I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

So here goes.

My wife and me have been married for more than a year. We get along quite well. Shes a ''good'' wife in that she cooks cleans and stays home. Weve had our ups and downs however this one is getting me thinking.

5 days ago, at work, we are speaking over the phone and suddenly theres an argument over some small problem. She doesn't like what I said regarding something and got slightly disrespectful. Before putting the phone down, i told her if she doesn't cut it out, i wont be speaking to her and will do only when i get home (which is in 4 days.) Lo and behold! she still talking chit so i just hang up. Now these small little arguments tend to happen and they get ironed out after a day or two of me ignoring her. In this situation i did not intend to ignore her for more than a day. Anyways, I blocked her (due to the annoying emotional texts that i know will be coming after hanging up.) and go about my day.

The next morning I get a knock on the front door (i stay in a care house which is part of my job) and theres my wife. Annoyed at me as to why I blocked her. I told her to leave and follow up by shutting the door on her. She left after a while and that was it. After that, i didnt hear a word from her. Normally she would harass me through private call etc however i got nothing. I decided to leave her blocked as for me she took it too far and came to my workplace.

Now, I return home after 4 days and shes got a pulled face. Nonetheless, she serves me food and then leaves for the room. Eventually I go to the room to rest and there she lying down with a pulled face. So i just ignore her. She then starts the argument again. This time I dont take her chit and literally shout at her for daring to come to my workplace. I leave the room. A few hours later i need to head back to work. As im about to leave she holds the door and asks me why I cant sit down and talk to her. I tell her i dont need to as ive made myself clear. SHe crossed the line by coming to my workplace just because I blocked her. SHe comes up with a petty argument and i tell her i dont have time. She says if i cant apologies (as i swore at her in the initial argument) then she will need to go home to her parents. I tell her that if she cant understand that she crossed the line, then she is more than welcome to leave for her parents. I then leave for work.

I go back home tomorrow morning.

EDIT: Im quite certain shes bluffing as when i came home food was made, my bag was packed and she did an online course that i needed done for speeding. I know she wants to be okay but she wants it on her terms. Thats the issue.

she is starting bull**** for no reason,this tells me she could be ****in around on the side.
i know because i heard alot of stories and it always started like this , also she knows you cant do anything but leave for a few days , perfect for her to get it on with the new guy.
when you catch her she is going to bring up all the bad things you've said in any argument and those will be her reasons for doing it.
it's time to get out of there have a calm talk with her and tell her you think you guys should go your separate ways.
im literally shocked to see what most guys here said and i disagree ,even some of the OG guys , if she wants to **** up your peace and stress you out she needs to go. married or no married tho

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

She's your wife and the way you deal with disagreements is by ignoring and blocking her instead of communicating and setting rules like a real masculine leader would do? I feel bad for her in this situation. Hopefully she has enough self respect to deal with it accordingly in this case.

its very likely that if she is his wife he tried communicating with her already and apparently she doesnt want to act like a grown woman and talk about anything, she would just rather walk around with a pulled face all day then drive him to the point where he leaves the house so she could cheat behind his back

 

[CBear]

its very likely that if she is his wife he tried communicating with her already and apparently she doesnt want to act like a grown woman and talk about anything, she would just rather walk around with a pulled face all day then drive him to the point where he leaves the house so she could cheat behind his back

It's the easiest to point fingers and jump to conclusions rather than to stay accountable. Many men expect the woman to be an angel when most men are low quality just like most women are low quality. But NO ONE can deny that a man must be a good masculine leader and the woman should follow. He blocked his wife. Don't go to most likely's and jump to conclusions that shes cheating when he did things that show that it doesn't take to much for him to lose frame and be unstable.

 

[Mister_Skinny_Jeanz]

It's the easiest to point fingers and jump to conclusions rather than to stay accountable. Many men expect the woman to be an angel when most men are low quality just like most women are low quality. But NO ONE can deny that a man must be a good masculine leader and the woman should follow. He blocked his wife. Don't go to most likely's and jump to conclusions that shes cheating when he did things that show that it doesn't take to much for him to lose frame and be unstable.

she is doing it on purpose so he can lose frame and leave , a real mature woman is open with her feelings , not pulled face and uncommunicative . we dont know anything about the past of these two , we dont know how long she has been acting like this. maybe he is tired of it , who knows really ?so dont jump to conclusions and say it's his fault either , if most men are low quality ok thats fine but nobody is forcing any woman to marry a low quality man , they walked down the isle and had no problem excepting the big ring and half his sh1t.

this is how women make it seem like its the guys fault '' oh he blocked me'' ''he left for 3 days '' but they left out the part that she slept with his brother or next door neighbor and thats why he left. or maybe she is bitching cause he took a shower and used up all the hot water , who wants to live like that?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Good for you. Your wife should not say things like this about you. Unless you really are. Your here so ill give you the benefit of the doubt.

Shouldn't be yelling at each other. Im thinking you shouldn't have married her.

A wife should obey her husband

From one of my favorite movies...

Attitude Reflects Leadership. OP is a poor leader in the relationship and that is what you end up with.

Attitude Reflects Leadership. From the movie Remember the Titans

Attitude reflects leadership. Although this video is about football it fits into business and everyday life very well. An eye opening video.

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[RickTheToad]

So here goes.

My wife and me have been married for more than a year. We get along quite well. Shes a ''good'' wife in that she cooks cleans and stays home. Weve had our ups and downs however this one is getting me thinking.

5 days ago, at work, we are speaking over the phone and suddenly theres an argument over some small problem. She doesn't like what I said regarding something and got slightly disrespectful. Before putting the phone down, i told her if she doesn't cut it out, i wont be speaking to her and will do only when i get home (which is in 4 days.) Lo and behold! she still talking chit so i just hang up. Now these small little arguments tend to happen and they get ironed out after a day or two of me ignoring her. In this situation i did not intend to ignore her for more than a day. Anyways, I blocked her (due to the annoying emotional texts that i know will be coming after hanging up.) and go about my day.

The next morning I get a knock on the front door (i stay in a care house which is part of my job) and theres my wife. Annoyed at me as to why I blocked her. I told her to leave and follow up by shutting the door on her. She left after a while and that was it. After that, i didnt hear a word from her. Normally she would harass me through private call etc however i got nothing. I decided to leave her blocked as for me she took it too far and came to my workplace.

Now, I return home after 4 days and shes got a pulled face. Nonetheless, she serves me food and then leaves for the room. Eventually I go to the room to rest and there she lying down with a pulled face. So i just ignore her. She then starts the argument again. This time I dont take her chit and literally shout at her for daring to come to my workplace. I leave the room. A few hours later i need to head back to work. As im about to leave she holds the door and asks me why I cant sit down and talk to her. I tell her i dont need to as ive made myself clear. SHe crossed the line by coming to my workplace just because I blocked her. SHe comes up with a petty argument and i tell her i dont have time. She says if i cant apologies (as i swore at her in the initial argument) then she will need to go home to her parents. I tell her that if she cant understand that she crossed the line, then she is more than welcome to leave for her parents. I then leave for work.

I go back home tomorrow morning.

EDIT: Im quite certain shes bluffing as when i came home food was made, my bag was packed and she did an online course that i needed done for speeding. I know she wants to be okay but she wants it on her terms. Thats the issue.

1) This is common as she already has the ring and the license. She knows she has more power over you; especially if you're the sole breadwinner.

2) Prob. not the best the best to hang up on her. You should had said, I am not going to take the way you are talking to me. You are being very disrespectful, now apologize (she should). If she doesn't, then it's a respect issue from her to you. If she doesn't, you just say, we'll talk about this when I get home. Until then, think about your actions and good bye.

3) Shouldn't of slammed the door on her. You could had used that opportunity to discuss the disrespect.

4) Never yell or lose your temper. This takes practice and time to learn and master. You never want to allow her actions to take you off center.

5) If she wants to go to her parents, say, you know what, that's a good idea. Some time apart will allow both of us to think.

You need to work on your self control dude. We all have been there many of times. You are not the first, and will certainly not be the last.