of women, and learn how to keep them, so you can actually CHOOSE a good one, cuz they are extremely rare. Most chicks APPEAR to be quality at first, but arent. And with society the way it is, they will be more and more scarcea as time goes by. Quality girls all have one thing in common. A stable upbringing. Nowadays, its harder to find women with stable upbringing.

You have to learn to beat the a$$holes at their own game, if you want a decent chick. Read the DJ bible, at the bottom of the page. It will help you understand.