I found out my brother is gay

[Nox]

I am positively sure that my younger brother is gay.

A year ago I was looking through his laptop, and I found some gay porns on it. Yesterday, my dad was looking through his cell phone to search for his friend number to call him, because he was gone for three days without saying anything. My dad looked through the text messages, and see a lot of messages from and sent to someone named booky.

I did not read the message, but some of the headings were, "Hi Babe...." I then look at the Drafted message to Booky and see, "I love this guy, he is so find."


I really hate fag. My family and relative do not tolerate homosexual. I know my parent won't stand for this.

I am the only person who know that he's gay. What should I do? Should I tell my parents about it. My parent is having a lot of problem with money right now. My mom is out of work, and my dad is physically tired from his job.

 

[KontrollerX]

Might as well keep it to yourself and not create anymore problems and stress for your family right now.

Also you really shouldn't hate anyone thats gay unless they do something bad to you.

In other words if you're going to hate anyone hate people that are scumbags like criminals and drug dealers and junkies oh yeah and murderers also.

You don't have to like your bro's gay lifestyle or even think about it.

Just think about him as your brother and thats it.

Also you can't be totally sure if he's gay unless you catch him making out with some dude or something.

Some people don't know how to use a computer and look at tons of porn sites without having installed any anti virus or anti spyware programs first and they don't use Mozilla Firefox either and then they foolishly go click on a pornsite and suddenly before you know it their computer is downloading porn for them and billions of pop up sites are everywhere installing sh!t and there you have it gay porn, trannies and grannies.

Also I'm not sure the draft message can be conclusive proof either.

Maybe he lent the phone to some chick friend who typed that on there or he's mocking some chick about her lust for some guy.

Who really knows but yeah again unless you catch him sucking off some guy or having his tongue down some guy's throat you just can't be sure on the current information that he bats for the other team.

 

[EFFORT]

He's your brother man and you should still be there for him and respect him even if you don't agree with his sexual orientation.

 

[Hooligan Harry]

You know he was probably born like that dont you?

 

[KarmaSutra]

What difference will it make when you're on the slab? Does Christ give a fvck? Buddha? Tolle? Crowley?

FVCK NO!​

Look at it as a blessing. He'll never be competition.

Love him for who he is, not for what you hope he will be. If your parents and your family are this ignorant then tell them to politely go play hide and go fvck themselves.

Make your own decisions based on how you feel. Not how you're pressured to feel. Otherwise you're just another in a long line of backwoods sheep.

 

[WhitePimp]

I never understood the hate for gay people. Most of them never hurt anyone, are good people, and never do PDA's with their partners in public that backwards straight morons might find weird.

If he is really gay, then accept him and let him be. He'll be much happier in his life if he doesn't have to pretend to be straight or be ostracized and hated by his family for doing what makes him happy.

 

[Johnny Soporno]

NOX - it's not his FAULT - nor his decision.

You know he was probably born like that dont you?

Precisely, Harry!

The predilection for homosexuality in men is NOT hereditary nor genetic, BUT is something which is generated in the mother while the fetus is gestating in the womb. There is nothing a fully-formed adult can do to alter their gender preference, once it has been established.

A mother responds to unknown stimuli which she collects before becoming pregnant, or during the early prenatal development, and radically enhances the estrogen generation in males to throttle population growth, or to ensure there are sufficient resources to improve the likelihood of survival for the rest of the family.


Nox, you need to accept that this is something which has taken place LONG before he was in any position even to REALIZE IT, much less alter it himself.

Cut him some slack, and be happy it didn't ALSO happen to you!

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

 

[Groovy]

I don't think that you HAVE to do something. You're YOU, he takes care of himself. You can however make it easier for him to speak up! That would benefit everyone, if he just accepted it, even himself.

If he really is gay, he should accept it and be open to it, and your family should accept it too, because what do you have to gain by not doing so?

Win win sitaution here. He opens up and is happier that he is in a such wonderful family that accepts him for what he is

And you win because you live with a positive person, (Benefits you) that isn't ashemed of what he is, (Learn from him possibly) and even so, if you can't change it, may as well not spend your energy hating him. If you're so disgusted by it (Not doing anyone any good) at the very least ignore it (Loss\Loss??).

 

[Yahooey]

It is very, very unlikely that his sexual orientation will ever change. He is going to have enough problems with the rest of the world. Family disapproval won't make it any easier. Be there for your brother.

 

[DJDamage]

Don't treat him any differently, again you have no proof he is gay (You are not gay until your put your d1ck in another dude's ass, it is the action that defines us not thoughts). There are many different reasons as to why he was looking at a gay porn site as KX said. Also the text message could have been out of context, he could have been joking around.

If he is turn out to be gay, don't treat him any differently (other then cutting out the fag jokes). You know you yourself could have been gay as well coming out of your mother's womb, it was just a luck of the draw so put yourself in his shoes. He is probably scared sh1tless that he is going to be made fun off, beat up or the scariest thought of all is being disowned by his family.

 

[Alle_Gory]

You disgust me.

He's YOUR BROTHER. This isn't his fault, and its not something he can, or should change. This is how he was born.

 

[Nox]

I am sorry about that "I hate gay" comment. I was really mad during that time. In general, I don't hate them. What I hate was my brother being gay.

He is my brother, and I still love him even though he is disrespectful to everyone. He never talk to anyone in the family. He curses at my parent, me, and my relatives every time we tried to talk to him. He complains about everything.

He is never at home, and most of the time he sleeps over at that booky's house. I usually see this guy come over at night, stayed in his room, and leaves early mourning.

 

[bud_2005]

Kick his faggy ass.

 

[Pathgen]

Honestly, i would just pretend like you don't know for now. You aren't going to change his mind about at and its too much stress for other people in the family.

If you want to be a good brother and i know this is going to go against that hatred you have of him being gay, you may want to let him know you know. Its a ****ing hard life to be gay as i have been told when nobody wants to accept you. You should want to show him support and not necessarily agree with his decision, but let him feel like you understand and have his back. I mean he is your brother that should be a ****ing tight bond.

Your not gonna be able to change him. So either try to comfort him a bit or dont say a thing if you cant handle that.

 

[speakeasy]

He is never at home, and most of the time he sleeps over at that booky's house. I usually see this guy come over at night, stayed in his room, and leaves early mourning.

Well you can assume with 100% at this point that one of them is grabbing their ankles. What can I say? He's a person like you are. Just learn to accept what he is and treat him like you would any human being.

Also, I don't know how old he is, but I'm not convinced all people who are gay were born that way. I think there are certain people, like emos or who think being gay is something "cool" and might experiment with it even if they don't have natural gay tendencies. If your brother is running around with that kind of crowd who view gayness as hip, then that might have something to do with it. People like to say it's all just about your genes and how you're born. That might be true for some gays, but it sure as hell isn't true for all of them. Why do so many guys in prison fvck each other in the ass? None of these guys were gay before they went into prison, yet the prison culture has made it acceptable for men to have sex with men without a stigma, so it happens.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

nah. i beat you on the gay video definitely.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1z6HJqIpQaQ

it's actually pretty catchy though.

 

[Johnny Soporno]

I am sorry about that "I hate gay" comment.... What I hate was my brother being gay.

You act as though it had ANYTHING to do with you?

It's NOT ABOUT YOU!

He is my brother, and I still love him even though he is disrespectful to everyone. He never talk to anyone in the family. He curses at my parent, me, and my relatives every time we tried to talk to him. He complains about everything.

Have you ever considered that HE KNOWS how your family and you feel about gay men, and is RESPONDING, IN ADVANCE, to the criticism and disappreciation he has every reason to expect from you?

You can help to fix his entire attitude, his temperament, and his disposition, by ACCEPTING HIM, publicly.


Confront him, LOVINGLY - tell him:

"Hey, I have been sensing a lot of hostility from you lately; I can tell you're carrying a lot of pent-up angst and aggression, and I wanted to tell you, AS YOUR BROTHER, that you are loved and accepted by me - and if you ever want a sympathetic ear, or there's anything I can do to help, you can let me know."

He will either respond with affectionate appreciation, disbelief and contempt, or some combination - in EITHER CASE, follow it up with:

"Listen, (his name), you seem to have overlooked something, all this time... I'm YOUR BROTHER, and your homosexuality IS NOT AN ISSUE FOR ME - I'd love you under ANY circumstance. What? You think I didn't know?! Pshaw...!"

But don't tell him how you knew! Let him believe you could just tell - this will help him to leave 'the closet' and be more upfront about it with your folks, etc.


Johnny Soporno
"Straight-But-Not-Narrow"

 

[kdnash82]

I say find out for sure before you jump to conclusions. I'd ask him straight out. Have a man to man talk and just ask seriously.

If he is, get over it. Nothing you or anyone else can do about it. I'm not saying that you are gonna have to do it in one day, but you're eventually gonna have to get over it. He is blood afterall.

If he is, another way to look at it is that he can be the perfect wing man for you. Girls will not feel threatened by him allowing him to speak highly for you.

Not sure why, but gay guys have the hottest female friends.

 

[spider_007]

don't hang around him, you might catch it.


(that was a joke - for all you guys with no sence of humor)

 

[speakeasy]

Not sure why, but gay guys have the hottest female friends.

http://www.mens-homepage.com/harmless-zone.html