I got played I THINK..Well i did

[yankees13]

Little history..

Liked this girl in college class, asked for email didnt want to to bother with # at first... She gave me her email... Asked her if i can get to know her and to chill... She said she doesn't go out with no one from school. but she will with me..

First time she cancells dont remember why, i think she had to work longer

Second time i ask her out we agreed on time..She cancells (i tell her if she dont wanna chill with me, to tell me and stop playing games because i got better things to do then playing games) Comes out saying that she still lives with her parents under her roof and she cant just leave the house to go out with a guy, shes hispanic (22 yrs old)?! I dont know... I was like ohhh blah blah ok. Says she does want to go out with me thats why she agreed, if she didnt want, she wouldnt have agreed. Then she asks if i want her cell #, i take it.

Ask 3rd time, agreed on time and place but cancells before we were supposed to meet, says she doesnt want me to see her (Hair dye job really bad, tells me been wearing a hat for 2 weeks) At first i didnt believe it so i called up my boy that has class with her, he tells me its true she been wearing a hat for 2 weeks, wanted to see if she is lying or not

Next time i talk to her, tells me she will be free for a while her parents are gone for 2 months, but is going on vacation to Ecuador to see her family so i ask her out to go out day before she leaves .. Called her at 11 am asked her we going out or what, says shes running to the store i was like aight, what time u coming back she says call me at 2... I call her at 215 doesnt pick up.. Call her second time (left a message with my # she doesnt have my #) Never calls back... Tried calling about 4 hrs later to see if she would pick up she didnt..

Now i know that i may have done alot of AFC things, but cut me a break... Now i really dont know what to think, shes either mentally retarded or very smart... If she didnt like me at ALL, why would you give me your email? Why would you respond to my email accepting my invitation? Why the hell would you give me your #? I see alot of things that proofs that shes not interested at all, and alot of things that says she does.... Also when she cancelled before i got little bit mean with her not because i was bitter just because wanted to, says that she thought i was a gentleman, and now im mean to her does that have something to do with the reason that she keeps cancelling? Tells me that she doesnt want me to be mean to her when we go out WTF?

So basically i got alot of drama on my hands.. What do i do? In 2 weeks she is coming back.. School starts again soon will probably see her? I erased her cell # Opinions please, sorry so long, thanks

 

[nan3109]

I had the same problem with this Korean girl. She kept making plans to see me, breaking them off over and over again.

Eventually I snapped at her and now she begs to hang out with me. Then when we're supposed to hang out, she CANCELS!

So I told her to eat shiit and leave me alone.

All the girl is doing is playing you along. An attention ***** who is starving for attention. If she thinks your gonna give up calling and askin to hang out, she'll provoke you by making up excuses for why she cant hang out or she'll just say "i REALLY want to see you buy ive been soo busy!"

SHES BULLSHIIT , MOVE ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF!

 

[yankees13]

Yea thats what i figured..Dont bother asking no more, and if she is still interested she will come along and tell me when to go out, she will call me, email or whenever now she has means to contact me if she wants to.

And if i see her in school walking or something ill just say Hi, and move on and if she wants to talk more she will approach me

 

[yankees13]

Does anyone else agree that i should drop her completely?

 

[iqqi]

yes, drop her. and if you EVER invite her anywhere, make it somewhere you are already gonna be at, with your boys, and tell her that's where you'll be, and if she comes good for her.

no more effort. AT ALL.

 

[yankees13]

Allright..


But any idea why she is doing this? Is it because she is not interested? Is it because she is bored and wants to play games?Is the testing me out.. I simply do not get it, If she is not interested i understand that but why, would u give me ur email, then agree to go out with me in the email, and then on top of that offer her phone # even though i didnt ask? Kind of confusing

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Originally posted by yankees13
Allright..


But any idea why she is doing this? Is it because she is not interested? Is it because she is bored and wants to play games?Is the testing me out.. I simply do not get it, If she is not interested i understand that but why, would u give me ur email, then agree to go out with me in the email, and then on top of that offer her phone # even though i didnt ask? Kind of confusing

She likes you, but she doesn't like you enough. She had every intention of going out with you, but it's not a priority. It sounds like she's self-centered. You may possibility get to go out with her one day, but you won't think all the trouble was worth it. The best way to get a self-centered girl is to make her dependant on you in some way. That way, a relationship with you is in her best interest.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by yankees13
Allright..


But any idea why she is doing this? Is it because she is not interested? Is it because she is bored and wants to play games?Is the testing me out.. I simply do not get it, If she is not interested i understand that but why, would u give me ur email, then agree to go out with me in the email, and then on top of that offer her phone # even though i didnt ask? Kind of confusing

who gives a flying fcuk, she is treating you like crap so fcuk her until she proves herself and her intentions to you. dammit.

 

[yankees13]

Very true..Thanks

 

[OddTech]

Originally posted by yankees13
Does anyone else agree that i should drop her completely?

Yup, drop her. She's giving you NO respect.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Right on iqqi! That needed to be said.

Usually I put it as "you know all you need to know" followed by "and now you know what to do."

Yanqui--AFC, sure, cutting you some slack, but why the excessive focus on one girl--??? Dangerously close to one-itis if not there already. She goes to the end of the line and stays there. Problem is, she may be the only one in line. This is why you don't throw all your efforts in one direction.

Like iqqi said above---you give NO more effort her way.

You need to save your strength and pursue others here. Get a line of 3+ and then you can put her at the end of it. No more excuses--yes, they are excuses--that she's hispanic and lives at home and had a bad dye job and etc etc etc.

Most women--unless they pay big money--have bad dye jobs. Not that they don't need a dye job, just that most goof it up or can't afford a good one..(Henna, by definition, is a bad dye job.)
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....man, I liked that, "...who gives a fvck?" We all need a verbal slap like that occasionally...

 

[Joey]

Dude, this fuking b!tch has cancelled on you more than any man could deal with. Forget about this wench. If she really gave a sh!t about you then she wouldn't cancel at all.

Cancel her as@ out.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Yankee: Can't cut you some slack when you act so AFCish!!! Here's the deal bro:

She gave you her e-mail because she was interested in you in the beginning.

She canceled on you because her interest was not high enough to merit wanting to get to know you better. You should have actually taken this as a blessing in disguise. Plenty of TRUE attention *****'s go out on get together's with guys that they have absolutely no interest in. They just want a "free" night out.

Why are you chasing her soo much!! Here are your AFC mistakes:

1st time she canceled on you, she SHOULD have been NEXTED!! The only exception to this would have been if she would have offered an alternative night. This would prove that she's interested and truely couldn't make it out that night.

-She canceled on you again- You actually made the right move by getting somewhat mad and calling her out on her b.s. But then you felt bad and started to over-analyze. If a ***** gets so bent out of shape for something that she did wrong, then she's not worth it anyway.

-Finally you called again and again!!! This shows a girl that your desperate. She never called you ONCE!!! She was in complete control the entire time, she dictated when you would call her, when she would answer the phone and when she would talk to you. That's never a good position to be in. I'm sorry bro but you had major ONE-ITIS!!! The classic sympton of this diease is over-analyzing like you have been!!!

And lastly, you put all your eggs in 1 basket!!! Wrong wrong wrong!!! Always always always, be talking to 3-5 girls. You honestly will not have time to even think about 1 of them in depth like you have been. Don't be the one getting played, be the player.

 

[ProQD]

I'm in the same situation right now. I see this girl on a regular basis and she's always suggesting we get together, I ask her out, she enthusiastically accepts, but then she cancels. She's a divorcee with kids so I cut her some slack, but I recognized the pattern. Her self esteem is super low which leads me to believe 1) she doesn't think she's good enough 2) She just likes the attention. This girl gets looks a lot of attention from guys, but always complains she can never find anyone. She's fishing for some compliments and other ego boosters. I'm not, nor am I going to be her therapist. Luckily she's not the only one I have on the line right now. The thing that helps me is to listen to what she does not what she says. I'm not going to totally cut her out (I feel she has interest), but she's going to have to put in an effort as well.