I gave her an ultimatum, was I in the wrong?

[Bokanovsky]

Well it would show pics of her ass yes ...which is why she asked me. Transformation pics

Wait, I thought you said the girl was hot? Now you're saying that she's a fatty documenting her "transformation"? I'm confused.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Ask her to make an Onlyfans with sex tapes where you don't show your face. Or upload to PornHub amateur

 

[Caelum]

I like to set my bounderies indirect. For example, if you've been treating her like a girl friend i.e bring her to parents, doing activities, basically anything except just having sex, then I would downgrade her to a plate and take it from there. If she respect you, she will stop her bs. This way, it don't come off as controlling in the same way.

 

[Lookatu]

Nothing wrong with voicing your opinions and setting boundaries as others have said.

If anything, guys should set boundaries upfront and remain steadfast. This guys, is our sh1t test to women on whether they comply or not. Better to find out sooner than later.

 

[HaleyBaron]

People (especially modern feminists) often confuse a strong masculine frame with mysogony. There is a huge difference, but society wants us to view masculinity as toxic and hateful.

This has cost me a few lays cause of my resistance to falling to them. I could have got the woman into my bed, but then I thought "maybe she didn't want to fvck anyway." And that's the thing, a lot of women don't mind walking away these days, even from guys she sees as hot or valuable.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Wait, I thought you said the girl was hot? Now you're saying that she's a fatty documenting her "transformation"? I'm confused.

This is why we should ask more for receipts. Even if it's just cut off heads of photos.

 

[captain55]

Even that's not a big deal. As long as it's tasteful and not some obvious hooker sh1t.

Plenty of "classy" girls post bikini pics. As long as they're not getting paid to give blowj0bs, I wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe I’m traumatized from living in Los Angeles. These girls get hit up constantly. Celebs bro.

Wait, I thought you said the girl was hot? Now you're saying that she's a fatty documenting her "transformation"? I'm confused.

very small changes. Nothing she could make any serious money off of I think she lost 10 pounds lol

 

[deadmasterx]

I’m a high value man, I gave up a lot of hot chicks for you, so I can make ultimatums

Ultimatums are bad when they come from a place of neediness and insecurity. I personally believe that it's a way to put women against the wall, to finish old things and start new ones. I understand that most men here aren't that into ultimatums, but it's personally what worked for me (especially when dealing with my ex).

My tips when making an ultimatum are:
01) realize why you need an ultimatum (a reason)
02) give her two ways (either in or out)
03) explain why her behaviour is undesirable for you, and that you're not gonna take it anymore
04) give her time to think (most times if you want a answer on time it comes out as needy, it's better to say something like "you have until next week to reach me out, if you don't I will take it as if you're not interested and we won't keep on seeing each other).

I could honestly care less if it comes off as controlling because I don’t want the drama that these girls with massive social media’s bring. If she would of had a big following before I met her that would be different, I’ve dated those girls... she doesn’t have the following yet.

Controlling is when you demand someone to be a certain way. You gotta be clear with the options she has. "Look, I don't like this, and I think that if you keep up doing that we won't be able to develop our relationship further". That's it.

 

[lizardking82]

If you were a "high value man" (yes, that is cool word for it nowadays LOL makes me laugh whenever I see this) and you had experience with women, you'd have smelled she is that kinda girl, the kind that wants to "show her tattas to make some money".

You're either a troll or just a guy who is playing a role that you cannot play well enough yet.

 

[TheKid]

Matter of time.

 

[Clamslammer]

This. Because this woman is going to continue doing what she wants, either in front of you or behind your back.


"Sorry hun, but this does not benefit me and I am not sticking around for it. Take care"

I would tell her:
I'm not your dad, you could do whatever you want to do. If you are with me exclusively I expect respect and everything you do is a reflection of me and vice versa everything I do is a reflection of you. If you are on social media parading your a$$ then thats a negative reflection on me. If you want to do it thats on you, I will make my decision based on that for the long term.

 

[Serenity]

I trust you but

Clearly you don't trust her with this, else you wouldn't have this objection.

That said, whether you accept her doing this or not is entirely up to your own personal boundaries. You can take it or leave it, she can take it or leave it, the pieces fall where they do, case closed.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Someone started a Receipts thread recently. Only a few guys participated.

Guys suddenly had all kinds of excuses, and reasons, why they wouldn't partake.

Nah the problem was even when us legit guys posted our pics, you simps claimed they were fake

 

[Vantagepoint34]

The girl I’m dating is hot but is trying to get a social media going to try and make money off it and asked me how I felt about it. I played it off and said “yeah as long as you spend the money you make off it on me” jokingly but I actually thought about it. I’m a high value man, I gave up a lot of hot chicks for you, so I can make ultimatums

“listen, if I’m going to be investing in you with my time and financially I don’t want the headaches and distractions of 1000 random guys messaging you trying to get at you to fly you out. I trust you but it’s just unnecessary **** and it’s also a safety risk. I don’t feel comfortable being monogamous with a woman that is still putting herself out on the market like that with sexy pics and while I realize it may seem controlling you can take it or leave it ”

I could honestly care less if it comes off as controlling because I don’t want the drama that these girls with massive social media’s bring. If she would of had a big following before I met her that would be different, I’ve dated those girls... she doesn’t have the following yet.

I’ve dated women at least two women that have had celebs hit them on ig I guess which is why I’m paranoid. Luckily they were honest and showed me but I know most girls probably wouldn’t.

Important note- she had this account before I started dating her. Not like it’s out of the blue

It's probably not what you think. There are influencers. While an influencer is going live they don't get more than "15" followers at a time during a live. Even better there is money to be made should she consider branching out to youtube. Money from commercials or endorsing a product is nothing new. For the most part common and now I'll throw this one at you. Having a girl whether in a relationship or dating that decides to take the basketball in question into her court. Is up to you if you can handle her having the reigns in a relationship. Remember before standing you ground or burning bridges we are in a modern world. Womens lib movement... women have good jobs today. Clearly it is possible to make an influencers' paycheck in this day and age with no more that 10 followers that actually follow your lady in question. You also now have the option to hide likes on insta or comments during a live. Making website more of a myspace experience. Being a celebrity is too built up in your mind so compare success to the rock and brad pitt. Both encountered outright Divorce and loss of time. Like Napoleon bonaparte says about time or however their loss of time as Celebrities has been noted. Mark whalberg today is slowly dissappearing after a breakdown. Let's just say last year most of these untouchables felt their humanity a lot more than you think. Once again both brad and dwayne have run into their eventual downfalls... So you really should dismiss your honey getting hit on. If you walk with your girl at the local market do you like other guys to look at your girl? Think about that if you see it as something good. Feeding your ego then sure do it more often, let her beef up her insta. If having your girl at your side brings you down if other men glance at her then refrain. Consider more solitary activities tennis, gold, or an arena where having a social circle helps you. Oh one more thing. If you can't handle your woman outright going behind you back for a night clubbing with the girls then reconsider following baggage, red flags, etc. all the tell tale sign you may have gone against first six months of meeting her. Hope that helps

 

[DonJuanjr]

You can't make a big deal out of showing receipts, but not show your own.

From now on, don't give anyone else a hard time for not showing any of theirs.

This, coming from a guy who makes a big deal in another thread about guys showing receipts.

Now, you're refusing to show a receipt for 'ethical' reasons?

You incels are somethin else man. Haha.

I think this was a good idea, in theory.

Truth is, it's not a very good idea to post pictures of girls you're dating without their knowledge.

Someone started a Receipts thread recently. Only a few guys participated.

Guys suddenly had all kinds of excuses, and reasons, why they wouldn't partake.

Quite the back and forth.... I don't recall you posting any receipts in that thread......

 

[Toddz]

I dated a girl that was a IG gym workout influencer. She would post photos and videos of herself working out in skimpy outfits. The thirst on her page was unimaginable. I didn't care because I was the one tapping it.

The relationship ended because she was cray cray and not a happy person in general. All these girls are highly insecure about their looks.

Is she really doing it to make money or simply seeking/needing constant validation? If it's the latter than tread lightly. It'll exhaust you and the relationship. Also the funny thing is, I find it sexier and more of a turn on when a 10/10 chick reveals less and makes you wonder. Maybe that's just me...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Ultimatums never work. How do you keep making so many rookie mistakes after being here for so long??

 

[EyeBRollin]

I don’t like your essay to her but you are 100% correct on principle.

Social media is unacceptable. Instagram especially, unless she had a prior account that has always been private.

Men, if she is chasing clout she belongs to the streets.

 

[captain55]

I don’t like your essay to her but you are 100% correct on principle.

Social media is unacceptable. Instagram especially, unless she had a prior account that has always been private.

Men, if she is chasing clout she belongs to the streets.

yeah the account was before she met me

 

[EyeBRollin]

yeah the account was before she met me

Hopefully private. And get her password.